Lana-

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You got that right, very sad when a Nun wont let people honor their passed

loved ones...... I was not raised any religion but always had a yearning for

Catholocism..... and I do love it, yet there are many things from the " old

ways " that I do disagree on " holding book over head in case roof falls in lol

" - my x was just like that Nun in the grief stage of our son - he thought it was

horrible that I grieved the way I did.......... but will tell you- he had many

reasons to be feeling " guilty " so perhaps he just wanted it over and

erased...... to ease his own conscience (sp?) .

That particular Nun is no longer with the Church that I always went to- She

had her good points but lol get this- she and the new Father did not get along-

so she left the building ;-)

Hugs- Love TJ

How sad that a NUN won't let people honor their passed loved ones their own

way! Course they always were kind of odd - most of them anyway! LOL! You

just keep doing what feels right TJ!

Love Lana 0:-)

Lana-

Thanks Lana-

I've only had two people that told me I was 'bonkers' and believe it or

not - one was the Church nun- she told me that I should stop visiting the

cemetery and putting so much umph into it ( decorated and kept clean - plus

went down there daily when I was able to drive ) just to say prayers and an

I love you- this Nun- grabbed my hand and put it to my heart- she said

-------- " Keep him here----- not up here ( she pointed to my head )........

I was in horrible shock at her display of thoughts- but I just looked at her

and said " I know my son is NOT in the grave ---- his spirit is everywhere

----- but everyone handles their grief differently and I will not let you

make me feel that I am doing anything wrong " - she said no more.

The other person was my x- and to be honest with you- the two never got

along- Kenny saw too much of what went on- and if anything- I think his dad

fears that something will happen to him if he is down by the grave yard too

long or too often- *paybacks?*

But I didn't let that stop me either- told him I was going to continue

with or without him......... and that I did- up until I could no longer do

it...... And I know that saying the prayers here or anywhere- or just plain

talking to him - he hears - no matter where I am.

It is great to hear that I'm not alone in having conversations with loved

ones that have went before me ........ Hugs And Love- TJ

TJ, I think you're right, it wasn't really a mistake - it was supposed to

happen. You are so right, they ARE here - I love it when someone else

talks

to their loved ones like I do mine. I refuse to stop - I know they hear

me,

and I feel I get love and support in return. Good for you, TJ!

Love Lana 0:-)