Re: Re: Is it fair? - mega moan

June 29, 2001

Lots of discussions lately have been about weter flirting over the internet

is the same as having an affair. I think its not the same, but I would be

livid if I found out my husband was flirting with other women, even if they

lived in Tibet. Its still an emotional betrayal. He should be flirting with

me, and spending his energy towards our relationship, not meaningless ones

with perfect strangers.

I wouldnt ever read his emails, because i trust him 100% and both of us have

been unfaithful in past relationships, so we aint perfect!! When a partner

sinks as low as to check up on you, then the trust has gone...and its very

hard to get back.

Just my 2p.

Mum to Rohan 4 mths

June 30, 2001

> Lots of discussions lately have been about weter flirting over the

internet

> is the same as having an affair. I think its not the same, but I would be

> livid if I found out my husband was flirting with other women, even if

they

> lived in Tibet. Its still an emotional betrayal. He should be flirting

with

> me, and spending his energy towards our relationship, not meaningless ones

> with perfect strangers.

If it put some spice back into our life I think I could cope. Not sure my DH

is the flirting type though, although he is having an affair with his sander

at the moment (DIY) He can't even hug me without checking out the paintwork

and to be quite frank with you all it really pi**es me off.

Had major emotional blackmail to get him to come to the park with DS and I

just now, but it was quite clear to me he didn't want to be there although

DS adores him and really wants to play with him.

>

> I wouldnt ever read his emails, because i trust him 100% and both of us

have

> been unfaithful in past relationships, so we aint perfect!! When a

partner

> sinks as low as to check up on you, then the trust has gone...and its very

> hard to get back.

He said he just stumbled upon it but yes I do feel hurt.

July 1, 2001

,

Sorry, my last email wasnt meant to be directed at you personally. Hope you

dont think I was judging your relationship with your DH, I just meant that

that is how I would feel!!

That said, I wish my DH would have a meaningful relationship with a sander,

or any piece of DIY equipment since he started stripping walls and taking my

waldrobe apart weeks ago...and its still sitting all over the room, waiting

to be painted!!

Mum to Rohan (4 mths)

July 1, 2001

> Sorry, my last email wasnt meant to be directed at you personally. Hope

you

> dont think I was judging your relationship with your DH, I just meant that

> that is how I would feel!!

Nah - no probs - 'twas a good point.

>

> That said, I wish my DH would have a meaningful relationship with a

sander,

> or any piece of DIY equipment since he started stripping walls and taking

my

> waldrobe apart weeks ago...and its still sitting all over the room,

waiting

> to be painted!!

Put it this way, we stripped the lounge of contents on 20th May 2001. I

stripped all the wall paper and some of the ceiling paper and cornice paint.

He has fitted a new ceiling rose and painted the ceiling down to the picture

rail, plus the picture rail, I helped with the painting of the cornice -

incredibly intricate! He spent a few w/e's and evenings trying to straighten

the conservatory door by steaming in and putting it in a brace, breaking the

glass in the process and singeing the old lawn with the steamer (we now have

a rectangular brown patch on it). I have done some skirting undercoat today,

but the finished product is a way off yet.

So we have been 6 weeks without a lounge already.

July 1, 2001