pottytraining day 4......

[Guest guest]

well we have now been in (well Phoebe that is not me ) Knickers for 4 days..

We have yet to have one success in potty or toilet.. I am in despair really..

feel like giving up but another part of me feels that she is doing it to test

me. This morning she held her pee for 6 (yes that is six) hours we left her fro

the first 3.5 (as I have noticed she rarely does anything in the morning so that

must be norm for her) then started gently reminding her where the potty was or

taking her to the potty. made it quite a nice thing to be on the potty (with

reading book's sitting down talking with her and a sticker for her chart after)

and she seems happy enough about sitting there but nothing is coming out whilst

on the potty.. by 3 30 I was getting " worried " as I knew she would need to go

soon.. so I sat her on the potty and managed to keep her there for about 5 mins

(also went to the toilet myself so she could see me going) but she did nothing.

So I said fine up you go and then said to dh will try again in 10 mins as she

HAS to need to go now.. 3 mins later she wee'ed on the carpet in the lounge..

now the difference from before when I have tried is that this time I actually do

feel she is ready. and I DO THINK she can do it.. I just really don't think she

wants to do it. she rather likes her pull ups and would prefer just not having

to bother with it.

I don't know part of me is thinking just give up (though I have promised myself

I will make it go until tomorrow evening to see if I can get any success) even

tried a " price " at the end of doing the first business on the potty (said she

could have a present - her favourite thing but no) she is just as stubborn as

her mummy.. it just makes it more difficult this time because I do feel she can

do it I am just not sure she wants to.. might put her back into nappies (not

pull ups) if I do decide to go back as she seems to look upon those as baby

things so perhaps that will help?? ARGH I am so NOT CUT out for this NOT got

the patient NOT with Phoebe not with dh who keeps asking me question after

questions it is new to me to I don't know it all.. sorry just feeling really fed

up with it all doesn't help dh is away again tomorrow - having not been here for

3 days out of the week days then away again tomorrow so he gets one day of it I

am sitting there with it all and he is coming with " helpful " suggestions - sorry

I know he is trying to help but right now what I would not do for a room and

coke in a nice long glass with some ice cubes and a packet of peanuts some

smooth jazz on and noone to bother me.... yeah dream on and get my but off from

here to get in to make dinner...

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

> might put her back into nappies (not pull ups) if I do decide to go back as

she seems to look upon those as baby things so perhaps that will help??

I childmind for a little boy who is nearly 4 who is still in nappies. If he is

made to wear pants (which he dislikes) he just holds on and can go all day

without using the potty or toilet until his Mum finally gives in and puts a

nappy on in the evening. The HV has warned his Mum that this could cause

kidney problems due to ?reflux so she only does it occasionally just to see

whether he is any more amenable to the whole idea. When I childmind him, he is

always in nappies and it is obvious that he really resents having to break off

from his playing to have his nappy changed. I suggested to his Mum that maybe

it is the inconvenience of using the toilet/potty that is causing the problem,

that he would really like to have a nappy on and wee when he likes, or as a

second choice would rather just hang on. I suggested that we " call his bluff

" , allow him to wear nappies, but make it really annoying for him by changing

him every half an hour or so whilst pointing out that if he had pants on he

wouldn't have to keep being interrupted like this. She was going to think

about it - it would obviously be a PITA for whoever is doing the changing but

she is at her wit's end and ready to clutch at straws.

Lynda

SAHM to (8), (6), Fraser (3), Callum (15/5/00)

Newsletter editor, Mid-Northumberland Branch

Area Rep, Region 7

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