Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 In a message dated 9/18/2005 4:09:34 PM Eastern Standard Time, tsalagi@... writes: >>>I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. Why can we live until we're a hundred years old?... Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia You will feel it all and it is ok to do so Some days I feel exactly like this and others I feel like Phil is a bigger pain in the butt to me than the cancer is to him!! LOL!! Don't apologize for feeling sad angry or joyful. We've all been there! Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 In a message dated 9/18/2005 4:09:34 PM Eastern Standard Time, tsalagi@... writes: >>>I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. Why can we live until we're a hundred years old?... Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia You will feel it all and it is ok to do so Some days I feel exactly like this and others I feel like Phil is a bigger pain in the butt to me than the cancer is to him!! LOL!! Don't apologize for feeling sad angry or joyful. We've all been there! Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 In a message dated 9/18/2005 4:09:34 PM Eastern Standard Time, tsalagi@... writes: >>>I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. Why can we live until we're a hundred years old?... Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia You will feel it all and it is ok to do so Some days I feel exactly like this and others I feel like Phil is a bigger pain in the butt to me than the cancer is to him!! LOL!! Don't apologize for feeling sad angry or joyful. We've all been there! Narice Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 >>>I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. Why can we live until we're a hundred uears old.... Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia >>>> Dear Lydia, I am so glad you found this group. The people here will always be here for you...through your fears, worries and yes, through your good reports and joys. Just keep talking, it is healing:) J ---------- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Anti-Virus. Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.1/104 - Release Date: 9/16/2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 >>>I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. Why can we live until we're a hundred uears old.... Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia >>>> Dear Lydia, I am so glad you found this group. The people here will always be here for you...through your fears, worries and yes, through your good reports and joys. Just keep talking, it is healing:) J ---------- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Anti-Virus. Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.1/104 - Release Date: 9/16/2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 >>>I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. Why can we live until we're a hundred uears old.... Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia >>>> Dear Lydia, I am so glad you found this group. The people here will always be here for you...through your fears, worries and yes, through your good reports and joys. Just keep talking, it is healing:) J ---------- No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Anti-Virus. Version: 7.0.344 / Virus Database: 267.11.1/104 - Release Date: 9/16/2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 In a message dated 9/18/2005 4:27:33 PM Eastern Standard Time, flipper759@... writes: I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. Why can we live until we're a hundred years old?... Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia You will feel it all and it is ok to do so Some days I feel exactly like this and others I feel like Phil is a bigger pain in the butt to me than the cancer is to him!! LOL!! Don't apologize for feeling sad angry or joyful. We've all been there! Narice Narice, you are such an inspiration!! We are soooo lucky to have you!! Lydia...I also understand where you are coming from, agree with you and want you to know we'll all be here for you...as I know you will be for us!! Oh, by the way, I haven't welcomed you, which I do...and I'll write more about us later... Lots of hugs and prayers, Donelle Caregiver to Glenn Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 18, 2005 Report Share Posted September 18, 2005 Lydia, Yea, Life is very unfair. But even the ones who havw the good health and all they need feel that life is unfair. I just keep reminding myself that things could be worse. And also think of all who have it worse then I do. That seems to help. When I took chemo and was feeling so sorry for myself, I would look around at the other chemo patients and then Thank god that I am not as bad as some of them who are so very sick. Please take it easy on yourself and find support in knowing that God is with you no matter what. Ingrid > this life is very unfair...you don't get in time to achieve a sort of > serenity in your life, just to realized that it's time to go. You work > all your life, grow your children and when your husband goes on > retirement you find out that is time to go. And to go where? I am sure > that our soul will never die, but where do we go? I saw that film. > It's beautiful. My parents in law are 87 and were never sick. They > complain about life and the two of them don't know how lucky they are. > My husband didn't tell them about him, so they wont get upset. > > : you wrote about you, but have you heard a doctor? Were you > operated before? > > Please forgive me everyone, but it's hard to talk to my neighbours or > my friends. My husband is the strong of the family. I always lean on > him, but now I can't. I pray, but I know that we must accept the > Lord's wish. I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. > Why can we live until we're a hundred uears old.... > > Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 19, 2005 Report Share Posted September 19, 2005 I know you feel like you can't lean on him right now, but if you don't find someone to lean on, you will fall over. Maybe you can lean against each other when you feel like you are going to fall over? What I'm trying to say is talk to him and let him know how you feel. It may be a great way of becoming closer. Nobody can go through this kind of emotional roller coaster by themselves. He may be thinking that this is too much for him and he thinks he has to be strong for you too! Yes, you both need strength, but when one falters, the other can help. I don't know either of you so use your best judgement on whether I'm giving good advice. What worked for me may not be the best for you. I'm a stage 1 (T2, N0, M0) survivor and I've been through enough to know that I would have been lost without my wife. She tried not to show me that she was shaken and scared. Eventually when we talked about it we both felt much better. Finally, God will give you strength. He may not do what you expect, but he is listening. I'm amazed at how many times I have needed help, someone comes along and helps. It has been my experience that God usually uses other people to distribute the miracles he wants us to have. Please hang in there and find someone to talk to, whoever it may be. We'll always listen here. Miracles happen! Cliff H. > this life is very unfair...you don't get in time to achieve a sort of > serenity in your life, just to realized that it's time to go. You work > all your life, grow your children and when your husband goes on > retirement you find out that is time to go. And to go where? I am sure > that our soul will never die, but where do we go? I saw that film. > It's beautiful. My parents in law are 87 and were never sick. They > complain about life and the two of them don't know how lucky they are. > My husband didn't tell them about him, so they wont get upset. > > : you wrote about you, but have you heard a doctor? Were you > operated before? > > Please forgive me everyone, but it's hard to talk to my neighbours or > my friends. My husband is the strong of the family. I always lean on > him, but now I can't. I pray, but I know that we must accept the > Lord's wish. I don't want my husband to go. I don't want anyone to go. > Why can we live until we're a hundred uears old.... > > Please forgive me, everybody. Lydia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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