dealing with too much stress

March 21, 2009

For the past couple of months the stress has been piling up. There is the

stress of my vast combination of health problems. In changing my heart meds

then changing them back the findings has been that the ones I was on are not

doing enough either. So now they are not sure where to head with that.

On top of that there is an elderly family member that has had serious health

problems and they discovered prostate cancer. Most of the time they do nothing

when the person is in his mid to late 80's but the doctors felt radiation was

best for his so he has needed a lot of support for that.

Add his 87 year old wife getting sick with pneumonia and hospitalized for just

over a week. She has serious dementia and dealing with wherever her mind has

taken her has been extra rough. She is now in a nursing home but on Monday we

have to take her home just long enough for the agency to do a home survey to see

what all they will need to keep them in their home - at least till we can get

them into some kind of progressive care facility = which we have been fighting

them about for a couple of years and he does not want to disturb her mental

condition any more. The home visit means taking her into her home then

returning her to the nursing facility for a few days while they set everything

up. This is not going to go over big with her and there will be a great deal of

crying and statements like no one wants her in her home and everyone is plotting

against her.

Add to this my son-in-law's infidelities which took my daughter out of remission

for bipolar problems when the girlfriend called her to ask why she refused to

divorce him. This was the first my daughter knew of her or anything was going

on. Darling son-in-law refuses to accept any responsibility in all of this and

while my daughter is home from the hospital she still has medication adjustments

to be made and they have also set off her RA because taking those meds away to

treat the bipolar. She is going to partial hospitalization and needs daily help

as she has 3 boys.

That is just the tip of what is going on and I am so overwhelmed that it has my

breathing crazy. Anyone have any " tricks up their sleeves " that can help me

deal with all of this and keep my breathing as controlled as I can considering

the uncontrolable nature of this illness? I don't guess that emptying the state

store is a viable answer but it sure is tempting if only that would not shut

down the breathing even more.

Jean

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