communication (was Re: GOODBYE and thick skinned)

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>> As for the term 'thick skinned' - I always find comments of that kind

>> somewhat self indulgent. IME those who consider themselves 'thin skinned,

>> 'sensitive' or whathaveyou always seem to be the least sensitive to other

>> peoples feeling as they are so wrapped up in themselves. Just IME, as I

>> say.>>>

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>In my experience most people have times where they can cope with

>things that are said or put badly (or even perhaps not intended to

>but can come out as) and other times where they just can't cope at

>all.. personally when I am pg I am far more emotional than I am

>when not pg..

We all know about PMT (if not first hand - the time I decided I

definitely had PMT, the M never arrived as I was pregnant with DS2)

but does anyone get an attack of 'ovulation ratties'? I am starting

to wonder if I do, so it would be interesting to know if the notion

is a figment of my imagination.

>thing is you don't always know when people will take what you say

>(in a email/letter) the wrong way.. I don't think that is about

>being wrapped up in themselves.. I have a friend who is the most

>caring and sweet lovely person and she gets her self awfully worked

>up about stuff that I don't feel really is aimed at making her feel

>this way.. She is just not very good at reading people's writing..

>but if she has you face to face so she can read your body language

>and hear your tone of voice she never get's upset about far worse

>things than I have seen her be upset about in writing.. At times

>people forget that you can put a sarcky tone to a email and you cant

>put a smiley tone on the mail (smiliey's h!

>elp but even then it is not 100%)... doesn't mean that the person

>who takes it " wrongly " is wrapped up in themselves just that they

>are having a bad moment or perhaps are not very good at dealing with

>written words..

:-) I love email - from what some people tell me I have next to no

body language - I *say* how or what I am feeling but the body

language doesn't seem to say it too, so they don't think I have

communicated anything.

And you can re-read email.

(Certain people have suggested that when DH and I lie in bed side by

side tapping away we are actually emailing each other - NOT true,

except for swapping our engagements)

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jennifer@...

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