Re: Re : Romantic encounters was: friends reunited website

June 28, 2001

> I think it was who also met her DH through the Net.

Met on IRC on a Saturday - I turned up at his door on the Sunday

we mailed and phoned for the next few days, took Friday off work spent the

w/e together and got engaged, married 5 months later.

The lads from work did describe me " as a marriage waiting to happen "

Too true - I was 33y and longing for a baby.

Wish is some ways I had thought about it some more, bit eager methinks,

however, I have a lovely honeymoon son now, nice house, I'm a SAHM which was

my only ambition, but I suppose I feel I am at a dead end now.

Oh well

> P.s. and , Id like to say that I think that your DH

> reading your email is a complete invasion of your privacy.

The more I think of it the more I am miffed. Bob won't mail me now but he

does phone.

> If hes

> worried about your relationship with this other guy to the

> point where he will read your email, the two of you need to

> talk that out, with or without a counsellor.

Have talked alot, never resolve anything really, just plod along. It doesn't

stop me wanting a new avenue of conversation, flattery. All those things

which I had for those few precious months before motherhood. I have

suggested RELATE but he wouldn't dream of it. I tried.

Got a CPN coming soon to assess me - as I must be going mad.

> Maybe since

> the two of you met on the internet, he figures you could go

> off and do it again with someone else? Just my 2p...

If he doesn't buck up his ideas - I might just do that.

But I guess half of it is me

Life goes on

June 28, 2001

Have talked alot, never resolve anything really, just plod along. It

doesn't

> stop me wanting a new avenue of conversation, flattery. All those

things

> which I had for those few precious months before motherhood. I have

> suggested RELATE but he wouldn't dream of it. I tried.

> Got a CPN coming soon to assess me - as I must be going mad.

: what's a CPN?

I don't know if anyone watched " The Relationship Rabbi " (Rabbi Shmuley

Boteach) on This morning on Carlton on Monday morning? I watched it

while on the treadmill at the gym (that's my excuse anyway!) I find

the Rabbi in question too keen on media attention and very full of

self importance, but I had to admit a lot of what he said made sense.

He was talking about why men, and women, have affairs extra

maritally. He said that women have affairs for exactly the reasons

you mention, , flattery, attention etc, and often to shake up the

husband, only it doesn't work, cos they don't even notice! He said

most women end up confessing unprompted to an affair because their

partner would never have noticed anything was amiss even if they'd

walked up and down wearing a sandwich board proclaiming their

infidelity! He said men have affairs to get some of the excitement

missing in their own marriages and that we women should surprise them

with little romantic gestures in order to keep their straying eyes

from straying! That's when I lost interest. All this : " Come home

darling, I have a surprise waiting for you! " and be waiting wearing

nothing but a basque and a smile, well.. you have to feel they deserve

it first, don't you!!!

Ruthie

June 28, 2001

Oh Ruthie,

You are wonderful, big mega smile on my face and LOL (where's my

sandwich board).

Only thing is that DH DID notice these e-mails from this guy, however, I did

mention to DH some months ago now that I felt guilty about liking this guy

and that we got on well at badminton. Can't help it I am too honest.

As for romantic gestures, DH is NOT interested. I think he finds the

physical thing all too much, I'm much too much " full on " for him to cope

with so I end up not bothering.

Life's little quirks

> : what's a CPN?

Clinical Psychiatric Nurse

> He said that women have affairs for exactly the reasons

> you mention, , flattery, attention etc, and often to shake up the

> husband, only it doesn't work, cos they don't even notice! He said

> most women end up confessing unprompted to an affair because their

> partner would never have noticed anything was amiss even if they'd

> walked up and down wearing a sandwich board proclaiming their

> infidelity! He said men have affairs to get some of the excitement

> missing in their own marriages and that we women should surprise them

> with little romantic gestures in order to keep their straying eyes

> from straying! That's when I lost interest. All this : " Come home

> darling, I have a surprise waiting for you! " and be waiting wearing

> nothing but a basque and a smile, well.. you have to feel they deserve

> it first, don't you!!!

>

> Ruthie

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June 28, 2001