RE: toilet training help

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It must be very irritating, Beverley, but patience is the key, I

think!!

First of all, you say she is still 'loose'. I think you need to check

out that she hasn't picked up some infection, which might be troubling

her. Perhaps the dr would send a stool sample away for analysis?

It's worth remembering, too, that when she tells you she doesn't need

to go she probably doesn't *at that very moment* but the need can

arise very quickly in little ones, especially if its loose.

I agree with ?Ruthie that saying she'll go to school in pull-ups

rather than saying she won't go to school is a better strategy.

Have you tried getting her to clean up after herself? I know its not

a very nice thought but if she has to get her own dirty knickers off,

wash herself and her clothes in a bowl of soapy water and find clean

clothes she might decide it isn't worth the effort! Obviously, you

need to make sure everything is okay on the hygiene front by making

sure she then washes her hands thoroughly and the knickers can then go

in the usual machine wash (so long as you don't let her see you

putting them in the machine!)

HTH

Lesley

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From: Beverly

Hi all

Have been a bit quiet since my return from holiday - I had forgotten

the sheer amount of mail just this group produces alone! Anyway,

wondered if any of you could help with a problem that has developed

with DD1 (aged 2 yrs 10 months). Grace has been potty trained fully

for a good 7 months with very few accidents (both poo and wee),

although I still put her in pull-ups when she goes down for her

afternoon nap. Whilst on holiday she started to poo herself. To

begin with I decided it was an upset tummy, very loose etc (pardon the

descriptions) As we were away, different food, ice cream etc. It

often happened whilst in the pool (gross I know) and without fail she

did not tell us - we had to ask her. Because I had put it down to an

upset tummy I reverted to putting her in pull ups at all times and she

was very good regarding wee but poos are another story. It is now

over 6 weeks, we have been home from holiday 2 weeks and she is still

doing it. Some days she is still very loose, and I wonder if she even

knows that she is going. What annoys/hurts the most is that I ask her

continually if she needs to go and she says no, then she does one in

her knickers and denies it!

What can I do? I am at my wits end. I have told her that only babies

poo their knickers and she will not be able to go to school. Her

answer to this is a quick shrug of the shoulders and tells me she'd

rather play in the garden.

Thanks in advance for listening and helping

Beverly

SAHM Grace the Poo Monster and Emilie aged 14 months

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