SAHMs

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In a message dated 8/4/01 5:23:31 AM W. Australia Standard Time, Karina

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> Please can you all tell me what's the BEST reason to become a SAHM?

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Because you want to.

If you do it for any other reason, or any other person other than yourself -

you will always feel that you have compromised or feel guilty (or both).

Debbie Slater

Perth, WA

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I went back to work as an accountant P/T (3 days) when DS was 4 mths.

I was lucky that my work (and my employer) was flexible enough. DS

went to nursery for 4 days which meant I got a me-day (not pure

indulgence as it includes doing DH's accounts work) and the 5th day

was an us-day. It's been like that ever since, even though I'm in a

different job now.

I couldn't be a SAHM, I know I couldn't, but I am now wondering if I

should SAH a bit more than I do. It's started to hit home that he

starts school in a year - and after that I sort of lose control of him

for ever (by that I mean, up until then I have complete choice about

what time I spend with him).

It is bugging me, but the times that he stays at home (eg in the

morning if I only work in the afternoon) then he ends up playing on

his own (which he is very good at/happy with) and I faff/potter

around. So even that opportunity gets " wasted " simply because I'm not

" used " to being at home with him. On our us-day we nearly always do

food shopping in the morning then NCT coffee event in the afternoon,

so I don't even have to think of things to do then either.

There isn't ever a right answer to these questions - I know I'm in

this kind of dilemma over it too, but for different reasons to Karina

and I am able to change my situation easily, but I'm not, so I guess

I'm either " scared " by the thought of entertaining an active 3.5 year

old, or not actually that bothered. Still not sure which it is - and

probably by the time I do, he'll have started school and I'll have

missed my chance and be feeling guilty.

Todman

Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

Mum to , 3½

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> > Please can you all tell me what's the BEST reason to become a

SAHM?