Ingrid and aaarrrggghhhhh

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Dear Ingrid,

When Janet was diagnosed with cc she wanted life to stay the same and wanted

everything to be as normal as possible. We have two children and they are 10 and

sixteen years old. My thinking was that would had been nice but it was going to

be impossible for things to be normal and stay the same because I knew that that

was not the way it was going to work.

You don't plan to get sick. And when a love one is sick there are sacrifices

that must be made so the one that is ill can get better.

I believe it is called responsibility.

The kids have to pull in and help, the kids have to help and you need to let go

and put yourself on hold and get yourself in a mental and physical situation

that will help you heal.

We helprd Janet as a family and even though Janet felt bad about not getting our

daughter to swimming or there was a party she missed, Lizzie didn't seem to mine

and she enjoyed being around and helping mom. Nate at sixteen was not a big help

and I think he didn't miss out on too much.

In your case Ingrid I know it is a little different. You live on a farm and It

seems you do not have a lot of friends or family coming by to help or offer

support.

This illness I know will NOT last forever and you need the " Time OUT " to heal

yourself and family needs to let you rest and heal.

You have my permission.

Your son is young, there is a lot ahead for him and having his mom there is the

most important thing now and getting you back on your feet will take some

sacrifices. Part of growing up is dealing with illness.

This is only a little setback for you, in time this will be just a bad memory.

It has been a few weeks since Janet has had her CT Scan and " NED'.

Lizzie is in Camp for two weeks and I am teaching Nate how to drive and he is

running around with his girlfreind.....life goes on.

Larry

Ingrid Lowe lowenco@...> wrote:

Thanks Marty. Yes, He likes being there for me. But often see my son

wanting to do some fun things too with his friends. I let him go

often. But sometimes I have to say no since I need his help so much.

I am getting a little better and stronger each day. But still need so

much from my son. He helps me with all the critters we have and often

has to do my chores and errands. Yes, I know it will make a better

person of him. Just am terrified that I have passed the gene on to

him and he will need to keep himself checked for colon cancer

starting in his twenties. I love my son to peices and only want the

best for him. Ingrid

> >> > I have alot of evasive doctors. None seem to want to make a

> >> statement of any kind.

> >> > One told me it could take a year, one told me I'd be this way

the

> >> rest of my life, however long that may be (wasn't that just sweet

> > of

> >> him?). My local doctor is the most supportive. I see him again

next

> >> Wednesday. So far we haven't tried much of anything except

> > exercise,

> >> trying to get some muscle mass back again in my legs.

> >> > He now has my records, so I think it is time to get started on

> >> figuring something out.

> >> >

> >> > I am sorry if I sounded snippy in my reply to you earlier, I

sure

> >> didn't mean it that way. I just get so dishearted. The last

thing a

> >> cancer survivor wants to hear is that something is going to take

> >> time. time is precious. I want to use it NOW....not wait!!! Good

> >> grief:)

> >> >

> >> > Believe it or not, something that does seem to " stick " are eggs

> >> over easy. Figure that one out???? As a matter of fact, I'm

getting

> >> ready to fix two right now. My days and nights are mixed up

again.

> > So

> >> I may as well go ahead and eat breakfast!hahaha

> >> >

> >> > nancy

> >> > Re: aaarrrggghhhhh

> >> >

> >> >

> >> > What does you doc say ?

> >> >

> >> > I don't take Immodium everyday but I will take it in the

> > morning

> >> if this continues. I have lomotil but I know that is addictive

so

> > I

> >> don't like to take it. How about the metamucil wafers??

> >> >

> >> > I have really learned I cannot eat anything after 8:00 PM.

If

> > I

> >> get to starving, I eat dry toast.

> >> >

> >> > Stay in touch.

> >> >

> >> > Karima

> >> >

> >> >