Re: Pregnancy trauma and children

[Guest guest]

Well, , I am the counter example to your Josh! My Dad had a severe

stroke round about the time my mum probably discovered she was expecting me.

THere was no guarantee he'd walk, speak, work again for some while, it was

the days (I'm also 37) when doctors were gods and she told me about the

hours she spent in tears in the hospital trying to get SOMEONE to understand

that she and my sister would starve if she didn't get a doctor's signature

on the form for the welfare office - her mum was in Cyprus, her brother in

Singapore, her inlaws kind but mostly poor and car-less, my sister was 4

1/4.

My dad DID recover speech; he can barely use his right arm and has a limp,

but he got back to work about a fortnight before mum came home from hospital

with me (and that controlling aircraft in and out of Heathrow, quite an

achievement!). My mu haemorraged with placenta previa and was in hospital

10 weeks around the emergency CS. BTW, she WANTED a hospital birth but

autumn 63 was a baby boom time and you had to pay for it for a second child!

She ended up blue-lighting it to somewhere different from planned... I was

5.5 lbs, jaundiced, screamy and difficult, lost a lot of weight - they

recommended nursing care only at one stage as mum " had enough on her plate,

surely " . My sister was farmed out to our great-aunt twice that year and I

don't think has ever really recovered, and most people would regard me as

far from straightforward...

Birth traumas? Well, this doesn't quite match up to yours, but I reckon my

mum had a pretty tough time, and I'm stress and depression prone to this

day.

Anneliese and Baby Tim

Re: A couple of items on the telly

> > Child Of Our Time Wed 27th June

I watched it too and really felt for the lady with PND as my circumstances

were so so similar.

(e.g. my dad dying when I was pg) However, I resented the bit implying that

a BIG emotional trauma during pg (I was depressed too for my pg) could

affect your unborn child and coupled with PND could make them more anxious

and withdrawn (SHY).

My son is of the BOLD type, more like Paris, very outgoing, happy, giggly

and rather a handful. He is very independent too.

So I found this implication a bit disturbing.

[Guest guest]

> Birth traumas? Well, this doesn't quite match up to yours, but I reckon

my

> mum had a pretty tough time, and I'm stress and depression prone to this

> day.

>

> Anneliese and Baby Tim

Interesting subject - my Mum had a fairly distressed pregnancy with me due

to still getting over her parents both committing suicide a few months

before I was conceived - I would say I am a fairly highly strung/sensitive

sort of person - my birth was very unstressed though - i was an unassisted

homebirth - Dad caught me as the midwife didn't make it in time!

Alfie is definitely much more highly strung than any of my other babies, and

I did experience extreme stress when we moved house in December at 7 months

pregnant - I would say I probably spent about two weeks in a constant state

of very high anxiety over the move and all related problems....he did have a

gentle birth though too.....

Hannah, 27

Mum to Bethany 7, Lawrence 5 1/2, Verity 3, Alfie 4 months

Visit me on the web at :-

http://hannahshome.20m.com

[Guest guest]

From: " Anneliese Handley "

Anneliese_Handley@...>

> I'm stress and depression prone to this day.

I guess I am too, is it in the genes anyway and we are silly to think

otherwise?

[Guest guest]

From: " Anneliese Handley "

Anneliese_Handley@...>

> I'm stress and depression prone to this day.

I guess I am too, is it in the genes anyway and we are silly to think

otherwise?