Re: Wedding Speeches [was off tomorrow!]

August 6, 2001

If only he knew that this made my Dad's speech shine all the more in

the

> hearts of everyone.

>

> (fond memories as my Dad passed away 3 1/2 months after our

wedding)

Billie, at least you had the memory of your Dad's lovely speech to

carry with you forever. Think of what Susie has. Her father's speech

, which droned on and on for about twenty minutes of overflowery

purple prose, made him sound so possessive and reluctant to let her

move on, it was practically incestuous.

Ruthie

August 6, 2001

If only he knew that this made my Dad's speech shine all the more in

the

> hearts of everyone.

>

> (fond memories as my Dad passed away 3 1/2 months after our

wedding)

Billie, at least you had the memory of your Dad's lovely speech to

carry with you forever. Think of what Susie has. Her father's speech

, which droned on and on for about twenty minutes of overflowery

purple prose, made him sound so possessive and reluctant to let her

move on, it was practically incestuous.

Ruthie

August 6, 2001

> Billie, at least you had the memory of your Dad's lovely speech to

> carry with you forever. Think of what Susie has. Her father's speech

> , which droned on and on for about twenty minutes of overflowery

> purple prose, made him sound so possessive and reluctant to let her

> move on, it was practically incestuous.

It would be good if we could have some sort of " reading " to someone BEFORE

the event.

August 6, 2001

> Billie, at least you had the memory of your Dad's lovely speech to

> carry with you forever. Think of what Susie has. Her father's speech

> , which droned on and on for about twenty minutes of overflowery

> purple prose, made him sound so possessive and reluctant to let her

> move on, it was practically incestuous.

It would be good if we could have some sort of " reading " to someone BEFORE

the event.

August 6, 2001

> If only he knew that this made my Dad's speech shine all the more in

>the

>> hearts of everyone.

>>

>> (fond memories as my Dad passed away 3 1/2 months after our

>wedding)

>

>Billie, at least you had the memory of your Dad's lovely speech to

>carry with you forever. Think of what Susie has. Her father's speech

>, which droned on and on for about twenty minutes of overflowery

>purple prose, made him sound so possessive and reluctant to let her

>move on, it was practically incestuous.

>

>Ruthie

Let's hope Susie herself doesn't think of it like that! I understand

what you are getting at (I've heard some that never refer to the fact

she's married someone at all), but so often fathers' speeches sound

like their daughter is a burden they are glad to get off their hands.

Someone described our best man's speech as rambling and incoherent

and I thought it was excellent. My father's speech at my first

wedding made me sound promiscuous from birth ( " She'd go to anyone " -

I never got quite what his point was - AFAIK he is usually a good

public speaker so I don't know quite what went wrong). At my second

wedding he was reduced (well, by his own choice) to reading out my

sister's after she had broken down in tears half way through it!

Mind you, I made speeches and they may have been truly dreadful. The

videotape always runs out before then (so they tell me :-)) (though

our still unedited wedding video got washed out of someone's cat flap

in the 98 floods. It was retrieved and pronounced restorable, but

hasn't happened yet)

--

jennifer@...

Vaudin

August 6, 2001

>Someone described our best man's speech as rambling and incoherent

> Vaudin

Our BM's speech *was* rambling and incoherant!! in fact we were

talking about it just last night...funny that.

Dad's was fantastic... he is a very good speaker and presenter, and it

had everyone in tears and rolling with laughter at various points.

Distincty lacking in wedding speech cliches too...thank goodness.

In 1966 he claimed the honour of being one of the first dads at the

local hospital to get permission to be with his wife in labour (went

in clutching the written permission from the consultant as ammo

against officious m/ws) and in his speech made some yukky joke about

thinkig I was very ugly at birth and then being told he was looking at

the placenta! ha ha thanks dad!

the rest though was great.

We still debate (and he won't tell us, though i have my suspicions

knowing dad) whether his opening line of " the thing about weddings is

they produce climactic moments.... < > " was

deliberate or unintentional.... Subtle enough not to offend the

Baptist grandmas & gt aunts, funny enough to impress my friends... I

think he knew!!

I think its a shame he doesn;t have another daughter so he get the

chance to make a speech all over again, OTOH being the only daughter

does make things like that more special.... i like to think anyway!

Angi

August 6, 2001

My Dad maintains that the speech should be made not by the Father of the

Bride but by " a male of the elder generation who has known the bride all her

life " , so the honour went to my uncle who basically " sold " me in the manner

of a door to door salesman. It was a great speech and poor old DH and his

best man were completely outdone.

Cerys

-----Original Message-----

From: Angi

Dad's was fantastic... he is a very good speaker and presenter,

August 6, 2001

My Dad maintains that the speech should be made not by the Father of the

Bride but by " a male of the elder generation who has known the bride all her

life " , so the honour went to my uncle who basically " sold " me in the manner

of a door to door salesman. It was a great speech and poor old DH and his

best man were completely outdone.

Cerys

-----Original Message-----

From: Angi

Dad's was fantastic... he is a very good speaker and presenter,

August 6, 2001

My Dad maintains that the speech should be made not by the Father of the

Bride but by " a male of the elder generation who has known the bride all her

life " , so the honour went to my uncle who basically " sold " me in the manner

of a door to door salesman. It was a great speech and poor old DH and his

best man were completely outdone.

Cerys

-----Original Message-----

From: Angi

Dad's was fantastic... he is a very good speaker and presenter,

August 6, 2001

Not only was our Best Man's speech rambling and incoherent he referred to me

throughout as 'Vicky'

My step father's speech was wonderful - far better than I could have hoped

for, he had Mum and I in tears saying that he felt honoured to have been

asked as he was always aware that although I always called him 'Dad' he

always knew he was taking someone else's place.

I had intended to make a speech - but I didn't feel I could open my mouth

without blubbing so decided not to!!

> >Someone described our best man's speech as rambling and incoherent

> > Vaudin

August 6, 2001

Not only was our Best Man's speech rambling and incoherent he referred to me

throughout as 'Vicky'

My step father's speech was wonderful - far better than I could have hoped

for, he had Mum and I in tears saying that he felt honoured to have been

asked as he was always aware that although I always called him 'Dad' he

always knew he was taking someone else's place.

I had intended to make a speech - but I didn't feel I could open my mouth

without blubbing so decided not to!!

> >Someone described our best man's speech as rambling and incoherent

> > Vaudin

August 6, 2001

Not only was our Best Man's speech rambling and incoherent he referred to me

throughout as 'Vicky'

My step father's speech was wonderful - far better than I could have hoped

for, he had Mum and I in tears saying that he felt honoured to have been

asked as he was always aware that although I always called him 'Dad' he

always knew he was taking someone else's place.

I had intended to make a speech - but I didn't feel I could open my mouth

without blubbing so decided not to!!

> >Someone described our best man's speech as rambling and incoherent

> > Vaudin

August 6, 2001

> Not only was our Best Man's speech rambling and incoherent

he referred to me

> throughout as 'Vicky'

I must admit that both my Dad's and the best man's speeches

were excellent - short, funny and to the point.

I have been to some where the BM speeches could only be

described as totally disastrous!! One turned to the bride and

asked if she was pregnant (as the only reason she would marry

her Dh!) and at least 2 have done rambly ones that were only

audible to the Groom and went on for ages.

I think Best men should only be chosen for their public speaking

abilities - Dh had to choose between 2 best friends - but made

the right choice as Mike was really used to doing public

speaking and was very camp and a Freddie Mercury look a

like!!(with Dh being a sey look alike and his other best

friend a dead ringer for Rik Mayall it was quite funny) He had

known Dh for many years so could bring in those embarrassing

new Romantic outfits that he used to wear and other strange

props!

Caroline

(popping in between holiday and decorating...back to lurking for

a week or so)

August 6, 2001

> Not only was our Best Man's speech rambling and incoherent

he referred to me

> throughout as 'Vicky'

I must admit that both my Dad's and the best man's speeches

were excellent - short, funny and to the point.

I have been to some where the BM speeches could only be

described as totally disastrous!! One turned to the bride and

asked if she was pregnant (as the only reason she would marry

her Dh!) and at least 2 have done rambly ones that were only

audible to the Groom and went on for ages.

I think Best men should only be chosen for their public speaking

abilities - Dh had to choose between 2 best friends - but made

the right choice as Mike was really used to doing public

speaking and was very camp and a Freddie Mercury look a

like!!(with Dh being a sey look alike and his other best

friend a dead ringer for Rik Mayall it was quite funny) He had

known Dh for many years so could bring in those embarrassing

new Romantic outfits that he used to wear and other strange

props!

Caroline

(popping in between holiday and decorating...back to lurking for

a week or so)

August 6, 2001

> Not only was our Best Man's speech rambling and incoherent

he referred to me

> throughout as 'Vicky'

I must admit that both my Dad's and the best man's speeches

were excellent - short, funny and to the point.

I have been to some where the BM speeches could only be

described as totally disastrous!! One turned to the bride and

asked if she was pregnant (as the only reason she would marry

her Dh!) and at least 2 have done rambly ones that were only

audible to the Groom and went on for ages.

I think Best men should only be chosen for their public speaking

abilities - Dh had to choose between 2 best friends - but made

the right choice as Mike was really used to doing public

speaking and was very camp and a Freddie Mercury look a

like!!(with Dh being a sey look alike and his other best

friend a dead ringer for Rik Mayall it was quite funny) He had

known Dh for many years so could bring in those embarrassing

new Romantic outfits that he used to wear and other strange

props!

Caroline

(popping in between holiday and decorating...back to lurking for

a week or so)

August 7, 2001

We asked my Dad to make the only reading at our registry office wedding - we

had the option of someone reading something non-religious while the

registrar was faffing around getting the register ready. I sent him the

Kahlil Gibran passage on love weeks before, but come the wedding day, he

couldn't read it as he broke down in tears - it was very touching, but kind

of frustrating at the same time But he made a lovely speech at the

reception - really affectionate and funny and I almost forgave him for

telling the story about the dog biting my bum when I went for a

surreptitious pee in the garden, aged about 3! We've never got on

particularly well, so it was all a bit moving )

Vicki Portman

http://www.plushpants.co.uk

August 7, 2001