Men are from Mars - was Is it fair?

[Guest guest]

Ruth - how do you find it helps? a little detail would be helpful,

tho not as much as you'd be too embarrassed to post! When I first

read that book I decided that I must really be a man (shame about the

female body!!!) as I seemed to fit more into his categories of mind of

men (and mapreading!, direction giving etc)....which irritated me so I

didn't persist with it. I thought that if he's going to be so narrow

in his definitions I couldn't see how it would help.

" Mr " Heyworth

Suppose I should call myself Carl from now on!

[Guest guest]

>Ruth - how do you find it helps? a little detail would be helpful,

>tho not as much as you'd be too embarrassed to post! When I first

>read that book I decided that I must really be a man (shame about the

>female body!!!) as I seemed to fit more into his categories of mind of

>men (and mapreading!, direction giving etc)....which irritated me so I

>didn't persist with it. I thought that if he's going to be so narrow

>in his definitions I couldn't see how it would help.

>

> " Mr " Heyworth

>Suppose I should call myself Carl from now on!

Yes, I often find that with that kind of book - and I don't think

anyone in 'real life' would describe me as someone who behaves like a

man. Much more noticeably though, I have found that the men in my

life - family, friends - have not fitted either. In fact it used to

be quite a problem to me at my more women's/girls magazine reading

years - there they'd be telling me that men have trouble expressing

emotion and don't cry and I was awash with males emoting all over the

place (not that I am immune from emoting myself, though oddly I don't

seem to cry as much since I had babies) Oddly enough the two men who

do fit the Martian thing best are my DH and one of my best friends

from university who is gay - and they share a birthday, so...

I always had the feeling about the Mars/Venus theory that the real

message was for women to let men do their thing and not much about

men accommodating to women in any real sense. And then the other day,

I picked up the book on surrendered wives and lo and behold, there's

a favourable review on the back from Gray.

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jennifer@...

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