Guest guest Posted July 1, 2001 Report Share Posted July 1, 2001 Firstly thanks to everyone who did reply about Yeshaya; I do know you must all wonder what you *can* say, as you haven't had experience of teenagers yourselves, so sometimes it's easier just to pass that post by and reply to one you can answer. I guess I just needed a bit of sympathy rather than solutions! He's still sleeping right now so I haven't had to confront him this morning. I gave his phone to DH, since he is flavour of the months atm, and I am out of favour, so he can negotiate with him about getting it back. I don't think Yeshaya really wants to live on his own, nor does he want to live with his family; he would really like to live with a friend like Zevi I think, only that ain't going to happen. So he will just have to put up with us till he moves out when he goes to yeshivah or whatever. I only had 3 hours sleep last night; I was so stressed I couldn't fall asleep till 4 a.m. and was awake by 7. Regarding in laws. My MIL (85) lives up the road to us, on her own and is totally dependent on one of the family to keep an eye on her, take her out, have her for Sabbath etc. Usually the main onus falls upon her daughter Judy, my SIL, and my own daughter Tammy is *very* good at keeping her grandma amused when she has time. But this Sabbath Judy has been away in Israel and the other son and daughter-in-law also were away for the w/e so it was all on us to have her for every meal and keep her entertained. I can't envisage a situation where we only see our in laws every few weeks, unless they live a considerable distance. They used to live in Sunderland when my FIL was alive and fit, but they would still come and stay for the weekend with Judy (mainly) every few weeks. However, I do think it important to have ground rules, and if you have something planned, then say it isn't a good time today, but *make an alternative date* so that your in-laws don't just feel fobbed off. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2001 Report Share Posted July 1, 2001 > Firstly thanks to everyone who did reply about Yeshaya; I do know you > must all wonder what you *can* say, as you haven't had experience of > teenagers yourselves, Ruthie This is exactly what I was thinking - how can I help Ruthie when I struggle enough trying to cope with a nearly 3 year old! Your posts about Yeshaya do however make me think long and hard about how we will cope with those teenage years which are really not that far away. I am not so sure that I would be able to stay as calm as you (apparantly) come across. Anyway - DD1 is not 3 yet so I will not wish away the years. Thoughts are with you Beverly SAHM Grace nearly 3 and Emilie 15 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2001 Report Share Posted July 1, 2001 > Firstly thanks to everyone who did reply about Yeshaya; I do know you > must all wonder what you *can* say, as you haven't had experience of > teenagers yourselves, Ruthie This is exactly what I was thinking - how can I help Ruthie when I struggle enough trying to cope with a nearly 3 year old! Your posts about Yeshaya do however make me think long and hard about how we will cope with those teenage years which are really not that far away. I am not so sure that I would be able to stay as calm as you (apparantly) come across. Anyway - DD1 is not 3 yet so I will not wish away the years. Thoughts are with you Beverly SAHM Grace nearly 3 and Emilie 15 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2001 Report Share Posted July 1, 2001 > This is exactly what I was thinking - how can I help Ruthie when I > struggle enough trying to cope with a nearly 3 year old! Your posts > about Yeshaya do however make me think long and hard about how we > will cope with those teenage years which are really not that far > away. I am not so sure that I would be able to stay as calm as you > (apparantly) come across. Anyway - DD1 is not 3 yet so I will not > wish away the years. > Thoughts are with you > > Beverly > SAHM Grace nearly 3 and Emilie 15 months I wish I was calm! Last night I was hysterical when he " ran away " , and I did quite a bit of crying over Sabbath. I will keep that email from Mimi my editor close to my heart: " Be hugely patient, hugely loving, sparing on red line behavior and, as one blunt psychologist told my husband, " Be his father and not his rabbi. " Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2001 Report Share Posted July 1, 2001 > This is exactly what I was thinking - how can I help Ruthie when I > struggle enough trying to cope with a nearly 3 year old! Your posts > about Yeshaya do however make me think long and hard about how we > will cope with those teenage years which are really not that far > away. I am not so sure that I would be able to stay as calm as you > (apparantly) come across. Anyway - DD1 is not 3 yet so I will not > wish away the years. > Thoughts are with you > > Beverly > SAHM Grace nearly 3 and Emilie 15 months I wish I was calm! Last night I was hysterical when he " ran away " , and I did quite a bit of crying over Sabbath. I will keep that email from Mimi my editor close to my heart: " Be hugely patient, hugely loving, sparing on red line behavior and, as one blunt psychologist told my husband, " Be his father and not his rabbi. " Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2001 Report Share Posted July 1, 2001 Exactly Beverly. Ruthie, your messages strike fear into my heart - what will my three boys be like?!?!? And I know it will come round very quickly. I don't have anything to add to everyone else, but am thinking of you. I don't have any experience of teenagers yet, but do vaguely remember how much I played up for my parents. I know I didn't work for my school exams and that used to send them frantic, but I can't really think what set the major rows off or what would have helped. We go on holiday together now if that helps..... Hope you get some sleep. Hannah Re: in laws...and Yeshaya > Firstly thanks to everyone who did reply about Yeshaya; I do know you > must all wonder what you *can* say, as you haven't had experience of > teenagers yourselves, Ruthie This is exactly what I was thinking - how can I help Ruthie when I struggle enough trying to cope with a nearly 3 year old! Your posts about Yeshaya do however make me think long and hard about how we will cope with those teenage years which are really not that far away. I am not so sure that I would be able to stay as calm as you (apparantly) come across. Anyway - DD1 is not 3 yet so I will not wish away the years. Thoughts are with you Beverly SAHM Grace nearly 3 and Emilie 15 months *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 1, 2001 Report Share Posted July 1, 2001 Exactly Beverly. Ruthie, your messages strike fear into my heart - what will my three boys be like?!?!? And I know it will come round very quickly. I don't have anything to add to everyone else, but am thinking of you. I don't have any experience of teenagers yet, but do vaguely remember how much I played up for my parents. I know I didn't work for my school exams and that used to send them frantic, but I can't really think what set the major rows off or what would have helped. We go on holiday together now if that helps..... Hope you get some sleep. Hannah Re: in laws...and Yeshaya > Firstly thanks to everyone who did reply about Yeshaya; I do know you > must all wonder what you *can* say, as you haven't had experience of > teenagers yourselves, Ruthie This is exactly what I was thinking - how can I help Ruthie when I struggle enough trying to cope with a nearly 3 year old! Your posts about Yeshaya do however make me think long and hard about how we will cope with those teenage years which are really not that far away. I am not so sure that I would be able to stay as calm as you (apparantly) come across. Anyway - DD1 is not 3 yet so I will not wish away the years. Thoughts are with you Beverly SAHM Grace nearly 3 and Emilie 15 months *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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