HELP!!!! She's driving me crazy

[Guest guest]

Anyone out there with some good advice? I've got a 'friend' who is

friends with ALL my friends. The thing is this:

We BOTH got married this year

We BOTH turn 30 this year

and I'm 6 months pregnant... SHE has been trying SOOO hard to get

pregnant too since... and now: she is!

This is the kind of girl who brags about everything she has, only

talks about herself in groups, as well as individually. She's

OBSESSED with one thing after another (OBSESSED is the true word for

it) So, NOW: she's pregnant and wants to become my closest buddy...

oh wait: did i mention that my husband and i just bought a Toyota

RAV4 this year and NOW... (in spite of the fact that she can't afford

it)- just bought a Toyota 4-Runner Limited Edition!!!! She told me,

without my asking, how much she paid for it and in turn... asked me

what we paid for ours!!! She's driving me crazy and I don't know

what to do about this girl. The thing is also.. I'll be joining some

local groups in town for babies/moms... and since she lives in the

vacinity of the same organizations... she's probably going to want to

do the same!!!!!!! I can't get away and I feel trapped.. I don't

want to feel this way about her (it truly makes me feel like a bad

person) BUT... I can't help it. I'm happy for her in a way.. but at

the same time ... she's just ON MY NERVES> I've become obsessed now!

HELP!

[Guest guest]

Hi! Welcome to NCT-coffee! Please could you take a few minutes to

introduce yourself to the group - just let us know your name, where you

live etc.

I'm not sure what kind of advice to give you about your little problem.

Could it all be a great big coincidence?

Thanks,

Joyce

co-moderator

HELP!!!! She's driving me crazy

Anyone out there with some good advice?

[Guest guest]

Hi! Welcome to NCT-coffee! Please could you take a few minutes to

introduce yourself to the group - just let us know your name, where you

live etc.

I'm not sure what kind of advice to give you about your little problem.

Could it all be a great big coincidence?

Thanks,

Joyce

co-moderator

HELP!!!! She's driving me crazy

Anyone out there with some good advice?

[Guest guest]

Hi! Welcome to NCT-coffee! Please could you take a few minutes to

introduce yourself to the group - just let us know your name, where you

live etc.

I'm not sure what kind of advice to give you about your little problem.

Could it all be a great big coincidence?

Thanks,

Joyce

co-moderator

HELP!!!! She's driving me crazy

Anyone out there with some good advice?

[Guest guest]

She sounds like my aunt (who is actually now dead ... RIP). She upset my

mother for years by always doing one better, and always comparing herself to

us. She really knocked my mums confidence for six. In fact the truth is

that she was the one with the deep set insecurities, and that was her way of

making herself feel better, by outdoing everyone ele that she looked up to.

So if I were you, dont rise to it, when she starts to rant about how

wonderful something is, listen, and make no comment, and then change the

subject. It works, and its not rude, if you do it with a cheery manner!

My cousin (the same aunts daughter) is the same, whatever I have ever done in

my life, she either knows someone, or her herself, has done it bigger and

better! I always want to pull my hair out after spending a few hours with

her. Since she moved to france, I only have to do it on a yearly basis!!

Good luck,

Mum to Rohan (5mths)

[Guest guest]

>Suselma writes:

> Anyone out there with some good advice? I've got a 'friend' who is

> friends with ALL my friends ...

...and she may already be a member of this coffee group.

;-)

Barbara