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Long ago thread I know but..... (see previous mailing)

Feeling slightly guilty about saying DH doesn't really understand so

thought I'd share how we met and his romantic side..

Met in mid 96 at work - he worked for a Co that bought the Co I worked

for(IYKWIM). Admiring glances from me, nothing from him I was in

the process of splitting up from my then husband ( that is definitely

another story and to be told only with alcohol!). DH was also married

at the time which I only realised when I saw his wedding ring. Lots

of smiles and hellos from me, nothing back - only afterwards did I

realise he was very shy

On 25th Sept we all went away on a team building exercise which

involved copious amounts of alcohol (what else when you work in the

City?) and we actually finally got talking and realised we got on like

a house on fire. Spent many lunchtimes and brief evenings over next

few weeks getting to know each other better - just as friends, and

being supportive as we were both in doomed relationships. In mid Nov

he said that I should just walk out on my abusive (now ex)H, and I

said he was a fine one to talk being so unhappy in his relationship!

On 1st Dec I left forever (with just the bag I had with me), on 5th we

held hands in a bar in the City , on 9th we both confessed to having

strong feelings for each other, on 12th it was our Co Xmas party,

spent all night gazing at DH across room (he was v senior management

and it just wasn't the done thing!) and eventually had our first kiss.

Spent next few days wondering what we should do. Then Xmas and New

Year which he was spending with his DW's family! Then on 11th Jan he

left for a long trip (with her) to NZ and Oz. I was heart broken but

realised that he should only leave for himself and the right reasons,

not for me and what could just be a fling. He called several times

from his trip (don't ask how he managed that!) and returned on Sun 2nd

Feb. We met for lunch on the Mon, on the Tues he left his wife and on

morning of 5th Feb turned up at my flat needing somewhere to stay.

And I am so glad that he has never left! We both just knew (maybe

because of previous mistakes) that this was the right thing.

By the end of the year I was pregnant with DD1 and we married a year

later on 12th Dec 98 (2 years from our 1st kiss - it would have been

quicker but divorces prevented this!)

We celebrate our own Valentines on 25th Sept (normally with too much

to drink!)

I know that there has been talks of affairs/unfaithfulness on here and

I find myself in the position of having been that 'other' woman. All

I would say is that truly happy people do not stray as they have no

need to. There is no harm is talking, flirting, whatever, just

realise and be truthful to yourself that if you were that happy you

wouldn't doit (but there is absolutely no harm in window shopping if

it makes you feel better!!!)

In his own little ways DH is very romantic, calls me often to say ILY

but as with all men sometimes needs a little prompting. Despite

working in London and having a long commute he does try to help with

DD's when he gets home, bathtime if home early enough, and stories.

He washes up (well loads the dishwasher) after I cook (something he

def does not do!). He treats me well and neither the children or I go

with out. He has made it possible for me to be at home with my DD's,

which is something we both wanted. All in all, I wouldn't swap him f

and love him to the end of the world and back.

Beverly - feeling rather soppy now but with a little smile on my face!

SAHM Grace and EMilie, and