Re: living together (was The things parents say (was crisis with yeshaya)

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one big advantage of my mother and " step " dad never having married is that when

I did move in with a guy (to live in " sin " ) there was NO comment what so ever

;o).. Dh's parents was not to happy about it but chose to deal with it in

pretending that I did not live there so if I would answer the phone to my now

mil she would pretend that I was " visiting " the only time we went up there to

stay before we where engaged or married we slept in separate rooms (something

that never would happen in either of my parents homes but I think this is more

to do with my in laws being English and my parents being Danish) I found it

rather strange and I also don't really get it as I must certainly would never

want to have sex in my (now) inlaw's house or even in my mothers house we can

make do without for the short time we are there.. your old room or your in laws

guest room is not exactly the most romantic place in the world..

(probably opened a can of worms here as I know several people who do not share

my view on living together before marriage so am pretty certain that it will be

the same on this list ;o), )

Lonnie Phoebe & Eloisa's mama

& expecting a Christmas delivery...

My therapist told me the way to achieve true inner peace is to finish what you

start.

So far today, I have finished 2 bags of chips and a Chocolate cake.

I feel better already.

The things parents say (was Re: Re: crisis with yeshaya)

This reminds me *so* much of my father's reaction when I told him I'd moved

in with my boyfriend (on the phone):

Me: " I've moved into x's house "

Dad: " that's nice. Where are you sleeping? "

Me: " In x's room "

Dad: " That's kind of him. Where's he sleeping? "

Me: " Also in his room. And before you ask, no, he doesn't have bunk beds "

Dad: " [long silence] I see. Are you sure that's sensible? "

Of course, I didn't remind him of this conversation when x later became

DD1's father (though x did: rang Dad and asked him to tell me to have an

abortion - bless!)

Vicki

wrote:

> I can still remember my mother going ballistic about me merely asking

> (in a letter) what their feelings were about me sharing a flat with

> my boyfriend - she said I'd been planning (the word she used was

> 'plotting') it for months, which was untrue, withdrew various offers

> of furniture (the old money as love thing) and the piece de la

> resistance was " and I can just imagine what your Auntie Margaret will

> say " (this being someone they saw only once or twice a year)... and

> I'd only asked them how they felt, because I did want to know and

> their answer was going to influence me.

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