Re: Ingrid and aaarrrggghhhhh

July 27, 2005

Larry

Well Spoken!!! The worst thing we can do and I think it was done alot

in the old days was shut out the children like they wouldn't understand

or were too young to need to know when a parent or loved one was ill.

the BEST thing we can do is include them and let them know how much

their help is needed even it is just to keep mom or dad or whoever

company now and then. Thanks for sharing these wonderful words of

wisdom with us. God Bless your family and hugs Jolene

Larry Green wrote:

> Dear Ingrid,

> When Janet was diagnosed with cc she wanted life to stay the same and

> wanted everything to be as normal as possible. We have two children

> and they are 10 and sixteen years old. My thinking was that would had

> been nice but it was going to be impossible for things to be normal

> and stay the same because I knew that that was not the way it was

> going to work.

> You don't plan to get sick. And when a love one is sick there are

> sacrifices that must be made so the one that is ill can get better.

> I believe it is called responsibility.

> The kids have to pull in and help, the kids have to help and you need

> to let go and put yourself on hold and get yourself in a mental and

> physical situation that will help you heal.

> We helprd Janet as a family and even though Janet felt bad about not

> getting our daughter to swimming or there was a party she missed,

> Lizzie didn't seem to mine and she enjoyed being around and helping

> mom. Nate at sixteen was not a big help and I think he didn't miss out

> on too much.

> In your case Ingrid I know it is a little different. You live on a

> farm and It seems you do not have a lot of friends or family coming by

> to help or offer support.

> This illness I know will NOT last forever and you need the " Time OUT "

> to heal yourself and family needs to let you rest and heal.

> You have my permission.

> Your son is young, there is a lot ahead for him and having his mom

> there is the most important thing now and getting you back on your

> feet will take some sacrifices. Part of growing up is dealing with

> illness.

> This is only a little setback for you, in time this will be just a bad

> memory.

> It has been a few weeks since Janet has had her CT Scan and " NED'.

> Lizzie is in Camp for two weeks and I am teaching Nate how to drive

> and he is running around with his girlfreind.....life goes on.

> Larry

>

> Ingrid Lowe lowenco@...> wrote:

> Thanks Marty. Yes, He likes being there for me. But often see my son

> wanting to do some fun things too with his friends. I let him go

> often. But sometimes I have to say no since I need his help so much.

> I am getting a little better and stronger each day. But still need so

> much from my son. He helps me with all the critters we have and often

> has to do my chores and errands. Yes, I know it will make a better

> person of him. Just am terrified that I have passed the gene on to

> him and he will need to keep himself checked for colon cancer

> starting in his twenties. I love my son to peices and only want the

> best for him. Ingrid

>

> > >> > I have alot of evasive doctors. None seem to want to make a

> > >> statement of any kind.

> > >> > One told me it could take a year, one told me I'd be this way

> the

> > >> rest of my life, however long that may be (wasn't that just sweet

> > > of

> > >> him?). My local doctor is the most supportive. I see him again

> next

> > >> Wednesday. So far we haven't tried much of anything except

> > > exercise,

> > >> trying to get some muscle mass back again in my legs.

> > >> > He now has my records, so I think it is time to get started on

> > >> figuring something out.

> > >> >

> > >> > I am sorry if I sounded snippy in my reply to you earlier, I

> sure

> > >> didn't mean it that way. I just get so dishearted. The last

> thing a

> > >> cancer survivor wants to hear is that something is going to take

> > >> time. time is precious. I want to use it NOW....not wait!!! Good

> > >> grief:)

> > >> >

> > >> > Believe it or not, something that does seem to " stick " are eggs

> > >> over easy. Figure that one out???? As a matter of fact, I'm

> getting

> > >> ready to fix two right now. My days and nights are mixed up

> again.

> > > So

> > >> I may as well go ahead and eat breakfast!hahaha

> > >> >

> > >> > nancy

> > >> > Re: aaarrrggghhhhh

> > >> >

> > >> > What does you doc say ?

> > >> >

> > >> > I don't take Immodium everyday but I will take it in the

> > > morning

> > >> if this continues. I have lomotil but I know that is addictive

> so

> > > I

> > >> don't like to take it. How about the metamucil wafers??

> > >> >

> > >> > I have really learned I cannot eat anything after 8:00 PM.

> If

> > > I

> > >> get to starving, I eat dry toast.

> > >> >

> > >> > Stay in touch.

> > >> >

> > >> > Karima

> > >> >

July 27, 2005

My name is Lorri, My husband was told he had colon cancer the begginning of

June. It spread to the liver and a few spots in a abdomon. They said it was to

late for surgery and he had a year or less to life. He went in for a coloascapy

and thats how they discovered the spot on his colon . Then they did a pet scan

and biopcy. He is getting his 3rd treatment of chemo Tuesday the Aug. 2nd.He

hasn't had any side effects yet from the chemo. Thank God! He is feeling fine.It

is just hard to know he only has a year or less to live.I am praying the chemo

will shrink the tumors and gives him a few more years. We have seven kids. A

blended family.4 girls and 3 boys. We took the news pretty hard at first. Now a

month later we are relying on prayer to give us our streigth. Father's day was

rough. They just put my husband on disability at work. He can't work due to

safty reasons. My boss just told me he was letting me go cause I have been

missing to much work due to my husband needing me.so I

will be job hunting next week. The kids start school next week too. Help! Hope

to hear from someone. Lorri Newsome

Jolene Ehret jehret@...> wrote: