Re: Sex and kids

[Guest guest]

That is why I have made a point of discussing it with

> my daughter (now 8) and will continue to do so, plus buy her a good

> book once she gets to about 10 or 11 (I have seen one called " The

> Period Book " , anybody know what it's like?) just in case there is

> something she doesn't want to ask me or just to fill her in on

> anything I might have forgotten.

>

> Lorraine

> Mum to 10, Natasha 8, 5, ph 3>

We have that book and my girls have found it quite handy to look up

things that I might not have mentioned. Sometimes it is difficult to

remember just how frightening it can be when periods first start and

the daft things you can worry about.

We have had a variety of books over the years starting with Usbourne

Guides to Growing Up to a Dictionary of Sex (quite explicit but good

for older ones).

There was no talking of sex in our house. When I was 11 and due to go

to secondary school I came home to find a book under my pillow called

Claire Rayners Guide to Growing Up which my mother had stuck

envelopes over the front and back covers so you could not see what it

was about unless you opened it. I read it avidly from cover to cover

but it was never mentioned until the following year when she asked me

to pass it onto my brother.

I was the girl at school who everyone came to for the truth about sex

and puberty but who didn't have any idea what teenage boys meant by

jamrags or bun in the oven.:-)))

Donna

[Guest guest]

> Wow Angi Georgi sounds like she is really asking a lot of

questions. Phoebe is just not interested in stuff like that. the

biggest I get is mummy why isn't poppins wearing trousers???

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

>

Kara has been through the questions and she now does giving birth

demonstrations on the floor with her doll :-)))

Donna

[Guest guest]

> Wow Angi Georgi sounds like she is really asking a lot of

questions. Phoebe is just not interested in stuff like that. the

biggest I get is mummy why isn't poppins wearing trousers???

> Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

>

Kara has been through the questions and she now does giving birth

demonstrations on the floor with her doll :-)))

Donna

[Guest guest]

Donna wrote:

broke down and said that he thought he needed to go to the doctors as

> he obviously had a venereal disease as he had this horrible

discharge

> at night. People thought it was very amusing but I thought it was

> very sad to have got to that age and have no idea of what happens

to

> your body.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

I agree it is very sad - legally he could get married at that age - I

would always want my boys to know what is going on - otherwise it

also leaves them open to be bullied.

Trisha

SAHM to 3 boys

[Guest guest]

> >>Perhaps it is being Danish (sex is talked about very differently in

> Denmark than I have found it in England) but I do not remember ever

> not knowing about sex and how babies was made.

Like wise I've always known. Dad says if I asked I was told. Since why was

my favourite word, I asked before I was old enough to be embarrassed.

> Georgi was only 12-21 months when I was pg with Susy, but she grasped

> the fact of the baby being inside me and always came to my antenatals

> and " helped " the m/w feel the baby and hear the hb... she loved the

> scan too:-)

did too, she still insists on listening to Issy's heart beat

sometimes.

> She wants to know stuff like how the baby grow and what it eats before

> it drinks mummy milk... so we talked about food making good things

> that go round in the blood to make us grow, and that includes babies

> inside too... she seemed to get that OK too for now!!

I've had to try and explain this to too, since a) she walked in 2

minutes after her sister was born At the time I thought she was watching the

baby, but she also saw at least some of the placenta been delivered*. and

she is fascinated by belly buttons (aren't all toddlers). She seemed to get

the idea that the baby got food from mummy down the cord and that it wasn't

needed once the baby was born.

(*BTW is just young enough not to realise that blood is frightening. I

know slightly older children who I would not have let in)

Sue Hutchinson, Mum to 30/01/98 and Isobel (HB) 23/02/01

[Guest guest]

> >>Perhaps it is being Danish (sex is talked about very differently in

> Denmark than I have found it in England) but I do not remember ever

> not knowing about sex and how babies was made.

Like wise I've always known. Dad says if I asked I was told. Since why was

my favourite word, I asked before I was old enough to be embarrassed.

> Georgi was only 12-21 months when I was pg with Susy, but she grasped

> the fact of the baby being inside me and always came to my antenatals

> and " helped " the m/w feel the baby and hear the hb... she loved the

> scan too:-)

did too, she still insists on listening to Issy's heart beat

sometimes.

> She wants to know stuff like how the baby grow and what it eats before

> it drinks mummy milk... so we talked about food making good things

> that go round in the blood to make us grow, and that includes babies

> inside too... she seemed to get that OK too for now!!

I've had to try and explain this to too, since a) she walked in 2

minutes after her sister was born At the time I thought she was watching the

baby, but she also saw at least some of the placenta been delivered*. and

she is fascinated by belly buttons (aren't all toddlers). She seemed to get

the idea that the baby got food from mummy down the cord and that it wasn't

needed once the baby was born.

(*BTW is just young enough not to realise that blood is frightening. I

know slightly older children who I would not have let in)

Sue Hutchinson, Mum to 30/01/98 and Isobel (HB) 23/02/01