Re: New member - loves to chat!

[Guest guest]

Hi Ruth,

and welcome to nct-coffee.

>>I can help with difficult topics like Post-Natal Elation and Depression,

loneliness at

>> home and also Dyslexia and Dyspraxia! I'd love to find some new friends

sounds like you have found the right place to be then.

I find being a SAHM very lonely and quite boring sometimes - how can you

help?

[Guest guest]

Hi Ruth... welcome to the list.

Glad to hear that branches are advertising the list through Newsletters.

It's yet another good way of chatting to other people. As you have already

found out, not doubt... everyone on this list is very friendly and it's

always nice to have new members.

As for me, I'm the odd one out. First I'm male. Second I'm not a parent -

I'm a nursery nurse by traid - well one of my traids! Why I am I here... I

always ask myself that. I suppose I'm here because there are times when it's

nice just to be able to write something to someone... and it doesn't matter

if they reply or not... it's just nice to share some thoughts at times. And

of couse... it's a great way of meeting new people.

Which reminds me... are there any plans for a coffee morning this Summer?

> Beaver Scouts (DS), Rainbow Guides (I'm a Leader)

I used to be a Beaver Scout leader... and also a Cub Scout one a good years

back now. Ah the memories of camping. I look back on them with fondness,

though at the time it was extreamly stressfull - taking 24 children aged 8 to

12 camping is not what most people would call fun!

Nick

[Guest guest]

Hi Ruth and welcome. 'Post natal Elation' that's one I haven't heard

before! Made me smile - I suffered from this *really* badly for months and

months after Verity was born, I was so pleased to have had a homebirth and

thrilled with my little girl - hee hee.

Hannah, 27

Mum to Bethany 7, Lawrence 5 1/2, Verity 3, Alfie 4 months

Visit me on the web at :-

http://hannahshome.20m.com

[Guest guest]

> Hi , thanks for replying so quickly!

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Loneliness at home >

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I find being a SAHM very lonely and quite boring sometimes - how can

you help?

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I suppose it depends on how old your children are, but I found it

very helpful to stay in touch with the friends we made at our Ante-

natal classes, and we were able to meet up regulary at each others

houses once a week, or at the park/indoor play centre, and we

organised things like picnics in the park and joint birthday parties

for all the children - an " official " birthday sometime in the summer

of course! I also found new friends at church and we started meeting

up on Friday mornings courtesy of the Mum who had the biggest house.

Our children are now 6 and we still meet regularly. I also jumped in

with my local NCT Branch, and eventually ended up as Fundraising Co-

ordinator, which was great fun. I made LOADS of good friends that

way, many I shall stay in touch with for life. It also meant that I

knew exactly what was going on so I got lots of good bargains too.

It certainly kept me busy. If you don't fancy being so " full on "

(and I only got there by accident) then why not just go on a

committee with your local NCT Branch, they will have lots of small

jobs to keep your mind entertained! You will find yourself always on

the go and with new friends who can help keep lonliness at bay too.

Hope that helps!

Ruth

[Guest guest]

Hi Ruth

Welcome to the list. I'll be picking your brains about the goldfish.

We're very new to the goldfish game, but learning fast.

Hope you enjoy the list - between us all we are a mine of information

on the most diverse of topics. If you have a question, someone,

usually has an answer

Todman

Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

Mum to , 3½

[Guest guest]

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> <'Post natal Elation'

Hi Hannah, Thanks for replying.

It sounds as though you didn't have a problem with your elation, I

enjoyed mine too for a bit until I realised that it was actually

quite serious. I just couldn't stop and kept going all day and all

night too, life was so wonderful and everything perfect, but my

family were falling apart at the seams with worry. I ended up being

seen by my Doctor who insisted I had Post-Natal depression - But I

wasn't depressed, far from it! I thought I must have " Post Post-

Natal-Depression Elation " , but it turned out that I did indeed have

Post-Natal Elation, a far less common but nonetheless recognised

condition. I'd never heard of it either! It's nice to be a bit

loopy sometimes, but I wouldn't want to go through that again. Thank

goodness for an alert shrink who knew what he was seeing.

[Guest guest]

> > Hi , thanks for replying so quickly!

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> Loneliness at home >

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> I find being a SAHM very lonely and quite boring sometimes - how can

> you help?

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> I suppose it depends on how old your children are, but I found it

> very helpful to stay in touch with the friends we made at our Ante-

> natal classes, and we were able to meet up regulary at each others

> houses once a week,

I agree with Ruth...when my kids were small, I planned my week

meticulously so that every day I had a friend with kids round or went

to a friend. This was always after school, so whoever the hostess was

, gave supper to all the kids (sometimes this totalled 8 children),

and they all played together and we mums chatted. I didn't do this

with more than a one-to-one arrangement; I think I didn't have the

confidence at that time to be in a crowd. I would always feel left

out if there were even three people. One to one meant the other mum

*had* to talk to me!

It took me a LONG time and a sharp learning curve to overcome this

feeling of inadequacy in crowds. For many years, in a group

situation I would always stay quiet, thinking whatever I had to say

wasn't worth much. I couldn't have become an antenatal teacher if I

hadn't overcome that by now, but it was a real struggle.

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

> I'll be picking your brains about the goldfish.

>

I love the list already, but I think DH will be cross when he sees

how long I've spent chatting...! Never mind, while the Sailors away,

the wife will chat!! Our goldfish is the grand old age of 2

weeks, we won him at a Carnival Fete, so far he's surviving, DS loves

him to bits and as the Goldfish DB and I won when we were kids lived

for years and years I have great hopes for a beautiful friendship!

It's certainly a bit simpler than the tropical fish that DS had for

his birthday last year. They are almost a year old now and we have

so many babies we've lost count. Brilliant for learning about the

birds and the bees and all that... (>0 + >0 = >0>0>0>0! Meant to be

fish!)

Ruth Mum to 6 11/12(ps - I think it must be something to do

with the name, have you noticed how many of us have a !!)

[Guest guest]

Thanks Ruth,

Unfortunately not - DS is 2.5yrs BTW

>stay in touch with the friends we made at our Ante-

> natal classes,

We moved when DS was 6 months but even by then I wasn't getting on with the

group so well - a combination of PND on my part and they all BF and me being

unable to coupled with them knowing I was moving.

>I also found new friends at church and we started meeting

> up on Friday mornings courtesy of the Mum who had the biggest house.

I was going to church, but after a year attending plus going to all the

toddler groups and helping out bigtime - I never saw anyone outside the

groups. I don't go anymore.

As for the NCT - the best place is right here on list.

Oh well it was worth a try

[Guest guest]

Hi Ruth ,welcome aboard I'm new too

Hilary

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Sent: Wednesday, June 20, 2001 3:01 PM

Subject: New member - loves to chat!

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