Re: Re: Update and questions regarding my mom

August 10, 2005

In a message dated 8/10/2005 12:29:21 PM Eastern Standard Time,

lowenco@... writes:

Don't look at it as " giving up " , she is already thinking about

beyond and wants to be there, not in her debilitated,

ill body. You are helping to make her journey as

comfortable as possible.

Hugs & Prayers,

H

, Those words are so true. Thanks You for saying them!! Ingrid

EXACTLY You just take care of her. Talk to her etc. Talk about her feeling

better and leave the how up to her and God. Whichever way it goes you just be

there and you will have done your job.

Healing means more than CURE. A person who passes on is healed even though

that healing does not involve cure from our side of things. What we all want

for our loved ones is healing and while it is so hard sometimes the only way

that happens is for them to die and enter eternity whatever you believe it to

be.

Wishing I had kinder gentler words and hoping this doesn't hurt you more.

The only comfort I had when my Dad died was that he was happy with his God and

his suffering was over.

( his cancer had spread from his lungs to his ribs and hip joint). How we

wanted that miracle and to see him healthy and well and back at the church he

loved, but it could not be that way and even if could he would have had to

suffer greatly to get there.

Some of his last words were God help me The last thing I told him was

HE IS DADDY JUST FOLLOW HIM!! He didn't answer he just looked at me with a

mixture of joy at my getting it and sorrow that I had to get it, but it brought

him some kind of peace.

I returned home 2 days before he died so I was not able to be with him at

the moment but it was peaceful with all the other kids (there are 8 of us) and

my Mom by his bedside.

He knew he lived a good life and we loved him.

If you are there and you keep telling her you love her you will know you

never gave up no matter how you feel right now.

God Bless

Narice

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