Re: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?

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A Womans point of view. Be honest ! Tell her why you forgot and understand she needs attention too! 37 years is unbelievable. My husband never remembers and even forgets our aniversary every year. get her a small but not roses bouquet with a card saying sorry. if she has been with you this long she Might be thinking your illness is what means most not her. I do mean might.Sometimes we get selfish at least I do and forget others.Not all the time just some. This is just my point of view. JUST a female

Sharon p asthma ph 2008

Subject: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?To: Breathe-Support Date: Monday, March 23, 2009, 10:32 AM

Off topic, but....Never thought I'd be one to ask for help, but I'm really in deep trouble here.23 March, caregiver wife, , is acting very strangely this morning. Very weepy and somewhat remote. Suddenly asks if I know what day this is. With everything that's been going on, I don't even know the Month. I plead ignorance. "It's my Birthday!" says she. I freeze like a deer in the headlights. After 37 years of perfect performance, one "oh oh" wipes it all out. The day's not over yet. Guys, how can I recover? Is it at all possible or am I just roadkill?Bob IPF 04/07

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Bob - Strictly from MY point-of-view, I would feel better if my husband groveled a little bit, apologized, told me that when he wakes up EVERY day, he's glad I was born. And then asked me what he could do to make it up to me.

I'm just saying.......

B

Barbara McD

IPF, Sept 08

Beautiful Western NC

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

To: Breathe-Support Sent: Monday, March 23, 2009 11:32:59 AMSubject: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?

Off topic, but....Never thought I'd be one to ask for help, but I'm really in deep trouble here.23 March, caregiver wife, , is acting very strangely this morning. Very weepy and somewhat remote. Suddenly asks if I know what day this is. With everything that's been going on, I don't even know the Month. I plead ignorance. "It's my Birthday!" says she. I freeze like a deer in the headlights. After 37 years of perfect performance, one "oh oh" wipes it all out. The day's not over yet. Guys, how can I recover? Is it at all possible or am I just roadkill?Bob IPF 04/07

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Bob - Strictly from MY point-of-view, I would feel better if my husband groveled a little bit, apologized, told me that when he wakes up EVERY day, he's glad I was born. And then asked me what he could do to make it up to me.

I'm just saying.......

B

Barbara McD

IPF, Sept 08

Beautiful Western NC

Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. Galatians 6:9

To: Breathe-Support Sent: Monday, March 23, 2009 11:32:59 AMSubject: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?

Off topic, but....Never thought I'd be one to ask for help, but I'm really in deep trouble here.23 March, caregiver wife, , is acting very strangely this morning. Very weepy and somewhat remote. Suddenly asks if I know what day this is. With everything that's been going on, I don't even know the Month. I plead ignorance. "It's my Birthday!" says she. I freeze like a deer in the headlights. After 37 years of perfect performance, one "oh oh" wipes it all out. The day's not over yet. Guys, how can I recover? Is it at all possible or am I just roadkill?Bob IPF 04/07

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Bob

You're dead....lol.....no......oxygen deprivation....remember those

words and use them.

Now, in addition to buying a card, making one online yourself with your

own words would be nice. Also, if you could possibly write a poem, even

better. Now, must do something for her that she would never otherwise do

in addition to taking her to a nice dinner. A day at a very nice spa is

they type thing. Or a piece of jewelry she'll say is extravagant or

something you know she always looks at but is way too practical to get

herself.

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> Off topic, but....

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> Never thought I'd be one to ask for help, but I'm really in deep

trouble here.

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> 23 March, caregiver wife, , is acting very strangely this

morning. Very weepy and somewhat remote. Suddenly asks if I know what

day this is. With everything that's been going on, I don't even know the

Month. I plead ignorance. " It's my Birthday! " says she. I freeze like a

deer in the headlights. After 37 years of perfect performance, one " oh

oh " wipes it all out. The day's not over yet. Guys, how can I recover?

Is it at all possible or am I just roadkill?

>

> Bob IPF 04/07

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Of course you can recover. Time alone will erase the memory. For the immediate, an apology, a hug and a kiss, and perhaps doing something nice for her will go a long way toward healing the wound. If she

continues for awhile, which is likely, to be offended, let her get it out but don't respond in kind.

If she is your caregiver she may feel your lapse of memory of her birthday is a lack of appreciation for all she does for you. If so, you should make her aware of how important her care for you is, and do it every day.

I got all this wisdom from a love counselor who writes for the local paper. She's been married seven times, so she's had plenty of experience with bum husbands.

Jack79/IPF - UIP/dx06/05 Maine

To: Breathe-Support Sent: Monday, March 23, 2009 11:32:59 AMSubject: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?

Off topic, but....Never thought I'd be one to ask for help, but I'm really in deep trouble here.23 March, caregiver wife, , is acting very strangely this morning. Very weepy and somewhat remote. Suddenly asks if I know what day this is. With everything that's been going on, I don't even know the Month. I plead ignorance. "It's my Birthday!" says she. I freeze like a deer in the headlights. After 37 years of perfect performance, one "oh oh" wipes it all out. The day's not over yet. Guys, how can I recover? Is it at all possible or am I just roadkill?Bob IPF 04/07

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1-800-flowers I use them a lot

It works

Walt ipf,nip,nsip 06

Whidbey

Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, "I will try again tomorrow.â€

Subject: Re: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?To: Breathe-Support Date: Monday, March 23, 2009, 10:22 AM

BobYou're dead....lol. ....no... ...oxygen deprivation. ...remember thosewords and use them.Now, in addition to buying a card, making one online yourself with yourown words would be nice. Also, if you could possibly write a poem, evenbetter. Now, must do something for her that she would never otherwise doin addition to taking her to a nice dinner. A day at a very nice spa isthey type thing. Or a piece of jewelry she'll say is extravagant orsomething you know she always looks at but is way too practical to getherself.>> Off topic, but....>> Never thought I'd be one to ask for help, but I'm really in deeptrouble here.>> 23 March, caregiver wife, , is acting very strangely

thismorning. Very weepy and somewhat remote. Suddenly asks if I know whatday this is. With everything that's been going on, I don't even know theMonth. I plead ignorance. "It's my Birthday!" says she. I freeze like adeer in the headlights. After 37 years of perfect performance, one "ohoh" wipes it all out. The day's not over yet. Guys, how can I recover?Is it at all possible or am I just roadkill?>> Bob IPF 04/07>

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The experienced newspaper columist or. . . Could it be that you are so wise because you've skipped a birthday or two yourself? R. (53) Sarcoid/PF 3/2006 Carlsbad, California

Subject: Re: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?To: Breathe-Support Date: Monday, March 23, 2009, 11:38 AM

Of course you can recover. Time alone will erase the memory. For the immediate, an apology, a hug and a kiss, and perhaps doing something nice for her will go a long way toward healing the wound. If she

continues for awhile, which is likely, to be offended, let her get it out but don't respond in kind.

If she is your caregiver she may feel your lapse of memory of her birthday is a lack of appreciation for all she does for you. If so, you should make her aware of how important her care for you is, and do it every day.

I got all this wisdom from a love counselor who writes for the local paper. She's been married seven times, so she's had plenty of experience with bum husbands.

Jack79/IPF - UIP/dx06/05 Maine

From: Dopher <rcdopher (AT) hughes (DOT) net>To: Breathe-Support@ yahoogroups. comSent: Monday, March 23, 2009 11:32:59 AMSubject: Men only...The eigth deadly sin?

Off topic, but....Never thought I'd be one to ask for help, but I'm really in deep trouble here.23 March, caregiver wife, , is acting very strangely this morning. Very weepy and somewhat remote. Suddenly asks if I know what day this is. With everything that's been going on, I don't even know the Month. I plead ignorance. "It's my Birthday!" says she. I freeze like a deer in the headlights. After 37 years of perfect performance, one "oh oh" wipes it all out. The day's not over yet. Guys, how can I recover? Is it at all possible or am I just roadkill?Bob IPF 04/07