Guest guest Posted July 4, 2001 Report Share Posted July 4, 2001 asked: I know NCT Mums may not be representative of the female population as a whole but generally when would you like people to come and visit your newborn first. Well frankly I saw it as a chore to endure: so I got everyone to arrive in batches, several at once over the first week then had NO-ONE for a week which was great so DH and I could enjoy our new family. Found getting several to come at same time same day was easier - 'could you stick the kettle on for us?', and 'could you make a few sandwiches, the stuff is in the fridge..' as well as 'I don't suppose you could stick the hoover round please only my mum's friend is coming shortly and I'd like it to look a bit tidier'. And those that deigned to phone first got asked 'well if you're coming tomorrow afternoon, would you be able to get me some milk, some bread and some tea bags, and if you see any could you please get some strawberries and cream too' you sound a bit cheesed off, but I am sure your neighbour has a lot to adjust to esp if its a first baby. Although you say you'd have liked more visitors, and maybe just a very few more might have been nice, believe me when your house is constantly full of at least 6 other people for 3 days (including those who came to see DD and stayed the night ) you really want to disappear and leave them to it. Then to top it all you get the midwife calling, and wanting to wake your baby up to weigh her (baby has just gone to sleep for the first time that day and its now afternoon) and you really would rather she slept for a few minutes so you could clear up around the current lot of visitors to get things ready for the next round of visitors. Why don't you pop a card through the door saying you'd love to see the new baby but appreciate she's busy and ask if there is anything you can do or shopping you can get for her? I know I'd have appreciated that, and i'm sure when things are a wee bit more settled you'll get a chance to have a cuddle. Miranda who isn't pregnant but then as her gynae said 'well you're getting a bit old now' Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2001 Report Share Posted July 5, 2001 < > Personally I have always been desperate to show of my new babies and always felt a little sad that people was being so polite and keeping out of the way, I love it when they pop over but then it just does not worry me that the carpet perhaps needs cleaning or the windows may need to get finger marks taken off. I think I am on such a high after giving birth that the only thing I can see is my baby and how wonderful she is anything else seems to pale in insignificance (apart from last time where I also was busy falling in love with Phoebe all over again because she was being such a lovely sister) My friend much expressed the same view and rang me from hosp saying WHEN are you coming to see me (3 hours after giving birth) I want to to meet Tim.. (needless to say I arrived as soon as I had got dh back home to look after the girls..) I think perhaps for me it has a lot to do with the fact that no one over stayed their welcome they popped in stayed for a max of 30 mins and left again and it was just lovely... I really enjoyed it both times and this time hope that it will be the same ;o) Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama & expecting a Christmas delivery... My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you start. So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake. I feel better already. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2001 Report Share Posted July 5, 2001 > I think perhaps for me it has a lot to do with the fact that no one over stayed their welcome they popped in stayed for a max of 30 mins and left again and it was just lovely... I really enjoyed it both times and this time hope that it will be the same ;o) I'll be round - when exactly are you due? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2001 Report Share Posted July 5, 2001 > I think perhaps for me it has a lot to do with the fact that no one over stayed their welcome they popped in stayed for a max of 30 mins and left again and it was just lovely... I really enjoyed it both times and this time hope that it will be the same ;o) I'll be round - when exactly are you due? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 6, 2001 Report Share Posted July 6, 2001 Christmas and don't you dare stay away ;o)(I have it in writing now you know LOL) Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama & expecting a Christmas delivery... My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you start. So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake. I feel better already. Re: Re visiting new baby > I think perhaps for me it has a lot to do with the fact that no one over stayed their welcome they popped in stayed for a max of 30 mins and left again and it was just lovely... I really enjoyed it both times and this time hope that it will be the same ;o) I'll be round - when exactly are you due? *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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