Meant to be Mummies was Re: Lonnie

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I felt that I was somehow 'meant' to be a mother of boys and

interestingly my best friend said that was how she sees me. I don't

know why that should be - it isn't due to my severe Barbie aversion,

and I do like the idea of a daughter to whom I could pass on all my

worthy prejudices which however I look at it, aren't quite the same

passed on to boys for the mothers of their children at second hand

(though we have of course established that our sons (aka

Mandelson and So Vaudin) are not going to provide us with

grandchildren. I think Lonnie you are right, there are people to whom

mothering (or fathering) a particular sex comes more naturally.

Doesn't mean you make a bad job of it though. And I think the jump

from two to three is probably significant as well (would like to be

able to comment from experience - I would like a daughter but I think

3 boys would be a scream - if you think of yourself as a mother of

boys then you really need 3 to prove it :-) I have not had the

success certain others of you have had in selling the idea to DH that

3 is a perfect number, so I am consoling myself (ha!) with the

thought that a 3rd pregnancy would be twins with complications,

hospital birth, ages in antenatal ward and SCBU... and not the

elusive stress free pregnancy I crave. Quit whilst you are at least

level, I tell myself, after a straightforward home birth!)

Vicki, I do *not* know what you mean when you say you can't dress

boys up. The only thing no-one warned me about when having two boys

was the awful passion I have for dressing them up in matching clothes.

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jennifer@...

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