Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

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In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

debbied31@... writes:

Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in hands and

feet , just gonna up the neurontin

HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he gets an

electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want you to

have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

DEB

Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe it's this or

maybe

it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as possible...don't

let them sit on getting it scheduled...

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

debbied31@... writes:

Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in hands and

feet , just gonna up the neurontin

HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he gets an

electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want you to

have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

DEB

Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe it's this or

maybe

it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as possible...don't

let them sit on getting it scheduled...

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

(((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday at 445pm

eastern time,

But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have for years )

and my older sis asked them what was happening to the house when they die( she

is a well not a nice word)

Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about saying it

wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us 3 kids ( me , her ,

and older bro)

My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care takers to

both my parents???

As both siblings live out of state.

Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some burden ,

however where does she get off?????????

Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood , but no one

bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work literally ( whole house

is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so you can imagine.

It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will fix it up , as

it stands its HOME .

Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn up to this

effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight over it.

Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are incompetent,

pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older and a tad more

forgetful.

Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

Going to go strawberry /blonde

Deb

Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

debbied31@... writes:

Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in hands and

feet , just gonna up the neurontin

HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he gets an

electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want you to

have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

DEB

Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe it's this or

maybe

it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as possible...don't

let them sit on getting it scheduled...

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

(((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday at 445pm

eastern time,

But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have for years )

and my older sis asked them what was happening to the house when they die( she

is a well not a nice word)

Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about saying it

wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us 3 kids ( me , her ,

and older bro)

My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care takers to

both my parents???

As both siblings live out of state.

Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some burden ,

however where does she get off?????????

Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood , but no one

bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work literally ( whole house

is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so you can imagine.

It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will fix it up , as

it stands its HOME .

Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn up to this

effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight over it.

Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are incompetent,

pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older and a tad more

forgetful.

Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

Going to go strawberry /blonde

Deb

Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

debbied31@... writes:

Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in hands and

feet , just gonna up the neurontin

HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he gets an

electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want you to

have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

DEB

Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe it's this or

maybe

it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as possible...don't

let them sit on getting it scheduled...

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Deb, That is always the worst is when siblings fight over things like

this. I would not get to concerned over this right now. Both your

parents are still living and this is still a long ways off. Ingrid

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@y... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying

it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

i think they should put the house in your name.... it frees it from if they

ever need nursing home care or put it into a living trust. Another idea is

have them execute a quit claim deed and have it recorded in your name. I am

assuming there is no mortgage on it. Find out if you have the quit claim

deed dated say now if you can use it after they die to record it

Another idea might be to record a mortgage with you guys as the lien holders

on the house and then claim the house upon their death.. When push comes to

shove your relatives will come out of the woodwork to claim what they thin k

is their care.

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 8/17/2005 5:41:01 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

debbied31@... writes:

Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn up to

this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight over it.

Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older and a tad

more

forgetful.

Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

Going to go strawberry /blonde

Deb

Get those wills done NOW, Debbie!!! If there's any life ins. get

beneficiaries updated NOW!!! Then it's done and you don't have to worry about

it.

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 8/17/2005 5:41:01 P.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

debbied31@... writes:

Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn up to

this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight over it.

Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older and a tad

more

forgetful.

Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

Going to go strawberry /blonde

Deb

Get those wills done NOW, Debbie!!! If there's any life ins. get

beneficiaries updated NOW!!! Then it's done and you don't have to worry about

it.

Donelle

Caregiver to Glenn

[Guest guest]

Thanks Nonnie , I will look into these options never heard of a living trust, or

a quit claim deed so thanks

And yes I fear that she will hire lawyers when the time comes , ( she can afford

them no way we can)

Ah well if we get things settled before hand no worries .

Thanks again

Deb

P.S. I want my parents to live to be 100yrs old or older by the way dont want

them to die, however they are 78 and 74 and in poor health

So got to face reality that they wont live to be over 100yrs

Nonnie nonnie_nt@...> wrote:

i think they should put the house in your name.... it frees it from if they

ever need nursing home care or put it into a living trust. Another idea is

have them execute a quit claim deed and have it recorded in your name. I am

assuming there is no mortgage on it. Find out if you have the quit claim

deed dated say now if you can use it after they die to record it

Another idea might be to record a mortgage with you guys as the lien holders

on the house and then claim the house upon their death.. When push comes to

shove your relatives will come out of the woodwork to claim what they thin k

is their care.

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks Nonnie , I will look into these options never heard of a living trust, or

a quit claim deed so thanks

And yes I fear that she will hire lawyers when the time comes , ( she can afford

them no way we can)

Ah well if we get things settled before hand no worries .

Thanks again

Deb

P.S. I want my parents to live to be 100yrs old or older by the way dont want

them to die, however they are 78 and 74 and in poor health

So got to face reality that they wont live to be over 100yrs

Nonnie nonnie_nt@...> wrote:

i think they should put the house in your name.... it frees it from if they

ever need nursing home care or put it into a living trust. Another idea is

have them execute a quit claim deed and have it recorded in your name. I am

assuming there is no mortgage on it. Find out if you have the quit claim

deed dated say now if you can use it after they die to record it

Another idea might be to record a mortgage with you guys as the lien holders

on the house and then claim the house upon their death.. When push comes to

shove your relatives will come out of the woodwork to claim what they thin k

is their care.

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

also remember if there are insurance policies with NAMED beneficiaries those

insurance policies are outside of any estate that might require probate. A

living trust is sometimes, in my opinion better than a will because there

may not be probate involved. You also have to look into the amount that an

estate can be without estate taxes. It varies by state. You can look

online for the information in the state where you are. Look up probate laws

in google for whatever state you are in.

A trust can be established at least around here for around 300-400.00 and

will save alot of grief later. Make sure they have a will. Otherwise

someone will have to file for summary administration and distribute the

monies.

Regards,

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

also remember if there are insurance policies with NAMED beneficiaries those

insurance policies are outside of any estate that might require probate. A

living trust is sometimes, in my opinion better than a will because there

may not be probate involved. You also have to look into the amount that an

estate can be without estate taxes. It varies by state. You can look

online for the information in the state where you are. Look up probate laws

in google for whatever state you are in.

A trust can be established at least around here for around 300-400.00 and

will save alot of grief later. Make sure they have a will. Otherwise

someone will have to file for summary administration and distribute the

monies.

Regards,

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

also remember if there are insurance policies with NAMED beneficiaries those

insurance policies are outside of any estate that might require probate. A

living trust is sometimes, in my opinion better than a will because there

may not be probate involved. You also have to look into the amount that an

estate can be without estate taxes. It varies by state. You can look

online for the information in the state where you are. Look up probate laws

in google for whatever state you are in.

A trust can be established at least around here for around 300-400.00 and

will save alot of grief later. Make sure they have a will. Otherwise

someone will have to file for summary administration and distribute the

monies.

Regards,

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks again Nonnie,

I am going now to google and see what I can find on the laws for Michigan,

I am the benefeciary on there life insurance policies, ( their worth I think

about 5,000 ) with the understanding that money be used to bury them with.

Which I have no problems with,

I think our house MIGHT be worth about 35,000 , I will have to see if they know

for a fact.

Thanks again

Deb

Nonnie nonnie_nt@...> wrote:

also remember if there are insurance policies with NAMED beneficiaries those

insurance policies are outside of any estate that might require probate. A

living trust is sometimes, in my opinion better than a will because there

may not be probate involved. You also have to look into the amount that an

estate can be without estate taxes. It varies by state. You can look

online for the information in the state where you are. Look up probate laws

in google for whatever state you are in.

A trust can be established at least around here for around 300-400.00 and

will save alot of grief later. Make sure they have a will. Otherwise

someone will have to file for summary administration and distribute the

monies.

Regards,

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks again Nonnie,

I am going now to google and see what I can find on the laws for Michigan,

I am the benefeciary on there life insurance policies, ( their worth I think

about 5,000 ) with the understanding that money be used to bury them with.

Which I have no problems with,

I think our house MIGHT be worth about 35,000 , I will have to see if they know

for a fact.

Thanks again

Deb

Nonnie nonnie_nt@...> wrote:

also remember if there are insurance policies with NAMED beneficiaries those

insurance policies are outside of any estate that might require probate. A

living trust is sometimes, in my opinion better than a will because there

may not be probate involved. You also have to look into the amount that an

estate can be without estate taxes. It varies by state. You can look

online for the information in the state where you are. Look up probate laws

in google for whatever state you are in.

A trust can be established at least around here for around 300-400.00 and

will save alot of grief later. Make sure they have a will. Otherwise

someone will have to file for summary administration and distribute the

monies.

Regards,

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

you can search for comp listings. I don't know of any house in today's

world that sells for 35K. Just to be curious you might want to call a

realtor like you MIGHT sell.. Sign NO contract but ask for comp listings in

your area and ASK them to evaluate the house which they will do for free.

If they want to charge you kick them out the door. They will be very

pleasant because as the " listing agent " which they think they would be if

you decided to sell they will be nice and arrive at a listing price which

will give you a better idea of what you are sitting on.

PS Do you have a power of attorney for your parents? That would be a good

thing in case you had to access and dispose of anything on their behalves.

I would also suggest a durable power of attorney.

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

you can search for comp listings. I don't know of any house in today's

world that sells for 35K. Just to be curious you might want to call a

realtor like you MIGHT sell.. Sign NO contract but ask for comp listings in

your area and ASK them to evaluate the house which they will do for free.

If they want to charge you kick them out the door. They will be very

pleasant because as the " listing agent " which they think they would be if

you decided to sell they will be nice and arrive at a listing price which

will give you a better idea of what you are sitting on.

PS Do you have a power of attorney for your parents? That would be a good

thing in case you had to access and dispose of anything on their behalves.

I would also suggest a durable power of attorney.

Nonnie

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

I am agreeing with Karima on this deal with your sis. Why is it the

one's who have the most are the greediest? Get your folks to do the will

and let it be settled. Then no arguing about it. I refused to argue

over anything that belonged to my mom even though I wanted and thought

as the oldest I was entitled to the framed wedding photos of my mom

parents and of my parents. I have since asked her to have copies made,

but I am afraid it will be cold day in hell before she has it done. I

will have to write to her again soon.

Yes you are stressed and so need to take care of those situations that

you can and leave the rest up to the Lord. You will be fine...

God Bless and some really big hugs JOlene

Barbara Gari wrote:

> Must be hair day...I just bought chocolate/peanut butter. Supposed to

> be mahogany looking.

>

> Make sure your parents do that will pronto. I mean it.

>

> Karima

> Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I agree. I live outside LA where tract home start in the millions and in

south central LA (gang area) there are homes going for $500K and up. It is

awful. I can't believe you can live anywhere for $35K

[Guest guest]

I agree. I live outside LA where tract home start in the millions and in

south central LA (gang area) there are homes going for $500K and up. It is

awful. I can't believe you can live anywhere for $35K

[Guest guest]

Wouldn't it be easier just to read the real estate ads in the area?

Re: ENOUGH is ENOUGH!! /Deb/Joe

>

>

> (((Donelle)))))) thanks hun, we have MRI scheduled for this Friday

> at 445pm eastern time,

> But wont get the results til prob Wednesday ughhhhhhhhhh.

> As if we dont have enough problems , we live with my parents ( have

> for years ) and my older sis asked them what was happening to the

> house when they die( she is a well not a nice word)

> Mom said we are to have the house , which she started griping about

> saying it wasnt fair and the house should be sold and split between us

> 3 kids ( me , her , and older bro)

> My sister lives in a 250,000 dollar home!!! mind you.

> I ask how is it fair that I am the one that is going to be sole care

> takers to both my parents???

> As both siblings live out of state.

> Mind you I do this willingly these are MY parents , and not some

> burden , however where does she get off?????????

> Mind you our home , is in inner city , not a very nice neighborhood

> , but no one bothers us and we dont bother anyone , needs major work

> literally ( whole house is on only 4 fuses lol) and its a 2 story , so

> you can imagine.

> It needs serious revamping and if we ever win the lottery we will

> fix it up , as it stands its HOME .

> Its the house I was born in , and the house I myself plan on dying in,

> Mom and Dad said they are going to get together and have Wills drawn

> up to this effect, as I am seriously concerned that she will fight

> over it.

> Mom said she thinks sis is trying to make it sound like they are

> incompetent, pfffffft they are both in there right minds , just older

> and a tad more forgetful.

> Sorry for venting but I am STRESSSSSSSSSSSSSED

>

> By the way I bought some new hair dye today!!

> Going to go strawberry /blonde

> Deb

>

>

> Grandmommyandme@... wrote:

>

>

> In a message dated 8/17/2005 10:04:56 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time,

> debbied31@... writes:

>

> Ok , I am seriously on the verge of a mental breakdown,

> Joe went to neurologist today , didnt help much with neuropathy in

> hands and

> feet , just gonna up the neurontin

> HOWEVER , did I tell you about the electrical jolts Joe is having ?

> When he turns his head a certain way ( he cant make it happen) he

> gets an

> electrical jolt that goes down his whole body.

> When we mentioned this to the neurologist , he said hmmmmm I want

> you to

> have an MRI done to see if its possible METS to the

> spine!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> NO NO NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!@!!!!

> Joe does NOT have cancer anymore DAM IT!!!!!

> The rational side of me realizes its probably nothing , however

> OMGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG

>

>

>

> DEB

>

>

>

> Oh, Debbie and Joe....my heart is saddened and I'll keep praying it's

> nothing. I've been where you are and it sucks big time... Maybe

> it's this or maybe

> it's that!!! Hope they get the MRI scheduled as soon as

> possible...don't

> let them sit on getting it scheduled...

>

> Donelle

> Caregiver to Glenn

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

wowza thats outrageous, but seriously our neighborhood is pretty bad and the

house isnt in the best shape, ( wiring etc )

If the wiring /plumbing was fixed , house sided and new roof put on , it would

bring more I am sure but as it is cant imagine it being worth much more

Deb

brencolinmom@... wrote:

I agree. I live outside LA where tract home start in the millions and in

south central LA (gang area) there are homes going for $500K and up. It is

awful. I can't believe you can live anywhere for $35K

[Guest guest]

wowza thats outrageous, but seriously our neighborhood is pretty bad and the

house isnt in the best shape, ( wiring etc )

If the wiring /plumbing was fixed , house sided and new roof put on , it would

bring more I am sure but as it is cant imagine it being worth much more

Deb

brencolinmom@... wrote:

I agree. I live outside LA where tract home start in the millions and in

south central LA (gang area) there are homes going for $500K and up. It is

awful. I can't believe you can live anywhere for $35K

[Guest guest]

Well when I went through the deal for a debt reduction loan, they valued

my house at around $38,000 and when I got my tax letter they devalued

the taxable value about $3,000. Don't know why... My house is 3rd

house from main street, houses on the corner are valued at commercial

level... so who knows could be a gas station next door to me -- better

than trash house that is there now. Wish some developer would come and

offer to buy all the property, course now with eminent domain they can

just take it if we don't like the price. My daughter is selling her

house which is say about 2 blocks from us. It is a little bigger, has

burglar bars

and is going to let it go for $53,000 since Kris's ex is wanting to buy

it... Considering we paid 24600 for house when we got it in 76, if I

could get 40,000 for mine I would take it --- if Kris and had a

place to go and me too. The way rent is now, that so many troops are

here again, it is just sky high. Ridiculous. I could have sold my house

as is already, but not ready to do that. I wish I could afford to fix

what is wrong... Is not a great neighborhood but it is just across

street about 1/2 block from elementary school.. Bus stop on corner.. We

have a nice big back yard which I dearly love. Most new houses have

lousy back yards.

You know Deb, if you live in certain areas you can get grants to

refurbish the house. They have those areas here in town, and is usually

to help older folks fix up house in a depresseed neighborhood. I tried

but money was not available until 2005 and she brushed me off. Let me

look into it and that was last I heard from her.

Daughter Laurie is going to help do some stuff when house is sold. Fix

my car and trim the pecan tree. It is huge again and really needs

trimming. What a sweetheart.

Well guess I have rambled enough. Hope what I wrote makes sense. Cheers

Jolene

deb vamdembos wrote:..

> wowza thats outrageous, but seriously our neighborhood is pretty bad

> and the house isnt in the best shape, ( wiring etc )

> If the wiring /plumbing was fixed , house sided and new roof put on ,

> it would bring more I am sure but as it is cant imagine it being worth

> much more

>

> Deb

>

> brencolinmom@... wrote:

> I agree. I live outside LA where tract home start in the millions

> and in

> south central LA (gang area) there are homes going for $500K and up.

> It is

> awful. I can't believe you can live anywhere for $35K

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well when I went through the deal for a debt reduction loan, they valued

my house at around $38,000 and when I got my tax letter they devalued

the taxable value about $3,000. Don't know why... My house is 3rd

house from main street, houses on the corner are valued at commercial

level... so who knows could be a gas station next door to me -- better

than trash house that is there now. Wish some developer would come and

offer to buy all the property, course now with eminent domain they can

just take it if we don't like the price. My daughter is selling her

house which is say about 2 blocks from us. It is a little bigger, has

burglar bars

and is going to let it go for $53,000 since Kris's ex is wanting to buy

it... Considering we paid 24600 for house when we got it in 76, if I

could get 40,000 for mine I would take it --- if Kris and had a

place to go and me too. The way rent is now, that so many troops are

here again, it is just sky high. Ridiculous. I could have sold my house

as is already, but not ready to do that. I wish I could afford to fix

what is wrong... Is not a great neighborhood but it is just across

street about 1/2 block from elementary school.. Bus stop on corner.. We

have a nice big back yard which I dearly love. Most new houses have

lousy back yards.

You know Deb, if you live in certain areas you can get grants to

refurbish the house. They have those areas here in town, and is usually

to help older folks fix up house in a depresseed neighborhood. I tried

but money was not available until 2005 and she brushed me off. Let me

look into it and that was last I heard from her.

Daughter Laurie is going to help do some stuff when house is sold. Fix

my car and trim the pecan tree. It is huge again and really needs

trimming. What a sweetheart.

Well guess I have rambled enough. Hope what I wrote makes sense. Cheers

Jolene

deb vamdembos wrote:..

> wowza thats outrageous, but seriously our neighborhood is pretty bad

> and the house isnt in the best shape, ( wiring etc )

> If the wiring /plumbing was fixed , house sided and new roof put on ,

> it would bring more I am sure but as it is cant imagine it being worth

> much more

>

> Deb

>

> brencolinmom@... wrote:

> I agree. I live outside LA where tract home start in the millions

> and in

> south central LA (gang area) there are homes going for $500K and up.

> It is

> awful. I can't believe you can live anywhere for $35K

>

>

>