Guest guest Posted July 2, 2001 Report Share Posted July 2, 2001 fab131 wrote: > discovered that my parents did not get > married until I was five and a half years old (DB was four and DSis > was three!). I discovered recently that friends of my parents got married last year - without telling their children or any friends apart from Mum and Dad (witnesses at the wedding) they had been living together for 30 years and had always called themselves 'Mr and Mrs. X' and thought that the time had come to make it official! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 3, 2001 Report Share Posted July 3, 2001 >My parents virtually forced DH and I to get married when we bought our >first house as there was no way we were going to live in sin. We went >along with it but DH was extremely dischuffed some three years later >when I, >having started my family tree, discovered that my parents did not get >married until I was five and a half years old (DB was four and DSis >was three!). Dad was already married and could not get a divorce for >quite some time! I've never told my mum I found out though as when I >first discovered the fact Dad was terminally ill and thereafter the >time never seemed quite right. > >Francesca On my mother's side of the family there were two children born out of wedlock and it was all quite open. My great grandmother had her first child with someone else and they were not allowed to marry at the time, and she married someone else, and a great aunt and uncle were not allowed to marry until the child was 5 and they had enough money to support themselves. That's partly why it was so funny that my grandparents were so secretive (mind you, as a Methodist minister...) - my aunt was pretty upset to find out she'd been conceived out of wedlock. My brother and I were actually rather impressed - after all, we have never had the feeling that they only married because she was pregnant and it seemed a happy marriage. If the piece of paper is there but the love and respect are not then it don't mean a thing. I was pretty amazed to find myself agreeing to risk conception outside marriage or even living together and neither planned, but it seems that this was the only way we/he could do it, and it seems to have worked so far. It was as if everything fell into place for DH once I was pregnant. 4th July, pregnancy test, two days later he decides he will sell his house, another three days and he shows up with a ring... -- jennifer@... Vaudin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2001 Report Share Posted July 4, 2001 Whilst writing my earlier post I have just realised that I have been with DH longer than I have been without him IYSWIM. We met when I was 15 and started going out together when I was 16. So I had 16 years without him and now I'm 34 I've had 18 years with him (8 before we got married and we'll be married 10 years this September). Useless thought of the day Todman Treasurer, Stansted Branch (R5) Mum to , 3½ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2001 Report Share Posted July 4, 2001 Even at this late stage we have still lived together for longer than we have been married ( oh no that's a fib 2 years going out, 9 years living together, nearly married for 9 years), what I can't stand is the hypocrisy - we all had to celebrate PIL's golden wedding anniversary this year - in fact it's not until next year but since their oldest daughter is 50 a month later we all have to have this silly charade. Curran Mum to Tim (7), (5), (3) and Philip 26/10/00 Co-Chair, MVA, Valley cushion agent, homebirth support and booking clerk Selby Rural NCT Region 7 Secretary Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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