Re: Religion and living in sin

[Guest guest]

I have the boring-est family in the world - all complete atheists. My

mum, dad, brother, sister, 's mum, his dad, both his sisters. I

think there is some Cof E back amongst our grandparents. My only

experience of religion was visits to a temple, a mosque

and my local CofE church that I did for a course at college. And then

there was my undergrad dissertation which I did on Islam and women,

much to the concern of my parents who were worried I was about to

convert! Other than that I can count all the times I have been to a

church and that was all funerals and weddings.

Lack or religion is further demonstrated by family tradition of living

in sin. I am living in sin with the father of my 18 month old

daughter. My boyfriends parents only bothered to get married about 5

years ago, after 27? years together. My parents did marry but

separated when I was 8. All our siblings have lived in sin although my

brother now married and DP's elder sister engaged.

Am I the only person on this list currently living in sin?

That makes me feel really odd! I barely know anyone married though

lots of living together couples - perhaps partly because of my age

(24) though even amongst my ex-boyfriends friends (all about 12 years

older) hardly any of them are married.

[Guest guest]

> Am I the only person on this list currently living in sin?

> That makes me feel really odd! I barely know anyone married

though

I hardly know anyone 'living with' rather than 'married to' weirdly!

Maybe it is being 36 - more likely to be surrounded by other

marrieds with kids i suppose. Despite my earlier post about my

faith - we did actually live together before we married - but only

after we were engaged! We had both been out with other people

before and knew we were the one so that was all there was to it.

I have actually known lots of couples break up who were

Christian but didn't fnd out that they were compatible before

getting married - and soon separated

Our minister who married us didn't bat an eyelid when we said

about our living arrangelments (considering we were arranging

our joint baptism and church membership at the same time). He

simply asked if we could could abstain for the week before we

married and hold off the baptism until after we got back from

honeymoon.

Caroline

[Guest guest]

I was/am Cof E. That's what both parents were although they never went to

church - well very rarely. My sister and I were christened before we flew

for the first time at about 5 and 3 - I don't remember it at all.

I became extremely devout at about age 13 and used to go to church every

Sunday with my best friend and her parents. I think my parents were rather

embarrassed by it. Got confirmed at age 14, became more and more pious. Did

my work experience at 15 with a group of local vicars! Took Religious

Studies at A level, wanted to be a nun, then very abruptly completely lost

my faith.

I can remember the exact moment it happened, and exactly what I was doing -

I was 17 and I can remember thinking 'I don't have to put myself through

this anymore' and that was it 'poof' gone.

Since then I've never managed to bring myself to believe in anything much at

all.

None of my children have been christened.

Hannah, 27

Mum to Bethany 7, Lawrence 5 1/2, Verity 3, Alfie 4 months

Visit me on the web at :-

http://hannahshome.20m.com

[Guest guest]

I was raised Presbyterian and then Methodist, but am now

agnostic. I wasn’t baptised until I chose to be when I

joined the Methodist church when I was 13-ish. I then

remained a believer until I was about 18, when the scales

fell away from my eyes about the internal church politics

that have nothing to do with faith and which seemed to

determine everything about how worship was conducted, etc.

So actually, I still think there is probably a God, but

that organised religions don’t adequately describe it.

DH was raised atheist and still definitely is. His brother,

however, has become very very Catholic (one of those

branches that the Pope thinks about excommunicating every

now and then) after a spell in a

health-food/orgnaic/macrobiotic cult (he wants someone to

give him ALL the answers to EVERYTHING, we think).

I once ‘lived in sin’ with a guy for a few months, but he

had to go back to France and the long-distance thing fell

apart. DH and I were living together in his mom’s house (!)

for the 2 months before we got married, but that was mostly

OK with my parents, as we were engaged and obviously about

to get married, though we didn’t get married in church (so

would be officially living in sin anyway, I guess).

Phyllis

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[Guest guest]

I was raised Presbyterian and then Methodist, but am now

agnostic. I wasn’t baptised until I chose to be when I

joined the Methodist church when I was 13-ish. I then

remained a believer until I was about 18, when the scales

fell away from my eyes about the internal church politics

that have nothing to do with faith and which seemed to

determine everything about how worship was conducted, etc.

So actually, I still think there is probably a God, but

that organised religions don’t adequately describe it.

DH was raised atheist and still definitely is. His brother,

however, has become very very Catholic (one of those

branches that the Pope thinks about excommunicating every

now and then) after a spell in a

health-food/orgnaic/macrobiotic cult (he wants someone to

give him ALL the answers to EVERYTHING, we think).

I once ‘lived in sin’ with a guy for a few months, but he

had to go back to France and the long-distance thing fell

apart. DH and I were living together in his mom’s house (!)

for the 2 months before we got married, but that was mostly

OK with my parents, as we were engaged and obviously about

to get married, though we didn’t get married in church (so

would be officially living in sin anyway, I guess).

Phyllis

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[Guest guest]

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We only have 2 sets of friends who are living together not married. One set the

guy says he doesn't " believe " in marriage I tell him that is like saying " I

don't believe in chocolate " Marriage may not be something that you wish to do

yourself (I don't personally have a problem with this) but it is still a fact

and not something up for is it is it not something (unlike ufo's and near death

experiences - both stuff I believe in btw )

but this is our English set. In Denmark I have 6 sets of friends and only 2 are

married one got married after being told by their solicitor that now it would

really make things far easier if they married as it would save them a lot of

money and worries should anything happen, and the other set got married on the

day they had their daughter christened (my friend said we felt like either we do

it now or we forget all about it.. Also all 6 of them had at least 1 child

before getting married, in fact I remember when dh and I said we where getting

married everyone assumed that I was pg they where really surprised that I

wasn't.. I hope that when it comes to it I will be fine about what the girls

decide to do (living together or marriage) but I do hope that they will

eventually decide to marry (being old fashioned I guess ) should they decide not

to I doubt I will have much of a problem with it.. MIL will probably have a fit

though ;o)

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

Re: Religion and living in sin

I have the boring-est family in the world - all complete atheists. My

mum, dad, brother, sister, 's mum, his dad, both his sisters. I

think there is some Cof E back amongst our grandparents. My only

experience of religion was visits to a temple, a mosque

and my local CofE church that I did for a course at college. And then

there was my undergrad dissertation which I did on Islam and women,

much to the concern of my parents who were worried I was about to

convert! Other than that I can count all the times I have been to a

church and that was all funerals and weddings.

Lack or religion is further demonstrated by family tradition of living

in sin. I am living in sin with the father of my 18 month old

daughter. My boyfriends parents only bothered to get married about 5

years ago, after 27? years together. My parents did marry but

separated when I was 8. All our siblings have lived in sin although my

brother now married and DP's elder sister engaged.

Am I the only person on this list currently living in sin?

That makes me feel really odd! I barely know anyone married though

lots of living together couples - perhaps partly because of my age

(24) though even amongst my ex-boyfriends friends (all about 12 years

older) hardly any of them are married.

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