Re: Moderators was GOODBYE

[Guest guest]

Um, I think I ought to point out that is still listed as a

member on the website so does not appear to have unsubbed and might

feel uncomfortable with us talking about her. I would be very

surprised if any of the moderators has said anything offensive or

hurtful, especially if it was over the scenario Lesley suggested.

Obviously, the moderator can't comment as it was a private

correspondence between her and .

The moderators do try to act in the interests of everyone and it is a

lot nicer to have someone email you privately to say " please change

the subject heading " or " please don't include the whole digest in

your reply " than to have someone say this onlist. The alternative is

to have an unmoderated list which personally I don't think I would be

comfortable with.

Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting messages,

perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they have to

point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would know

what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators

voluntary) work?

Lesley

ANT, tr BFC, Mother, Wife, Friend, Mender of Broken Hearts,

Keeper of Secrets, Chauffeur, Cook, Maid, Writer. Overweight, Over

thirty, Over here in Worthing..

" Believing Oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional

mind! " Star Trek.

Re: Re: GOODBYE

> Yes as Caroline said she suffered from very bad pnd and has only

within the last 6 months begun to think that she would make it out of

the pnd so she probably does feel very fragile and things that might

be meant in a sarky or perhaps put badly can for her seem like

something very different.. I have met her several times and she a is

lovely humorous lady but very emotional still about things she feels

goes wrongly.. So this is why I am really worried about her.. I

emailed her asking if she felt this was a permanent thing or if she

might come back but she has not replied yet so we will see..

> I told her to keep in contact though and I am pretty sure she will..

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 24/08/2001 12:13:43 GMT Daylight Time,

jenny@... writes:

> Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting messages,

> perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they have to

> point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would know

> what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators

> voluntary) work?

>

>

I have never seen a list of rules, could you email me the list please?

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 24/08/2001 12:13:43 GMT Daylight Time,

jenny@... writes:

> Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting messages,

> perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they have to

> point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would know

> what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators

> voluntary) work?

>

>

I have never seen a list of rules, could you email me the list please?

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 24/08/2001 12:13:43 GMT Daylight Time,

jenny@... writes:

> Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting messages,

> perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they have to

> point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would know

> what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators

> voluntary) work?

>

>

I have never seen a list of rules, could you email me the list please?

[Guest guest]

No I can't because there isn't one! See Joyce's post. Rather than

having all this constant bickering about who said what to whom and

whether they should have said it on or offlist why don't you make up a

set of rules you can all be reminded about regularly and then blooming

stick to it.

I say you, because I am unsubbing from this list. I am sick and tired

of breaking up fights between small children and then coming here and

finding adults who should know better demonstrating the same type of

adolescent behaviour. And please, please note this is not a Goodbye

in the " I'm leaving unless you all be terribly nice to me " petulant

manner that has been demonstrated recently. My life has moved on and

this last two weeks has proved to me that I really don't need the

irritation that Ruthie and have provoked. This list was meant

for enjoyment and escape from the daily grind and its no longer

performing that function for me.

My very, very best wishes to all of you who have given me so much

pleasure and companionship over the last couple of years but I need to

concentrate on finishing my bfc training and I start an aromatherapy

course in January. If anyone wants my column on a weekly basis I

am happy to add you to my mailing list

Bye all.

Lesley

ANT, tr BFC, Mother, Wife, Friend, Mender of Broken Hearts,

Keeper of Secrets, Chauffeur, Cook, Maid, Writer. Overweight, Over

thirty, Over here in Worthing..

" Believing Oneself to be perfect is often the sign of a delusional

mind! " Star Trek.

Re: Moderators was GOODBYE

> In a message dated 24/08/2001 12:13:43 GMT Daylight Time,

> jenny@... writes:

>

>

> > Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting

messages,

> > perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they

have to

> > point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would

know

> > what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators

> > voluntary) work?

> >

> >

> I have never seen a list of rules, could you email me the list

please?

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Just to say I have just finished a Diploma in Aromatherapy and really

enjoyed it, good luck.

Sorry to see you go but I think many of us can relate to your posting,

and have thought the same!

Hope you are happy with whatever you decide

Kirsten

Re: Moderators was GOODBYE

>

>

> > In a message dated 24/08/2001 12:13:43 GMT Daylight Time,

> > jenny@... writes:

> >

> >

> > > Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting

> messages,

> > > perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they

> have to

> > > point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would

> know

> > > what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators

> > > voluntary) work?

> > >

> > >

> > I have never seen a list of rules, could you email me the list

> please?

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

> No I can't because there isn't one! See Joyce's post. Rather than

> having all this constant bickering about who said what to whom and

> whether they should have said it on or offlist why don't you make

And please, please note this is not a

Goodbye

> in the " I'm leaving unless you all be terribly nice to me " petulant

> manner that has been demonstrated recently. My life has moved on

and

> this last two weeks has proved to me that I really don't need the

> irritation that Ruthie and have provoked.

I honestly thought that the irritations I have caused had been put to

rest and we have moved on, but it seems not. I have tried to avoid

talking about my religion, or politics or all of the other things

people objected to. I am not going to be petulant or ask anyone to

be nice to me, but I admit to feeling unsure of my welcome on this

forum after this, and a few more posts like it. If people are STILL

unsubscribing because of me maybe this isn't the right place for me

to be.

I don't want to leave, but at the same time, it seems that whatever I

write, I am annoying someone. I didn't consider my behaviour

adolescent. I tried very hard to rectify anything which had offended

or irritated. What is still annoying everyone, that people are

unsubscribing bc of me?

Be honest. Am I sticking out like a sore thumb here and would you all

rather I left? If so I will. And I am not being petulant, only

honest and expecting the same.

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

Ruthie,

Don't worry, everything's fine. But please consider contributing to

the development of list rules and to the role of list moderator.

Thanks, Joyce

[Guest guest]

Ruthie,

Don't worry, everything's fine. But please consider contributing to

the development of list rules and to the role of list moderator.

Thanks, Joyce

[Guest guest]

> Ruthie,

>

> Don't worry, everything's fine. But please consider contributing

to

> the development of list rules and to the role of list moderator.

>

> Thanks, Joyce

Gladly. What do I have to do?

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

> Ruthie,

>

> Don't worry, everything's fine. But please consider contributing

to

> the development of list rules and to the role of list moderator.

>

> Thanks, Joyce

Gladly. What do I have to do?

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

> Ruthie,

>

> Don't worry, everything's fine. But please consider contributing

to

> the development of list rules and to the role of list moderator.

>

> Thanks, Joyce

Gladly. What do I have to do?

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

Just make a list of what you think would make good rules. Then we can put

the contributions together and formalise them into an FAQ for the group.

-----Original Message-----

From: ruthie@... [sMTP:ruthie@...]

Gladly. What do I have to do?

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

Ruthie

I think your latest postings have been fine. I don't recall anything

that could have upset anyone.

I really do not think there is a problem if you continue as you are

and I suspect the references made relate to the earlier " problems " .

Hang in there

Todman

Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

Mum to , 3½

> What is still annoying everyone, that people are

> unsubscribing bc of me?

>

> Be honest. Am I sticking out like a sore thumb here and would you

all

> rather I left? If so I will. And I am not being petulant, only

> honest and expecting the same.

>