Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 Sorry, but this is going to be a bit of a pouring out session! DS has gone to stay with my mum so that we have an opportunity to pack without little hands helping, and I didn't realise how much I would miss him! This is ridiculous, he only went at 7pm and I have can hardly see the keyboard for tears! Phoned to see that he was Ok and he said 'bye muummmmeeee' (Night Night) and that just did it! He hasn't stayed away for nearly a year and it just seems that this time he really knows what it is all about! He had his bag packed with his little dolly (boy), Video, books and toybox comic! And looked so grown up!! I know that we have already packed most of the Kitchen, upstairs cupboards and lounge Pictures etc ready for next Friday, but that really doesn't seem like much of a consolation to going in and seeing him sleeping peacefully! I know that some of you will be thinking 'pull yourself together and enjoy the peace' cos I would have thought that before he left! But it is awful!!!!!!!!!! Never again will I tell anyone to enjoy the peace while their kids are away! Anyway, now I have put you all through my misery I will go and pull myself together and get on with the packing before DH gets back from the offie' and moans that I am chatting! Thanks for the shoulder(s) Kirsten Very lonely and sad and eating lots of chocolate. Mum to (23 months) Step-mom to Shelby (6yrs) Trainee ANT, and Memb-sec Woking and Knaphill Branches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 > Sorry, but this is going to be a bit of a pouring out session! Don't worry - we've all been there! I some times get all tearful when i drop Joe off at Nursery (or did as he finished today) as he is so sweet and a dear little thing, and the house is far too quiet when i get home! I suppose we should be grateful that we are such caring mums! Caroline Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 > DS has gone to stay with my mum so that we have an opportunity to pack > without little hands helping, and I didn't realise how much I would > miss him It's damn hard being a Mum isn't it? When they are with you at times you wish they would disappear and when they are gone you wonder around with nothing to do. I have a lovely book out of the library at the moment called, " Don't Be Afraid Little Foal " and the long and short of it is, the mummy horse says that the foal will not want her one day and this frightens the foal, but sure enough one day mummy horse goes back to work (giving rides) and the little foal ends up running around the field chasing a butterfly. The mummy horse asks him if he thought of her whilst she was gone, he says yes but he hadn't. the mummy horse replies " That's good, as for me, I was thinking of you all the time! " I suppose we will all have to face this being mothers, but it does give us insight into how our parents feel about us. - thoughtful mode Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 The mummy >horse asks him if he thought of her whilst she was gone, he says yes but he >hadn't. the mummy horse replies " That's good, as for me, I was thinking of >you all the time! " > >I suppose we will all have to face this being mothers, but it does give us >insight into how our parents feel about us. > > - thoughtful mode > Thanks , This does reassure me that if my parents feel about me as strongly about me, as I feel about DS, they will look after him well for me tonight!!! Kirsten Feeling a bit better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 It`s a very emotional time for you anyway, Kirsten - moving home! and children always sound so cute on the phone, don`t they!! Please - sob awaay.... Good luck for tomorrow and hope all goes well with the move, concentrate on making your new house into your lovely home Barbara xxxx > Sorry, but this is going to be a bit of a pouring out session! > > Kirsten Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 > >> DS has gone to stay with my mum so that we have an opportunity to pack >> without little hands helping, and I didn't realise how much I would >> miss him > >It's damn hard being a Mum isn't it? >When they are with you at times you wish they would disappear and when they >are gone you wonder around with nothing to do. There is a lovely book called Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott in which she describes her feelings of love for her sleeping child and then " he opens one reptilian eye... " -- jennifer@... Vaudin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 > >> DS has gone to stay with my mum so that we have an opportunity to pack >> without little hands helping, and I didn't realise how much I would >> miss him > >It's damn hard being a Mum isn't it? >When they are with you at times you wish they would disappear and when they >are gone you wonder around with nothing to do. There is a lovely book called Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott in which she describes her feelings of love for her sleeping child and then " he opens one reptilian eye... " -- jennifer@... Vaudin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 20, 2001 Report Share Posted July 20, 2001 > >> DS has gone to stay with my mum so that we have an opportunity to pack >> without little hands helping, and I didn't realise how much I would >> miss him > >It's damn hard being a Mum isn't it? >When they are with you at times you wish they would disappear and when they >are gone you wonder around with nothing to do. There is a lovely book called Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott in which she describes her feelings of love for her sleeping child and then " he opens one reptilian eye... " -- jennifer@... Vaudin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2001 Report Share Posted July 21, 2001 Never again will I tell anyone to enjoy the peace > while their kids are away! Well, I've had a wonderful week of peace and quiet as my stroppy teen has been away at a PGL camp in Cheshire (poor Cheshire!) for a whole blissful week!! She's back later today and I know we will start arguing 5 minutes after she walks through the door. Oh well, only another 46 days before term starts again!! Akiko NW London Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2001 Report Share Posted July 21, 2001 > Never again will I tell anyone to enjoy the peace >> while their kids are away! > >Well, I've had a wonderful week of peace and quiet as my stroppy teen >has been away at a PGL camp in Cheshire (poor Cheshire!) for a whole >blissful week!! She's back later today and I know we will start >arguing 5 minutes after she walks through the door. Oh well, only >another 46 days before term starts again!! Maybe it does depend on their age! Kirsten Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2001 Report Share Posted July 21, 2001 Oh, Akiko - I'm so glad it's not just me that feels like this!! I have organised DD1's holiday so she only has about 4 weekdays at home with nothing structured to do. And I *bet* she spends those 4 days and most of the weekends lounging around, being bored, and goading the younger kids! Won't it be lovely when they've grown up??!! Vicki Portman http://www.plushpants.co.uk > > Well, I've had a wonderful week of peace and quiet as my stroppy teen > has been away at a PGL camp in Cheshire (poor Cheshire!) for a whole > blissful week!! She's back later today and I know we will start > arguing 5 minutes after she walks through the door. Oh well, only > another 46 days before term starts again!! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2001 Report Share Posted July 21, 2001 > Oh, Akiko - I'm so glad it's not just me that feels like this!! I have > organised DD1's holiday so she only has about 4 weekdays at home with > nothing structured to do. And I *bet* she spends those 4 days and most of > the weekends lounging around, being bored, and goading the younger kids! > > Won't it be lovely when they've grown up??!! Yes, I was beginning to wonder if I was an unnatural mother! Akiko Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2001 Report Share Posted July 21, 2001 > Never again will I tell anyone to enjoy the peace > > while their kids are away! > > Well, I've had a wonderful week of peace and quiet as my stroppy teen > has been away at a PGL camp in Cheshire (poor Cheshire!) for a whole > blissful week!! She's back later today and I know we will start > arguing 5 minutes after she walks through the door. Oh well, only > another 46 days before term starts again!! > > Akiko > NW London Sabbath was OK but for some reason I felt depressed. It was nice to talk to Zehava who's off to NY tomorrow for ten days. Later on Yeshaya brought home about 8 boys who stayed till after 11 tonight, and since then he's been in a really weird mood; aggressive and irritable. I *hate* it when he says " that's nice " in a sarky voice to whatever I say. Teenagers! Grrr. And what's worse is my regular visit to Tammy's when she pontificates on how to bring up teenagers from a standpoint of complete ignorance. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2001 Report Share Posted July 21, 2001 > Never again will I tell anyone to enjoy the peace > > while their kids are away! > > Well, I've had a wonderful week of peace and quiet as my stroppy teen > has been away at a PGL camp in Cheshire (poor Cheshire!) for a whole > blissful week!! She's back later today and I know we will start > arguing 5 minutes after she walks through the door. Oh well, only > another 46 days before term starts again!! > > Akiko > NW London Sabbath was OK but for some reason I felt depressed. It was nice to talk to Zehava who's off to NY tomorrow for ten days. Later on Yeshaya brought home about 8 boys who stayed till after 11 tonight, and since then he's been in a really weird mood; aggressive and irritable. I *hate* it when he says " that's nice " in a sarky voice to whatever I say. Teenagers! Grrr. And what's worse is my regular visit to Tammy's when she pontificates on how to bring up teenagers from a standpoint of complete ignorance. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 21, 2001 Report Share Posted July 21, 2001 > Never again will I tell anyone to enjoy the peace > > while their kids are away! > > Well, I've had a wonderful week of peace and quiet as my stroppy teen > has been away at a PGL camp in Cheshire (poor Cheshire!) for a whole > blissful week!! She's back later today and I know we will start > arguing 5 minutes after she walks through the door. Oh well, only > another 46 days before term starts again!! > > Akiko > NW London Sabbath was OK but for some reason I felt depressed. It was nice to talk to Zehava who's off to NY tomorrow for ten days. Later on Yeshaya brought home about 8 boys who stayed till after 11 tonight, and since then he's been in a really weird mood; aggressive and irritable. I *hate* it when he says " that's nice " in a sarky voice to whatever I say. Teenagers! Grrr. And what's worse is my regular visit to Tammy's when she pontificates on how to bring up teenagers from a standpoint of complete ignorance. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 Ruthie wrote: > And what's worse is my regular visit to Tammy's when she pontificates > on how to bring up teenagers from a standpoint of complete ignorance.>>>>>>>>>>>>> Will you be one of those mothers who, when Tammy has teenagers, sits there and smiles knowingly?! Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 > > > And what's worse is my regular visit to Tammy's when she > pontificates > > on how to bring up teenagers from a standpoint of complete > ignorance.>>>>>>>>>>>>> > > > Will you be one of those mothers who, when Tammy has teenagers, sits > there and smiles knowingly?! > > Trisha > SAHM to 3 boys You put no smileys or emoticons, Trisha, so I am not sure if you are being amused or irritated at what I said. I am not a " I told you so " mother. I don't smile now when I see how different actuality of her own children is to her prejudgment on me bringing up my *small* kids. When she was still an unmarried teenage girl at home she would tell me how much less spoilt/better behaved etc her own children would be and how badly I was bringing up her younger siblings. She has lovely children and she puts the effort into them, but they certainly are spoilt and badly behaved. Just like mine were in fact! All 18 month old Shira has to do is point and whinge and she gets everything from coca cola to chocolate cake, even if she hasn't eaten her supper! I don't smile knowingly, I just sit and think: " so I wasn't SUCH a terrible mother then! " I was much less strict with the later kids than the earlier ones...encroaching old age and sheer exhaustion probably, but the older ones resented what their younger siblings got away with! I certainly don't wish difficult teens on my daughters. All I wanted was some appreciation of the difficulties, rather than condemnation of my methods. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 > > > And what's worse is my regular visit to Tammy's when she > pontificates > > on how to bring up teenagers from a standpoint of complete > ignorance.>>>>>>>>>>>>> > > > Will you be one of those mothers who, when Tammy has teenagers, sits > there and smiles knowingly?! > > Trisha > SAHM to 3 boys You put no smileys or emoticons, Trisha, so I am not sure if you are being amused or irritated at what I said. I am not a " I told you so " mother. I don't smile now when I see how different actuality of her own children is to her prejudgment on me bringing up my *small* kids. When she was still an unmarried teenage girl at home she would tell me how much less spoilt/better behaved etc her own children would be and how badly I was bringing up her younger siblings. She has lovely children and she puts the effort into them, but they certainly are spoilt and badly behaved. Just like mine were in fact! All 18 month old Shira has to do is point and whinge and she gets everything from coca cola to chocolate cake, even if she hasn't eaten her supper! I don't smile knowingly, I just sit and think: " so I wasn't SUCH a terrible mother then! " I was much less strict with the later kids than the earlier ones...encroaching old age and sheer exhaustion probably, but the older ones resented what their younger siblings got away with! I certainly don't wish difficult teens on my daughters. All I wanted was some appreciation of the difficulties, rather than condemnation of my methods. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 I wrote: > > Will you be one of those mothers who, when Tammy has teenagers, sits > > there and smiles knowingly?! >Ruthie replied > You put no smileys or emoticons, Trisha, so I am not sure if you are > being amused or irritated at what I said. >>>>>>>>>>>>> Sorry I was amused at Tammy been the all knowing person, when she has not already been there. It is so easy for us to do that. I think thats why we can't really appreicate your problems with your sons, until you are in that position it is hard to do it. I could just imagine you sat there thinking - " its different now its your own children " , whether you would actually voice that is another matter. It was meant as a funny, nothing you say irritates me. It is just a different version of life and I for one love reading your messages. Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 I wrote: > > Will you be one of those mothers who, when Tammy has teenagers, sits > > there and smiles knowingly?! >Ruthie replied > You put no smileys or emoticons, Trisha, so I am not sure if you are > being amused or irritated at what I said. >>>>>>>>>>>>> Sorry I was amused at Tammy been the all knowing person, when she has not already been there. It is so easy for us to do that. I think thats why we can't really appreicate your problems with your sons, until you are in that position it is hard to do it. I could just imagine you sat there thinking - " its different now its your own children " , whether you would actually voice that is another matter. It was meant as a funny, nothing you say irritates me. It is just a different version of life and I for one love reading your messages. Trisha SAHM to 3 boys Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 Sorry I was amused at Tammy been the all knowing person, when she has > not already been there. It is so easy for us to do that. > > I think thats why we can't really appreicate your problems with your > sons, until you are in that position it is hard to do it. > > I could just imagine you sat there thinking - " its different now its > your own children " , whether you would actually voice that is another > matter. > > It was meant as a funny, nothing you say irritates me. It is just a > different version of life and I for one love reading your messages. > > Trisha > SAHM to 3 boys Ah thanks Trisha :-)) Today I had a lovely compliment from Tammy for a change! I went with her to 5 y.o 's sort of Jewish studies presentation at school, where he and all the little boys in his class stood on benches, wore a Hebrew letter as a hat, and recited something from the Torah. It was very cute and there were a few other grannies like me there besides all the doting parents. Anyway, a woman I know came up to me and said : " I was wondering what *YOU* were doing here Ruthie, then I realised, it must be a grandchild! " So I said : " Yes, and there's the Barmitzvah of my first grandson coming up soon! " so the woman said " and you look so young! " When she had gone Tammy said to me: " you do look so young Mummy. I just hope I look as young when I am your age. " Aww. For a moment I rationalised the compliment inside my head, into " yea well it's cos I'm fat, and fat women have less wrinkles " , but I decided to just enjoy it for what it was! ) Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 Sorry I was amused at Tammy been the all knowing person, when she has > not already been there. It is so easy for us to do that. > > I think thats why we can't really appreicate your problems with your > sons, until you are in that position it is hard to do it. > > I could just imagine you sat there thinking - " its different now its > your own children " , whether you would actually voice that is another > matter. > > It was meant as a funny, nothing you say irritates me. It is just a > different version of life and I for one love reading your messages. > > Trisha > SAHM to 3 boys Ah thanks Trisha :-)) Today I had a lovely compliment from Tammy for a change! I went with her to 5 y.o 's sort of Jewish studies presentation at school, where he and all the little boys in his class stood on benches, wore a Hebrew letter as a hat, and recited something from the Torah. It was very cute and there were a few other grannies like me there besides all the doting parents. Anyway, a woman I know came up to me and said : " I was wondering what *YOU* were doing here Ruthie, then I realised, it must be a grandchild! " So I said : " Yes, and there's the Barmitzvah of my first grandson coming up soon! " so the woman said " and you look so young! " When she had gone Tammy said to me: " you do look so young Mummy. I just hope I look as young when I am your age. " Aww. For a moment I rationalised the compliment inside my head, into " yea well it's cos I'm fat, and fat women have less wrinkles " , but I decided to just enjoy it for what it was! ) Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 ->>It's damn hard being a Mum isn't it? >>When they are with you at times you wish they would disappear and when they >>are gone you wonder around with nothing to do. > > >There is a lovely book called Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott >in which she describes her feelings of love for her sleeping child >and then " he opens one reptilian eye... " > Nice!!!;-))) Kirsten Mum to (23 months) Step-mom to Shelby (6yrs) Trainee ANT, and Memb-sec Woking and Knaphill Branches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 ->>It's damn hard being a Mum isn't it? >>When they are with you at times you wish they would disappear and when they >>are gone you wonder around with nothing to do. > > >There is a lovely book called Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott >in which she describes her feelings of love for her sleeping child >and then " he opens one reptilian eye... " > Nice!!!;-))) Kirsten Mum to (23 months) Step-mom to Shelby (6yrs) Trainee ANT, and Memb-sec Woking and Knaphill Branches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 22, 2001 Report Share Posted July 22, 2001 ->>It's damn hard being a Mum isn't it? >>When they are with you at times you wish they would disappear and when they >>are gone you wonder around with nothing to do. > > >There is a lovely book called Operating Instructions by Anne Lamott >in which she describes her feelings of love for her sleeping child >and then " he opens one reptilian eye... " > Nice!!!;-))) Kirsten Mum to (23 months) Step-mom to Shelby (6yrs) Trainee ANT, and Memb-sec Woking and Knaphill Branches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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