update on my Mom /Diane

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>>>>Thank you, Stacey. I'm just so scared and don't know what to

expect. I don't know how my Mom will die--will she just fall asleep

or struggle?? What do you do next? call 911? I just can't sleep at

night trying to think what I'm going to do?? This is so stressfull

and I don't want to give up but I can't force my Mom to go for more

treatments when she doesn't want to. I'm not even over the loss of

my Dad and now I'm going to lose my Mom--why is life so hard and

unfair?

Thanks for all the support.

Diane

>>>>>>>>.

Dear Diane,

I cannot answer your question as to why life is so hard and unfair. I've

struggled with this question also and have no answer except to always remember

this:

'We are not human beings here on this earth to have a spiritual

experience......we are SPIRIT beings here on this earth to have a human

experience.'

This world is not our home. It was never meant to be our home, and never will

be. We are just visiting for a short time.

As strange as it may sound, you can make this time with your mother one of the

most precious times in your relationship.

My father was on hospice care for close to two years. he knew he would not get

better and that he was dying.

His favorite saying was, " I'm ready to hang it up, but I can't reach the hook. "

He was kept very well medicated and comfortable. Sometimes he would hold off on

the meds if he wanted to, sometimes not....it was entirely his decision.

We had some of the most precious talks, and " not talks " . " Not talks " are just

being there by their side, not saying a word....just feeling each others

company.

Daddy passed over in his sleep one Saturday morning around 7:15. Mom had left

the room to make coffee at 7:10 and he was okay and sleeping. when she returned

to the room about five minutes later, he was gone....peacefully. I'll never

forget how he looked when I arrived there about 10 minutes later, so peaceful.

Our first call was to Hospice and they take care of making the rest of the

necessary calls.

Before the Hospice nurse arrived, I was able to spend time with him. Touching

him, telling him how much we loved him....and I DO believe he heard. I clipped a

little snippet of a lock of his hair which I wear to this day in a locket around

my neck.

My Daddy taught me alot of lessons but this one, how to die, was perhaps one of

the most important because it also taught me 'how to live'.

You must look at this time of the end of your mothers' life as a journey. One

that you are being privileged to be a part of.

I promise you, you will receive a blessing from it. You may not recognize it at

the time, but you will later.

My prayers are with you, and your mother.

nancy j

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