Troublesome teens

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Ruthie,

It sounds like you are having a horrendous time. I have never

replied to your angst posts as like many here I just don't know what

to say...{{{hugs}}}}

Anyway, I don't know if this will be of any help, but I do have vague

recollections of my teens, and I may be able to draw some parallels..

I had a spinal injury when i was 13 and spent a couple of years in

hospital. When i came out, aged 15 i was encased (literally) in

plaster, and had to do loads of spinal exercise which hurt, and made

me feel constrained (I am trying to make a clumsy parallel her

between my feelings of constraint anf maybe how Yeshaya feels?)

My parents were obviously concerned about my health and made me do

these exercises, when all I wanted to do was develop my social life.

The more they pushed (as I saw it) the more I rebelled, and I ended

up leaving just before I was 16. Looking back, I know they were

caring for me, but from my point of view, I just wanted to find my

own way of doing things.

When i left, i soon realised that I had to do the exercise and stuff,

and because I had realised this, I did them a lot better

too!....Maybe ..if you can...it must be so hard, you do need to take

a step back?...all children need to rebel, and maybe it would be

better if he did it now rather than later, like your older son?

Maybe he sees the way his brother treats you, yet still you support

him (financially and otherwise...this may be an incentive for his

behaviour?...I don't know, but, I can say that i was an awful

teenager, and I think I've turned out OK in the end

Here's hoping anyway!

Emma