Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 had email from her today she has unsubscribed but for some reason it did not go into effect from word go she went back in and did it again and it seems to be working now.. (perhaps the same thing that happened when I was trying to go no mail over the holidays and it didn't happen until I had fiddled around with it a few times).. Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama & expecting a Christmas delivery... My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you start. So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake. I feel better already. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 >The moderators do try to act in the interests of everyone and it is a >lot nicer to have someone email you privately to say " please change >the subject heading " or " please don't include the whole digest in >your reply " than to have someone say this onlist. The alternative is >to have an unmoderated list which personally I don't think I would be >comfortable with. > >Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting messages, >perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they have to >point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would know >what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators > voluntary) work? > > Lesley And I feel it would be a good idea to have as one of those rules that you contact a moderator *off* list if you feel that someone has overstepped the mark in some way - either in response to you or to someone else. Some things are better dealt with by a quiet word in one's shell like, as says, and by a third party who isn't personally offended. It also smooths out the effects of hormones, bad days, not knowing relevant personal details etc. Just telling someone you feel misunderstood/badly treated may be enough, and doesn't cause a free for all which could last much longer than your original discomfort. It also allows for stronger words if there is a pattern. (Yes, I do think moderators are gods - I used to do it for another list :-)) -- jennifer@... Vaudin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2001 Report Share Posted August 24, 2001 >The moderators do try to act in the interests of everyone and it is a >lot nicer to have someone email you privately to say " please change >the subject heading " or " please don't include the whole digest in >your reply " than to have someone say this onlist. The alternative is >to have an unmoderated list which personally I don't think I would be >comfortable with. > >Some lists have a regular reminder of the " rules " of posting messages, >perhaps we could have that here and then no-one need feel they have to >point out the error of someone's ways onlist and newbies would know >what they were up to? It might also reduce the moderators > voluntary) work? > > Lesley And I feel it would be a good idea to have as one of those rules that you contact a moderator *off* list if you feel that someone has overstepped the mark in some way - either in response to you or to someone else. Some things are better dealt with by a quiet word in one's shell like, as says, and by a third party who isn't personally offended. It also smooths out the effects of hormones, bad days, not knowing relevant personal details etc. Just telling someone you feel misunderstood/badly treated may be enough, and doesn't cause a free for all which could last much longer than your original discomfort. It also allows for stronger words if there is a pattern. (Yes, I do think moderators are gods - I used to do it for another list :-)) -- jennifer@... Vaudin Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2001 Report Share Posted August 25, 2001 > No I can't because there isn't one! See Joyce's post. Rather than > having all this constant bickering about who said what to whom and > whether they should have said it on or offlist why don't you make up a > set of rules you can all be reminded about regularly and then blooming > stick to it. > > I say you, because I am unsubbing from this list. I am sick and tired > of breaking up fights between small children and then coming here and > finding adults who should know better demonstrating the same type of > adolescent behaviour. And please, please note this is not a Goodbye > in the " I'm leaving unless you all be terribly nice to me " petulant > manner that has been demonstrated recently. My life has moved on and > this last two weeks has proved to me that I really don't need the > irritation that Ruthie and have provoked. This list was meant > for enjoyment and escape from the daily grind and its no longer > performing that function for me. > > My very, very best wishes to all of you who have given me so much > pleasure and companionship over the last couple of years but I need to > concentrate on finishing my bfc training and I start an aromatherapy > course in January. If anyone wants my column on a weekly basis I > am happy to add you to my mailing list > > Bye all. > > Lesley ----------------------- I must say I have to agree with some of what has said, the list seems to have lost it's fun chatty side to it over the past couple of months I don't know why but have come to the same conclusions as , I think! I also really have to knuckle down and get on with my NVQ 3 and get on with some of this Trustee paperwork which seems to be growing at a rate of knots in the corner of my bedroom. Maybe I'll pop back in a couple of months and see if things have mellowed out a little. Best wishes. Tupman Mum to Matt 13, 10, Jonty 2 & Phil 36 Torbay & S.Devon Branch NCT Houseswap Register Coordinator NCT UK Trustee Go placidly amidst noise and haste. Why not visit www.nctpregnancyandbabycare.com Or go shopping with NCT Maternity Sales www.nctms.co.uk _________________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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