Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 Cait I am so sorry this is going on. I will keep everyone in my prayers. Hugs nne To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world " " May the Lord Bless you and keep you, May the Lord Make his face shine upon you, and give you Peace...Forever " Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://breastcancerpatientssoulmatesforlife.bravehost.com/ Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancer http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancer Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com The Cancer Club www.cancerclub.com > Oh Vey > > .Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The > night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of > really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it > going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to > dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go > fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd > go. > > I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material > rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. > As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who > has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You > can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on > white paper. If that makes sense at all. > > Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; > in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't > stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying > down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the > daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, > repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his > father as if he's a stupid old man. > > We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged > at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I > ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we > went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a > melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. > " What cake, I didn't eat any cake " . The basement is an absolute pigsty > thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably > trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to > pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. > Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, > started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I > would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his > damn surety and I question his sobriety. > > His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been > over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any > ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came > over next morning, I think it was Monday, and " guess where ny is? " > Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. > > looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a > heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a > medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know > exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act > like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case > he has a bail hearing. > > My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing > the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep > deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I > don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him > and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons > with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see > things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately > becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My > mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. > Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case > > Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait ____________________________________________________________ Share photos & screenshots in seconds... TRY FREE IM TOOLPACK at http://www.imtoolpack.com/default.aspx?rc=if1 Works in all emails, instant messengers, blogs, forums and social networks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 Cait I am so sorry this is going on. I will keep everyone in my prayers. Hugs nne To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world " " May the Lord Bless you and keep you, May the Lord Make his face shine upon you, and give you Peace...Forever " Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://breastcancerpatientssoulmatesforlife.bravehost.com/ Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancer http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancer Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com The Cancer Club www.cancerclub.com > Oh Vey > > .Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The > night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of > really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it > going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to > dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go > fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd > go. > > I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material > rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. > As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who > has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You > can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on > white paper. If that makes sense at all. > > Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; > in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't > stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying > down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the > daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, > repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his > father as if he's a stupid old man. > > We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged > at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I > ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we > went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a > melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. > " What cake, I didn't eat any cake " . The basement is an absolute pigsty > thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably > trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to > pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. > Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, > started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I > would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his > damn surety and I question his sobriety. > > His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been > over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any > ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came > over next morning, I think it was Monday, and " guess where ny is? " > Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. > > looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a > heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a > medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know > exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act > like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case > he has a bail hearing. > > My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing > the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep > deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I > don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him > and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons > with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see > things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately > becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My > mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. > Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case > > Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait ____________________________________________________________ Share photos & screenshots in seconds... TRY FREE IM TOOLPACK at http://www.imtoolpack.com/default.aspx?rc=if1 Works in all emails, instant messengers, blogs, forums and social networks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 Cait I am so sorry this is going on. I will keep everyone in my prayers. Hugs nne To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world " " May the Lord Bless you and keep you, May the Lord Make his face shine upon you, and give you Peace...Forever " Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://breastcancerpatientssoulmatesforlife.bravehost.com/ Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancer http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancer Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com The Cancer Club www.cancerclub.com > Oh Vey > > .Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The > night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of > really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it > going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to > dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go > fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd > go. > > I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material > rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. > As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who > has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You > can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on > white paper. If that makes sense at all. > > Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; > in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't > stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying > down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the > daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, > repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his > father as if he's a stupid old man. > > We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged > at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I > ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we > went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a > melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. > " What cake, I didn't eat any cake " . The basement is an absolute pigsty > thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably > trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to > pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. > Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, > started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I > would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his > damn surety and I question his sobriety. > > His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been > over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any > ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came > over next morning, I think it was Monday, and " guess where ny is? " > Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. > > looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a > heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a > medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know > exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act > like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case > he has a bail hearing. > > My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing > the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep > deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I > don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him > and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons > with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see > things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately > becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My > mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. > Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case > > Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait ____________________________________________________________ TRY FREE IM TOOLPACK at http://www.imtoolpack.com/default.aspx?rc=if5 Capture screenshots, upload images, edit and send them to your friends through IMs, post on Twitter®, Facebook®, MySpace™, LinkedIn® – FAST! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 Cait I am so sorry this is going on. I will keep everyone in my prayers. Hugs nne To the world you might be one person, but to one person you just might be the world " " May the Lord Bless you and keep you, May the Lord Make his face shine upon you, and give you Peace...Forever " Breast Cancer Patients Soul Mates for Life http://breastcancerpatientssoulmatesforlife.bravehost.com/ Anxiety Depression and Breast Cancer http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/AnxietyDepressionandBreastCancer Angel Feather Loomer www.angelfeatherloomer.blogspot.com The Cancer Club www.cancerclub.com > Oh Vey > > .Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The > night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of > really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it > going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to > dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go > fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd > go. > > I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material > rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. > As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who > has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You > can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on > white paper. If that makes sense at all. > > Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; > in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't > stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying > down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the > daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, > repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his > father as if he's a stupid old man. > > We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged > at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I > ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we > went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a > melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. > " What cake, I didn't eat any cake " . The basement is an absolute pigsty > thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably > trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to > pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. > Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, > started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I > would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his > damn surety and I question his sobriety. > > His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been > over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any > ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came > over next morning, I think it was Monday, and " guess where ny is? " > Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. > > looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a > heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a > medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know > exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act > like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case > he has a bail hearing. > > My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing > the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep > deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I > don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him > and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons > with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see > things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately > becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My > mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. > Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case > > Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait ____________________________________________________________ TRY FREE IM TOOLPACK at http://www.imtoolpack.com/default.aspx?rc=if5 Capture screenshots, upload images, edit and send them to your friends through IMs, post on Twitter®, Facebook®, MySpace™, LinkedIn® – FAST! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 It sounds like Jr. should stay in jail and get clean. I know that would be hard on though. will probably bail Jr. out as soon as he gets a chance. What a creepy "kid". lollove SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Thursday, August 18, 2011 6:02 PMSubject: Oh Vey ..Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd go. I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on white paper. If that makes sense at all. Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his father as if he's a stupid old man. We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. "What cake, I didn't eat any cake". The basement is an absolute pigsty thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his damn surety and I question his sobriety. His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came over next morning, I think it was Monday, and "guess where ny is?" Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case he has a bail hearing. My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 It sounds like Jr. should stay in jail and get clean. I know that would be hard on though. will probably bail Jr. out as soon as he gets a chance. What a creepy "kid". lollove SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Thursday, August 18, 2011 6:02 PMSubject: Oh Vey ..Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd go. I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on white paper. If that makes sense at all. Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his father as if he's a stupid old man. We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. "What cake, I didn't eat any cake". The basement is an absolute pigsty thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his damn surety and I question his sobriety. His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came over next morning, I think it was Monday, and "guess where ny is?" Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case he has a bail hearing. My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 ..You know I hope they keep him in too. We've been through hell with his nose ... the rotten parts necrosing and falling out. Finally the surgeon in Toronto sheduled his surgery for Sept. Now here's an example of 's 'wanting to believe' aka stupidity. "He can't be doing drugs, he knows that he won't be able to get the surgery blah blah". Yeah, so he isn't snorting! Get real Daddy, your kid was on drugs when he was a teen and you didn't even see it! Or chose not to! You know what Sharon, I'm mad at right now because without meaning to, he's actually enabling Jr. And what a runon sentence. I'm also ticked because nothing has been done by insurance yet. A moon ago the adjuster called .. "oh I was on holidays" and then two weeks ago, another call "oops I put an email okaying everything in the 'sent' basket rather than the 'send' one. Two weeks ago??? I still haven't got a frickin window ... hugs, Cait Oh Vey ..Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd go. I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on white paper. If that makes sense at all. Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his father as if he's a stupid old man. We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. "What cake, I didn't eat any cake". The basement is an absolute pigsty thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his damn surety and I question his sobriety. His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came over next morning, I think it was Monday, and "guess where ny is?" Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case he has a bail hearing. My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 I can understand your anger toward . But he sees what he wants to see because he may not be strong enough to see the truth or to deal with it. Do you think that could be it? It's hard to see bad things about your kids. Sometimes the evidence is so clear but the parent just cannot see the truth.So you are STILL without a window?? How long has it been now?hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Thursday, August 18, 2011 8:13 PMSubject: Re: Oh Vey ..You know I hope they keep him in too. We've been through hell with his nose ... the rotten parts necrosing and falling out. Finally the surgeon in Toronto sheduled his surgery for Sept. Now here's an example of 's 'wanting to believe' aka stupidity. "He can't be doing drugs, he knows that he won't be able to get the surgery blah blah". Yeah, so he isn't snorting! Get real Daddy, your kid was on drugs when he was a teen and you didn't even see it! Or chose not to! You know what Sharon, I'm mad at right now because without meaning to, he's actually enabling Jr. And what a runon sentence. I'm also ticked because nothing has been done by insurance yet. A moon ago the adjuster called .. "oh I was on holidays" and then two weeks ago, another call "oops I put an email okaying everything in the 'sent' basket rather than the 'send' one. Two weeks ago??? I still haven't got a frickin window ... hugs, Cait Oh Vey ..Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd go. I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on white paper. If that makes sense at all. Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his father as if he's a stupid old man. We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. "What cake, I didn't eat any cake". The basement is an absolute pigsty thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his damn surety and I question his sobriety. His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came over next morning, I think it was Monday, and "guess where ny is?" Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case he has a bail hearing. My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 Oy Vey indeed! Why did he destroy your cake? Sheer malice? What a little turd. And he's done so many drugs he needs an operation? Wow...this "kid" is trouble, and troubled.   ~*~Hugs~*~ ~*~Akiba~*~ Pragmatic Visionary http://www.affiliates-natural-salt-lamps.com/pages/156.php -- Oh Vey ..Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd go. I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on white paper. If that makes sense at all. Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his father as if he's a stupid old man. We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. "What cake, I didn't eat any cake". The basement is an absolute pigsty thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his damn surety and I question his sobriety. His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came over next morning, I think it was Monday, and "guess where ny is?" Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out. looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case he has a bail hearing. My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 SO sorry, hon. Prayers. T in WY Practical Blackwork Designs http://practicalblackwork.com http://practical-blackwork.blogspot.com  " You get a wonderful view from the point of no return... " Oh Vey  ..Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd go.  I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on white paper. If that makes sense at all.  Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his father as if he's a stupid old man.  We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. " What cake, I didn't eat any cake " . The basement is an absolute pigsty thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his damn surety and I question his sobriety.  His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came over next morning, I think it was Monday, and " guess where ny is? "  Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out.  looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case he has a bail hearing.  My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case  Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 18, 2011 Report Share Posted August 18, 2011 SO sorry, hon. Prayers. T in WY Practical Blackwork Designs http://practicalblackwork.com http://practical-blackwork.blogspot.com  " You get a wonderful view from the point of no return... " Oh Vey  ..Sorry again for the long silence and thanks for all the bd wishes. The night before my birthday I totally shut my computer down because of really bad tstorms. Then as usual, it took me at least a week to get it going again. I didn't do anything on my bd; had invited me out to dinner at a lovely restaurant but I knew he also had an invitation to go fishing and he's hardly been out at all. So I feigned a headache so he'd go.  I did get a fantastic lounger for the deck with the nice comfy material rather than cheap stripy things. I have actually fallen asleep on it. As well he also got me my Kindle which I love, love, love. Anyone who has problems with their eyesight, you really should give it a try. You can control the size of the print and reading is so much easier than on white paper. If that makes sense at all.  Anyway I think I'd told you we hadn't been getting along too well lately; in fact I don't think got along with anybody very well. I can't stand going over there simply because of Jr. I'm sick of him lying down the basement all the time, contributing nothing but joining the daily methadone line. has to hire a kid to help with the yardwork, repairs,etc while Jr does nothing. Except make a mess and treat his father as if he's a stupid old man.  We did go out for a lovely ride in the country on that Sunday, I splurged at the fresh fruit market and he bought me an ice cream birthday cake. I ended up sleeping there that night, Jr said nothing, and the next day we went to get another piece of my yummy cake. The box was all smashed, a melted glob all over the table downstairs, and 3/4 of the cake gone. " What cake, I didn't eat any cake " . The basement is an absolute pigsty thanks to him. Then and I were watching something on tv, probably trying to calm him down, when Jr barges in and tells me he's going to pick up some girl who's going to help him clean up and then sleep over. Say what????? told him no way, the 37 yr old burst into tears, started tossing stuff all around, etc. That was it for me; if I stayed I would have lit into him which I have no right to other than I'm still his damn surety and I question his sobriety.  His trial over the drug trafficking keeps getting postponed and it's been over 2 yrs! Anyway he's not gone to therapy nor does he seem to have any ambition or goal in life. So it really wasn't a surprise when came over next morning, I think it was Monday, and " guess where ny is? "  Of course I guessed 'jail' and so far he's not gotten out.  looks a mess, he's wound so tight I'm afraid he's going to have a heart attack. He went to try and visit him this evening but someone had a medical emergency and they cancelled visiting hours. We still don't know exactly what he's charged with; since he's an adult (sure doesn't act like one), they won't tell . But he's gone everyday waiting in case he has a bail hearing.  My nerves are shot worrying about mainly that I hope it's causing the ms to act up. Both sides are spasming so badly at night I'm sleep deprived. Plus I think it's so wrong that his mother isn't told. I don't care that she has a strained relationship with Jr; she loves him and he is her son. As far as is concerned, I know he loves his sons with all his being but he's either been stupid or just didn't want to see things about them. And if you try to say anything, he immediately becomes defensive. I'll shut up now and try to read a few emails. My mouse is going ... everytime I use it I have to unplug and replug it. Used to always have an extra one and keyboard in case  Hope everyone is well ... hugs, Cait Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2011 Report Share Posted August 19, 2011 ..Thanks for the insight Sharon. You're right, is not strong enough to handle this. I had spent all those years with someone who just couldn't be bothered dealing with things. is truly a mess; he jumps at any sound and has been sitting in the dark not even turning the tv on. He's too ashamed to tell any of his friends who I know would support him This morning he had two plainsclothes cops at the door asking about Jr. Supposedly they didn't know Jr was in jail. Yeah right! And commiserated with about how all this wasn't fair to him yaya. He falls for it believing that they think he's an honest good man which he is. But they're the same guys who threw him to the floor and handcuffed him. Anyway he asked me to please come over for a while; he can't come here because I refuse to have the dog over. I said yes if Jr doesn't get out on bail (please please keep him in) so I might be MIA a bit. If he is released I'm not going near the place. I'm too angry! Btw Akiba, Jr is not a kid. He's 37. And I called Mike, the older good son, and told him to tell his mother. I didn't go behind 's back; he agrees it would be terrible if she heard it from someone else. Which is quite possible since she works at the hospital as does one of the yahell girls jr was mixed up with. Oh and yes Sharon, I'm still without a window! Gotta hand it to them; they've measured three times now. Wish there were a symbol for tearing your hair out LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2011 Report Share Posted August 19, 2011 ..Thanks for the insight Sharon. You're right, is not strong enough to handle this. I had spent all those years with someone who just couldn't be bothered dealing with things. is truly a mess; he jumps at any sound and has been sitting in the dark not even turning the tv on. He's too ashamed to tell any of his friends who I know would support him This morning he had two plainsclothes cops at the door asking about Jr. Supposedly they didn't know Jr was in jail. Yeah right! And commiserated with about how all this wasn't fair to him yaya. He falls for it believing that they think he's an honest good man which he is. But they're the same guys who threw him to the floor and handcuffed him. Anyway he asked me to please come over for a while; he can't come here because I refuse to have the dog over. I said yes if Jr doesn't get out on bail (please please keep him in) so I might be MIA a bit. If he is released I'm not going near the place. I'm too angry! Btw Akiba, Jr is not a kid. He's 37. And I called Mike, the older good son, and told him to tell his mother. I didn't go behind 's back; he agrees it would be terrible if she heard it from someone else. Which is quite possible since she works at the hospital as does one of the yahell girls jr was mixed up with. Oh and yes Sharon, I'm still without a window! Gotta hand it to them; they've measured three times now. Wish there were a symbol for tearing your hair out LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 19, 2011 Report Share Posted August 19, 2011 I know he is 37, you mentioned it, more's the pity.   ~*~Hugs~*~ ~*~Akiba~*~ Pragmatic Visionary http://www.affiliates-natural-salt-lamps.com/pages/156.php -- Re: Oh Vey ..Thanks for the insight Sharon. You're right, is not strong enough to handle this. I had spent all those years with someone who just couldn't be bothered dealing with things. is truly a mess; he jumps at any sound and has been sitting in the dark not even turning the tv on. He's too ashamed to tell any of his friends who I know would support him This morning he had two plainsclothes cops at the door asking about Jr. Supposedly they didn't know Jr was in jail. Yeah right! And commiserated with about how all this wasn't fair to him yaya. He falls for it believing that they think he's an honest good man which he is. But they're the same guys who threw him to the floor and handcuffed him. Anyway he asked me to please come over for a while; he can't come here because I refuse to have the dog over. I said yes if Jr doesn't get out on bail (please please keep him in) so I might be MIA a bit. If he is released I'm not going near the place. I'm too angry! Btw Akiba, Jr is not a kid. He's 37. And I called Mike, the older good son, and told him to tell his mother. I didn't go behind 's back; he agrees it would be terrible if she heard it from someone else. Which is quite possible since she works at the hospital as does one of the yahell girls jr was mixed up with. Oh and yes Sharon, I'm still without a window! Gotta hand it to them; they've measured three times now. Wish there were a symbol for tearing your hair out LOL Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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