Guest guest Posted August 17, 2001 Report Share Posted August 17, 2001 What an awful situation, Ruthie. I bet your friend is feeling terribly lonely. Can you let her know how deeply you feel for her, and how much you're praying for her, without putting any pressure on her to tell you anything? That way, perhaps, she might feel less isolated at such a dreadful time, and you would know you're doing what you can to support her and that she knows it, too. I hope you find a way out of this - it's so sad! Vicki Portman - whose no mail doesn't seem to have taken hold, yet! http://www.plushpants.co.uk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2001 Report Share Posted August 18, 2001 > I was so sorry to read this, Ruthie, I think the only thing you can do > is let her know you're there if she wants to talk. Also is there any > practical help you can offer? > > Thinking of you, > > Francesca R always knows I am there to help whenever and whatever she needs. Trouble is, she doesn't often want or need anyone to do anything. A few weeks ago I was driving home from an early shopping expedition (she lives in my road), and I saw R trudging up the street; she flagged me down and asked me to drive her to the local fish shop, as she had a mini cab arriving in 20 mns to take her to the hospital and she wanted to buy and steam a piece of fish for S. (hospital kosher meals are a bit unsuitable for people as frail as S). I was just SO happy to do ANYTHING to help, I drove her there, waited on the ziggy zaggy till she came out again, and drove her home, feeling for a change, I had done *something*. When her elder son had the stroke, yrs ago, it was a sudden, and MUCh more public emergency and at that time I did a lot more to help, including having her younger son, a toddler at the time, to stay for 3 weeks. Ruthie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2001 Report Share Posted August 19, 2001 She might be one of those people who really does not want to impose and thinks that even if you offer you don't really mean it. I know because I am a bit like that. I think the fact she waited until she saw you out in the car before asking for a lift probably shows that. Having said that, I don't know how else you can help tho' other than ring her directly a couple of times a week and ask if she needs a lift anywhere or anything picking up?! JM2P! Francesca Re: Ruthie's friend > > > I was so sorry to read this, Ruthie, I think the only thing you can > do > > is let her know you're there if she wants to talk. Also is there > any > > practical help you can offer? > > > > Thinking of you, > > > > Francesca > > R always knows I am there to help whenever and whatever she needs. > Trouble is, she doesn't often want or need anyone to do anything. > > A few weeks ago I was driving home from an early shopping > expedition (she lives in my road), and I saw R trudging up the > street; she flagged me down and asked me to drive her to the local > fish shop, as she had a mini cab arriving in 20 mns to take her to > the hospital and she wanted to buy and steam a piece of fish for S. > (hospital kosher meals are a bit unsuitable for people as frail as > S). I was just SO happy to do ANYTHING to help, I drove her there, > waited on the ziggy zaggy till she came out again, and drove her > home, feeling for a change, I had done *something*. When her elder > son had the stroke, yrs ago, it was a sudden, and MUCh more public > emergency and at that time I did a lot more to help, including having > her younger son, a toddler at the time, to stay for 3 weeks. > > Ruthie > > > > > > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2001 Report Share Posted August 19, 2001 She might be one of those people who really does not want to impose and thinks that even if you offer you don't really mean it. I know because I am a bit like that. I think the fact she waited until she saw you out in the car before asking for a lift probably shows that. Having said that, I don't know how else you can help tho' other than ring her directly a couple of times a week and ask if she needs a lift anywhere or anything picking up?! JM2P! Francesca Re: Ruthie's friend > > > I was so sorry to read this, Ruthie, I think the only thing you can > do > > is let her know you're there if she wants to talk. Also is there > any > > practical help you can offer? > > > > Thinking of you, > > > > Francesca > > R always knows I am there to help whenever and whatever she needs. > Trouble is, she doesn't often want or need anyone to do anything. > > A few weeks ago I was driving home from an early shopping > expedition (she lives in my road), and I saw R trudging up the > street; she flagged me down and asked me to drive her to the local > fish shop, as she had a mini cab arriving in 20 mns to take her to > the hospital and she wanted to buy and steam a piece of fish for S. > (hospital kosher meals are a bit unsuitable for people as frail as > S). I was just SO happy to do ANYTHING to help, I drove her there, > waited on the ziggy zaggy till she came out again, and drove her > home, feeling for a change, I had done *something*. When her elder > son had the stroke, yrs ago, it was a sudden, and MUCh more public > emergency and at that time I did a lot more to help, including having > her younger son, a toddler at the time, to stay for 3 weeks. > > Ruthie > > > > > > > *** NCT enquiry line - 0 *** > > Live chat http://www.yahoogroups.com/chat/nct-coffee > > Have you found out about all the other groups for the NCT online? > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2001 Report Share Posted August 20, 2001 Ruthie, all you can do is be confident that you have offered help and that your friend knows you are there for her ,that will mean a lot in itself to her. Sonjia Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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