Re: Re: GOODBYE and thick skinned

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In a message dated 24/08/2001 13:56:56 GMT Daylight Time,

lesley.reader@... writes:

> As for the term 'thick skinned' - I always find comments of that kind

> somewhat self indulgent. IME those who consider themselves 'thin skinned,

> 'sensitive' or whathaveyou always seem to be the least sensitive to other

> peoples feeling as they are so wrapped up in themselves. Just IME, as I

> say.

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 24/08/2001 13:56:56 GMT Daylight Time,

lesley.reader@... writes:

> As for the term 'thick skinned' - I always find comments of that kind

> somewhat self indulgent. IME those who consider themselves 'thin skinned,

> 'sensitive' or whathaveyou always seem to be the least sensitive to other

> peoples feeling as they are so wrapped up in themselves. Just IME, as I

> say.

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 24/08/2001 13:56:56 GMT Daylight Time,

lesley.reader@... writes:

> As for the term 'thick skinned' - I always find comments of that kind

> somewhat self indulgent. IME those who consider themselves 'thin skinned,

> 'sensitive' or whathaveyou always seem to be the least sensitive to other

> peoples feeling as they are so wrapped up in themselves. Just IME, as I

> say.

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 24/08/2001 13:56:56 GMT Daylight Time,

lesley.reader@... writes:

> As for the term 'thick skinned' - I always find comments of that kind

> somewhat self indulgent. IME those who consider themselves 'thin skinned,

> 'sensitive' or whathaveyou always seem to be the least sensitive to other

> peoples feeling as they are so wrapped up in themselves. Just IME, as I

> say.

>

>

I agree with this, as I think I may be guilty from time to time!

Mum to Rohan 6 mths

[Guest guest]

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> As for the term 'thick skinned' - I always find comments of that kind

> somewhat self indulgent. IME those who consider themselves 'thin skinned,

> 'sensitive' or whathaveyou always seem to be the least sensitive to other

> peoples feeling as they are so wrapped up in themselves. Just IME, as I

> say.>>>

In my experience most people have times where they can cope with things that are

said or put badly (or even perhaps not intended to but can come out as) and

other times where they just can't cope at all.. personally when I am pg I am

far more emotional than I am when not pg.. thing is you don't always know when

people will take what you say (in a email/letter) the wrong way.. I don't

think that is about being wrapped up in themselves.. I have a friend who is the

most caring and sweet lovely person and she gets her self awfully worked up

about stuff that I don't feel really is aimed at making her feel this way.. She

is just not very good at reading people's writing.. but if she has you face to

face so she can read your body language and hear your tone of voice she never

get's upset about far worse things than I have seen her be upset about in

writing.. At times people forget that you can put a sarcky tone to a email and

you cant put a smiley tone on the mail (smiliey's help but even then it is not

100%)... doesn't mean that the person who takes it " wrongly " is wrapped up in

themselves just that they are having a bad moment or perhaps are not very good

at dealing with written words..

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.