pottytraining day 4......

[Guest guest]

well we have now been in (well Phoebe that is not me ) Knickers for 4 days..

We have yet to have one success in potty or toilet.. I am in despair really..

feel like giving up but another part of me feels that she is doing it to test

me. This morning she held her pee for 6 (yes that is six) hours we left her fro

the first 3.5 (as I have noticed she rarely does anything in the morning so that

must be norm for her) then started gently reminding her where the potty was or

taking her to the potty. made it quite a nice thing to be on the potty (with

reading book's sitting down talking with her and a sticker for her chart after)

and she seems happy enough about sitting there but nothing is coming out whilst

on the potty.. by 3 30 I was getting " worried " as I knew she would need to go

soon.. so I sat her on the potty and managed to keep her there for about 5 mins

(also went to the toilet myself so she could see me going) but she did nothing.

So I said fine up you go and then said to dh will try again in 10 mins as she

HAS to need to go now.. 3 mins later she wee'ed on the carpet in the lounge..

now the difference from before when I have tried is that this time I actually do

feel she is ready. and I DO THINK she can do it.. I just really don't think she

wants to do it. she rather likes her pull ups and would prefer just not having

to bother with it.

I don't know part of me is thinking just give up (though I have promised myself

I will make it go until tomorrow evening to see if I can get any success) even

tried a " price " at the end of doing the first business on the potty (said she

could have a present - her favourite thing but no) she is just as stubborn as

her mummy.. it just makes it more difficult this time because I do feel she can

do it I am just not sure she wants to.. might put her back into nappies (not

pull ups) if I do decide to go back as she seems to look upon those as baby

things so perhaps that will help?? ARGH I am so NOT CUT out for this NOT got

the patient NOT with Phoebe not with dh who keeps asking me question after

questions it is new to me to I don't know it all.. sorry just feeling really fed

up with it all doesn't help dh is away again tomorrow - having not been here for

3 days out of the week days then away again tomorrow so he gets one day of it I

am sitting there with it all and he is coming with " helpful " suggestions - sorry

I know he is trying to help but right now what I would not do for a room and

coke in a nice long glass with some ice cubes and a packet of peanuts some

smooth jazz on and noone to bother me.... yeah dream on and get my but off from

here to get in to make dinner...

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

>When I childmind him, he is

>always in nappies and it is obvious that he really resents having to break off

>from his playing to have his nappy changed. I suggested to his Mum that maybe

>it is the inconvenience of using the toilet/potty that is causing the problem,

>that he would really like to have a nappy on and wee when he likes, or as a

>second choice would rather just hang on. I suggested that we " call his bluff

> " , allow him to wear nappies, but make it really annoying for him by changing

>him every half an hour or so whilst pointing out that if he had pants on he

>wouldn't have to keep being interrupted like this. She was going to think

>about it - it would obviously be a PITA for whoever is doing the changing but

>she is at her wit's end and ready to clutch at straws.

Lynda, I think that's a really good suggestion. When I thought about

DS1, it really was more hassle for him to use a toilet than wet a

nappy, unless I was really hawk eyed and changed him every time (he

was wetting half hourly at the time at 3). He's been going through a

mega wet pant stage lately, having been fine since he did toilet

train, and worst of all is absolutely dreadful about going to the

toilet when his wet pants and trousers are spotted (there's always

plenty more to do!) and getting changed into dry clothes, but totted

up I suspect he might still perceive it as less time consuming and

hassly than just going to the toilet often enough to stay dry.

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jennifer@...

Vaudin

[Guest guest]

>When I childmind him, he is

>always in nappies and it is obvious that he really resents having to break off

>from his playing to have his nappy changed. I suggested to his Mum that maybe

>it is the inconvenience of using the toilet/potty that is causing the problem,

>that he would really like to have a nappy on and wee when he likes, or as a

>second choice would rather just hang on. I suggested that we " call his bluff

> " , allow him to wear nappies, but make it really annoying for him by changing

>him every half an hour or so whilst pointing out that if he had pants on he

>wouldn't have to keep being interrupted like this. She was going to think

>about it - it would obviously be a PITA for whoever is doing the changing but

>she is at her wit's end and ready to clutch at straws.

Lynda, I think that's a really good suggestion. When I thought about

DS1, it really was more hassle for him to use a toilet than wet a

nappy, unless I was really hawk eyed and changed him every time (he

was wetting half hourly at the time at 3). He's been going through a

mega wet pant stage lately, having been fine since he did toilet

train, and worst of all is absolutely dreadful about going to the

toilet when his wet pants and trousers are spotted (there's always

plenty more to do!) and getting changed into dry clothes, but totted

up I suspect he might still perceive it as less time consuming and

hassly than just going to the toilet often enough to stay dry.

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jennifer@...

Vaudin