Re: In laws

[Guest guest]

Lonnie, I REALLY sympathise! (although my ILs don't do this I hate my plans

being upset and fully empathise with everything you've said!) But all I can

offer advice wise is to lie a bit more firmly and don't answer the phone -

or be truthful even more firmly! Oh, and I like Ruthie's suggestion to say

no, but make another date. Good one!

Anneliese and Baby Tim

in laws

My fil rang this morning and they suddenly want to come and visit us (they

wanted to come today) this REALLY annoys me when they do as particularly

this weekend we had plans for just doing family things.. If you say that to

them it is like BUT WE ARE FAMILY.. and short of lying to them (by saying we

are out as the one time we said friends coming over they said OH we would

love to see Vaughan - and the one time we said we where going out they rang

to check..) we generally have to get them over.. last time this resorted in

they arrived at 2 pm and FINALLY left at 8 pm. completely screwing up the

girls schedule and making it impossible for dh to spend time with them..

So trying to be smart we rang and said come for lunch (so they cant stay til

the end of the day) but NO no we don't want to be to much trouble so we will

come for COFFEE.. (who the H*** sets up a " proper " coffee/tea doo at 2 -3 pm

anyway?? ) so now I have to sort out the house (as it cant be messy when mil

is coming over) and I wont get my lie in (my turn this weekend) AND we wont

get any of the stuff done that we need done.. I can feel ALL my muscles

tensing up already... it just SO annoys me.. I am seriously thinking about

telling them that we have a new rule that says no tv on when we have

visitors as my fil spends the ENTIRE time watching sports channels (drives

me NUTS) and then the girls gets upset because they cant get to watch what

they would like (and they don't get why granddad can watch tv but they cant

watch what they want...)

Now don't get me wrong I like my in laws but I also like them to not be at

our house ALL THE TIME.. and at the moment it really feels that way.. we

normally see them roughly every 6-8 weeks (speak every week) but this last 8

weeks we have seen them 4 times WAY to much for me... (and it also means

that our entire weekend plans are out as it is ALWAYS at the last minute)

sorry had to get it off my chest.. driving me nuts and I cant even have a

drink ARGH

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what

you start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.