Teenagers: Jekyll and Hyde! A rant.

[Guest guest]

Last night at suppertime (I can't say " at supper " because he never

actually eats with us, cept on Sabbath) Yeshaya was so sweet, DH and I

were doting on him.

Then he went out (I gave him a lift, to Hampstead Garden Suburb. I was

happy to do it, he was being so sweet.)

Then came Mr. Hyde.

First, he phoned me from Yitzi's, closer to home. Obviously the whole

crowd had migrated there. He said, and I *presume* he was at least

*half* joking: " Mum will you please cook and bring over pizza for

everyone? Oh and drinks... " Needless to say, I told him where to get

off.

That wasn't the worst part. No, the worst part was him coming home

after 2 a.m., with a friend, and both boys taking up residence in my

beautifully and freshly prepared guest room, sheets all washed and

beds all made up for my family who are coming home next week;

hoovered room all full of crisps etc. He also knows we are in a

period of mourning in the Jewish calendar right now; mourning for the

destruction of Solomon's Temple. These nine days, culminating in a 25

hr fast on Sat night => Sunday night, we don't do any unnecessary

laundry, we don't eat meat or drink wine, we don't have proper baths,

cut our hair ,shave, listen to music etc etc. He knew this and yet he

and his friend are sleeping in freshly laundered sheets which were for

his sister and her husband, having eaten crisps and other crumb-making

snacks all over the floor.

I stormed in there this morning, yanked the TV out of the room, and

told him in no uncertain terms that he had better strip the beds,

clean up the room etc etc etc. I am furious! Selfish so and so!

I feel better now!

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

Ooh Ruthie, I'd have been mad too - and I hope you pointed him the

direction of the washing machine too.

Similarly, I got cross with DS as I made the bed in the guest room

this morning for my sister who is on a flying visit (staying overnight

before flying out of Stansted in the morning). No sooner had I shut

the bedroom door when I noticed it was open again. And there was DS

bouncing on the bed and " hiding " under the covers. But other than

straighten it all out, at least I didn't have to clean and wash. Poor

you.

Todman

Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

Mum to , 3½

Teenagers: Jekyll and Hyde! A rant.

> Last night at suppertime (I can't say " at supper " because he never

> actually eats with us, cept on Sabbath) Yeshaya was so sweet, DH and

I

> were doting on him.

>

> Then he went out (I gave him a lift, to Hampstead Garden Suburb. I

was

> happy to do it, he was being so sweet.)

>

> Then came Mr. Hyde.

>

> First, he phoned me from Yitzi's, closer to home. Obviously the

whole

> crowd had migrated there. He said, and I *presume* he was at least

> *half* joking: " Mum will you please cook and bring over pizza for

> everyone? Oh and drinks... " Needless to say, I told him where to

get

> off.

>

> That wasn't the worst part. No, the worst part was him coming home

> after 2 a.m., with a friend, and both boys taking up residence in my

> beautifully and freshly prepared guest room, sheets all washed and

> beds all made up for my family who are coming home next week;

> hoovered room all full of crisps etc. He also knows we are in a

> period of mourning in the Jewish calendar right now; mourning for

the

> destruction of Solomon's Temple. These nine days, culminating in a

25

> hr fast on Sat night => Sunday night, we don't do any unnecessary

> laundry, we don't eat meat or drink wine, we don't have proper

baths,

> cut our hair ,shave, listen to music etc etc. He knew this and yet

he

> and his friend are sleeping in freshly laundered sheets which were

for

> his sister and her husband, having eaten crisps and other

crumb-making

> snacks all over the floor.

>

> I stormed in there this morning, yanked the TV out of the room, and

> told him in no uncertain terms that he had better strip the beds,

> clean up the room etc etc etc. I am furious! Selfish so and so!

>

> I feel better now!

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[Guest guest]

Ooh Ruthie, I'd have been mad too - and I hope you pointed him the

direction of the washing machine too.

Similarly, I got cross with DS as I made the bed in the guest room

this morning for my sister who is on a flying visit (staying overnight

before flying out of Stansted in the morning). No sooner had I shut

the bedroom door when I noticed it was open again. And there was DS

bouncing on the bed and " hiding " under the covers. But other than

straighten it all out, at least I didn't have to clean and wash. Poor

you.

Todman

Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5)

Mum to , 3½

Teenagers: Jekyll and Hyde! A rant.

> Last night at suppertime (I can't say " at supper " because he never

> actually eats with us, cept on Sabbath) Yeshaya was so sweet, DH and

I

> were doting on him.

>

> Then he went out (I gave him a lift, to Hampstead Garden Suburb. I

was

> happy to do it, he was being so sweet.)

>

> Then came Mr. Hyde.

>

> First, he phoned me from Yitzi's, closer to home. Obviously the

whole

> crowd had migrated there. He said, and I *presume* he was at least

> *half* joking: " Mum will you please cook and bring over pizza for

> everyone? Oh and drinks... " Needless to say, I told him where to

get

> off.

>

> That wasn't the worst part. No, the worst part was him coming home

> after 2 a.m., with a friend, and both boys taking up residence in my

> beautifully and freshly prepared guest room, sheets all washed and

> beds all made up for my family who are coming home next week;

> hoovered room all full of crisps etc. He also knows we are in a

> period of mourning in the Jewish calendar right now; mourning for

the

> destruction of Solomon's Temple. These nine days, culminating in a

25

> hr fast on Sat night => Sunday night, we don't do any unnecessary

> laundry, we don't eat meat or drink wine, we don't have proper

baths,

> cut our hair ,shave, listen to music etc etc. He knew this and yet

he

> and his friend are sleeping in freshly laundered sheets which were

for

> his sister and her husband, having eaten crisps and other

crumb-making

> snacks all over the floor.

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> I stormed in there this morning, yanked the TV out of the room, and

> told him in no uncertain terms that he had better strip the beds,

> clean up the room etc etc etc. I am furious! Selfish so and so!

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[Guest guest]

> Ooh Ruthie, I'd have been mad too - and I hope you pointed him the

> direction of the washing machine too.

Well as I said, we aren't really supposed to do much laundry this

week, but my help who is also my mother's nurse, has been doing the

washing. So she stood over him and his friend till they stripped the

beds then snatched the linen away for washing. They certainly got the

message!

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

Hi Ruthie

I meant to reply to your last message but, between keeping the littles out

of their wet-paint bedroom, sorting out my own stroppy pre-adolescent, and

negotiating computer time with DH (a programmer: he's been working from home

AAARGH!), the opportunity seems to have passed. Still, I'm thinking of

you - glad your help has found a solution to this one, and I hope the rest

of the week passes more smoothly.

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

[Guest guest]

Hi Ruthie

I meant to reply to your last message but, between keeping the littles out

of their wet-paint bedroom, sorting out my own stroppy pre-adolescent, and

negotiating computer time with DH (a programmer: he's been working from home

AAARGH!), the opportunity seems to have passed. Still, I'm thinking of

you - glad your help has found a solution to this one, and I hope the rest

of the week passes more smoothly.

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

[Guest guest]

> Hi Ruthie

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> I meant to reply to your last message but, between keeping the

littles out

> of their wet-paint bedroom, sorting out my own stroppy

pre-adolescent, and

> negotiating computer time with DH (a programmer: he's been working

from home

> AAARGH!), the opportunity seems to have passed. Still, I'm thinking

of

> you - glad your help has found a solution to this one, and I hope

the rest

> of the week passes more smoothly.

>

> Vicki Portman

Yesterday, after we had the telling off about the guest room etc out

of the way, Yeshaya asked me if he could have a BBQ and invite all

his mates. I said " what the heck are you going to BBQ? We aren't

allowed meat this week. " (and boys hate fish, generally.) So he said

" veggie stuff. " Tival, an Israeli kosher manufacturer, makes a

terrific range of veggie sausages, shnitzels, burgers etc. I said OK,

and despite the fact that I was teaching at 8 last night, I helped him

get the disposable BBQ going, and put out some peripheral things like

pickles and olives, pita bread, tahina etc. Salads aren't " boy

things " so remained completely untouched! )

It was a big success. A crowd of boys bbqd the veggie meats, and they

cleared up beautifully. The only thing they forgot to do was put the

unopened boxes of Tival products back in the freezer but luckily I got

to them before they all defrosted.

And he steps across the threshold to the guest bedroom on pain of

death!

Ruthie

[Guest guest]

Ruthie I am pleased that he seems to have got the message ;o) a Veggie BBQ

sounds lovely ;o)

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

[Guest guest]

It's goldfish memories, isn't it?! With Jemima, it seems that if I have a

*huge* explosion then she retains it and behaves reasonably well for a day,

maybe two if I'm lucky! Then it's the slide back down to the bottom of the

pit and the build-up to the next huge explosion. What really gets me down,

Ruthie, is that Yeshaya is 16, so you're nearly out of the woods, whereas

Jemima is only 12 so I'm not quite in them yet!! ) (Actually, it's just a

thought, rather than a really gets me down, but i hope ykwim!)

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

[Guest guest]

> It's goldfish memories, isn't it?! With Jemima, it seems that if I

have a

> *huge* explosion then she retains it and behaves reasonably well for

a day,

> maybe two if I'm lucky! Then it's the slide back down to the bottom

of the

> pit and the build-up to the next huge explosion.

Yea I'm P***ed at him atm for not getting up for synagogue this

morning when he said he would, and I woke him 3 times; he's still

asleep now at almost midday. So he's back to not being in my good

books!

Ruthie

What really gets

me down,

> Ruthie, is that Yeshaya is 16, so you're nearly out of the woods,

whereas

> Jemima is only 12 so I'm not quite in them yet!! ) (Actually,

it's just a

> thought, rather than a really gets me down, but i hope ykwim!)

>

> Vicki Portman

>

> http://www.plushpants.co.uk

[Guest guest]

> It's goldfish memories, isn't it?! With Jemima, it seems that if I

have a

> *huge* explosion then she retains it and behaves reasonably well for

a day,

> maybe two if I'm lucky! Then it's the slide back down to the bottom

of the

> pit and the build-up to the next huge explosion.

Yea I'm P***ed at him atm for not getting up for synagogue this

morning when he said he would, and I woke him 3 times; he's still

asleep now at almost midday. So he's back to not being in my good

books!

Ruthie

What really gets

me down,

> Ruthie, is that Yeshaya is 16, so you're nearly out of the woods,

whereas

> Jemima is only 12 so I'm not quite in them yet!! ) (Actually,

it's just a

> thought, rather than a really gets me down, but i hope ykwim!)

>

> Vicki Portman

>

> http://www.plushpants.co.uk