Re: Manners! was RSVP was Another wash-out

[Guest guest]

I got one of these RSVP's for a kiddies party recently - had not heard of it

before. I was on the phone like a shot!! so I will adopt it from now on.

DD's b'day is in xmas hols, so never have a clue how many to expect, and

often people are away or forget - really c**p (I always reply). One year

one family excelled itself - no RSVP, father turned up 1 & 1/2 hrs late with

invitee & sibling (not known to us). Left both kids immediately (didn't ask

if it was OK by me to leave uninvited child) and was (predictably) last to

pick up - no exaggeration, but at least they remembered a present...

But have to admit, thank u cards are not my strong point. V hit & miss. I

never expect it from friends or friends kids myself - its a reciprocal

thing, I think - but think I should do it with more distant relatives and my

parents friends - who are always generous to DD... feeling guilty now as I

don't always live up to this.

Leaving the TV on when visitors come round is beyond the pale tho'. SO

would have to be exceptional company to ever get another visit (excepted

when on for fractious kiddies). I am watching far too much of it at the

moment, but handy breastfeeding companion - but I usually

switch down/off even for phone calls, Leaving it on is like saying you're

not interested enough in the other person to give them your full

attention...

Are these all v old-fashioned / middleclass values? - not that I really

care if I'm that, just interested... (And compared to my upbringing, I am

sooo relaxed!!)

Old fogey - Siobhan

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> Since then I have adopted a friend's tactic of saying " RSVP by [date

> about a week before the party]; if you do not we will assume you are

> not coming