Re: re puzzled

[Guest guest]

:

Thanks for your suggestions, and you can ask whatever you like Jewish

wise.

Regarding counselling, you know how DS2 has been in the clutches of a

very bad (in our view) counsellor for five years, so as you can

imagine we are *very* wary indeed to start that with Yeshaya.

I must say, that in recent days the single most comforting thing has

been my editor Mimi's email to me which I pasted in part yesterday.

She has two teenage sons very similar to Yeshaya and she and her DH

are very orthodox so she knows exactly what I am going thru. She said

she has been to many experts, and counsellors who all say the same

thing. To be hugely patient, loving, and not to try to be his Rabbi,

just his father (this aimed at DH obviously.)

DH has found this hard because he *is* a teacher (which is what Rabbi

means) and besides being Chairman of Yeshaya's ex school, actually

teaches there part time; Jewish subjects. Her experts also said that

most of these straying boys do eventually come back to the fold once

they have tasted the lures of the forbidden

fruit and found it wanting.

Ruthie

> Ruthie,

> Have been thinking about you since last night, and although I know

you

> aren't necessarily looking for us to give you suggestions, I do have

a

> teeny one - came about like so - DH is not very good with babies (

bless

> his soul) but has promised to be a rock during the teenage years

(which

> I am dreading), and I think he will be as during his psychiatrist

> training he has done a load of mediation/communication skills. Is

there

> a friendly psychi in your community -( I think you are right that

you

> need to be in it in both ways, the issue of the headwear springs to

> mind, probably only another orthodox Jew could appreciate how

important

> it is ) who would help mediate some family sessions. I'm not

thinking of

> formal counselling :-)), just mediation and discussion. (BTW really

> appreciate all the Jewish snippets you put in, most of the DS's

friends

> appear to be reform Jews based on what you say - is it ok to ask

that?)

> Curran

> Mum to 4 boys. Co-Chair, MVA, Valley cushion agent, homebirth

support

> and booking clerk Selby Rural NCT

> Region 7 Secretary