RE: Dilemma

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We have a neigbour who doesn't seem to care too much about her cat either, she (the cat) is always begging to come in, but she (the owner) doesn't want her inside (she lets her in a short while now and then to eat, but not often enough judging from how skinny the cat is, and the she throws her out again). The cat's name is Mathilda according to the neigbourhood kids, but we had named her "lillkise" (South Swedish dialect for "little kitty", because she really is tiny) long before learning that, so that's what we call her. She also seem starved for love, and always come running to us whenever we are out. We haven't let her in (wouldn't want to risk it, not sure our own cats would be too thrilled...), but we always stop to talk to her, and some times offer her a little cat food (she really has been scaringy thin at times).There will always be people who owns animals, but don't care as much about them as they should, or perhaps don't know enough about there needs (don't know about the USA, but here in Sweden a common misconception about cats is that they don't really need to be cared for, organizations working with rescuing abandoned and maltreated cats are overwhelmed with work because of that misconception). Does Amos' house have a basement with a separate entry, a garage, or something like that? If so, perhaps you could ask Amos if he wouldn't make a place for the cat there, where she can let herself in, be safe from the cold, and where she wouldn't have to worry about the dog either. I completely understand about not wanting her to go potty all over the house! Maybe, if you'd want to try with a potty box, you could try just one room first. Letting her have access only to the room with the potty box, for a start, and see what happens. Some times that's a necessary first step in a new house even for cats who are properly potty trained.But, of course, it's always you who decide how much time, work etc. you can and want to invest in this cat. Like I said, there will always be neglected animals out there. Sadly enough love/Reb>> Hey everyone,.when don't I have a problem? Lol., but this time it isn't> about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep started coming over and> my husband Steve brought her in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes to> snuggle and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to be close to> me. I don't mind it, but now whenever we go in or out she darts in and wants> to stay inside all the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him his> cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he couldn't find her she was> probably at our house. He just lives across the street. Small neighborhood,> 7 houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting him know, and said> since he got a new dog [min pin] Julep doesn't seem to like it very much,> and she is afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside at night. > > > > Well she was in our house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to let> her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So my dilemma is its cold> outside, in the low 20's, and I feel so bad about making her go outside. She> has pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at night I don't know> how she will fair in these low temps. I would keep her in but I have no> potty box, or food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and if she> was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So I'm not sure if she would use a> potty box if we got one, and I can't have her going in my house. I don't> even think we should feed her, but I worry she might not be eating if that> dog is around. He didn't seem to be too worried about her, and I don't even> know how old she is. She acts loved starved, and I am just besides myself> with worry that she is hanging out here all the time now, and I feel awful> when we have to put her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn't> mind keeping her if he isn't going to take care of her.> > I just don't know what to do. He's a pretty nice guy, but he works early> morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home she is here wanting in.> It's like she just won't go TO HER home now. I'm pretty sure she'll be okay> if it wasn't so cold, but while the temps are low I sure don't want her to> get sick. I know I need to talk to Amos again, but he just acted like it was> no big deal when I tried before. > > So what are your thoughts?> > Jackie>

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We have a neigbour who doesn't seem to care too much about her cat either, she (the cat) is always begging to come in, but she (the owner) doesn't want her inside (she lets her in a short while now and then to eat, but not often enough judging from how skinny the cat is, and the she throws her out again). The cat's name is Mathilda according to the neigbourhood kids, but we had named her "lillkise" (South Swedish dialect for "little kitty", because she really is tiny) long before learning that, so that's what we call her. She also seem starved for love, and always come running to us whenever we are out. We haven't let her in (wouldn't want to risk it, not sure our own cats would be too thrilled...), but we always stop to talk to her, and some times offer her a little cat food (she really has been scaringy thin at times).There will always be people who owns animals, but don't care as much about them as they should, or perhaps don't know enough about there needs (don't know about the USA, but here in Sweden a common misconception about cats is that they don't really need to be cared for, organizations working with rescuing abandoned and maltreated cats are overwhelmed with work because of that misconception). Does Amos' house have a basement with a separate entry, a garage, or something like that? If so, perhaps you could ask Amos if he wouldn't make a place for the cat there, where she can let herself in, be safe from the cold, and where she wouldn't have to worry about the dog either. I completely understand about not wanting her to go potty all over the house! Maybe, if you'd want to try with a potty box, you could try just one room first. Letting her have access only to the room with the potty box, for a start, and see what happens. Some times that's a necessary first step in a new house even for cats who are properly potty trained.But, of course, it's always you who decide how much time, work etc. you can and want to invest in this cat. Like I said, there will always be neglected animals out there. Sadly enough love/Reb>> Hey everyone,.when don't I have a problem? Lol., but this time it isn't> about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep started coming over and> my husband Steve brought her in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes to> snuggle and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to be close to> me. I don't mind it, but now whenever we go in or out she darts in and wants> to stay inside all the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him his> cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he couldn't find her she was> probably at our house. He just lives across the street. Small neighborhood,> 7 houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting him know, and said> since he got a new dog [min pin] Julep doesn't seem to like it very much,> and she is afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside at night. > > > > Well she was in our house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to let> her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So my dilemma is its cold> outside, in the low 20's, and I feel so bad about making her go outside. She> has pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at night I don't know> how she will fair in these low temps. I would keep her in but I have no> potty box, or food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and if she> was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So I'm not sure if she would use a> potty box if we got one, and I can't have her going in my house. I don't> even think we should feed her, but I worry she might not be eating if that> dog is around. He didn't seem to be too worried about her, and I don't even> know how old she is. She acts loved starved, and I am just besides myself> with worry that she is hanging out here all the time now, and I feel awful> when we have to put her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn't> mind keeping her if he isn't going to take care of her.> > I just don't know what to do. He's a pretty nice guy, but he works early> morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home she is here wanting in.> It's like she just won't go TO HER home now. I'm pretty sure she'll be okay> if it wasn't so cold, but while the temps are low I sure don't want her to> get sick. I know I need to talk to Amos again, but he just acted like it was> no big deal when I tried before. > > So what are your thoughts?> > Jackie>

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Does he have a garage that is heated by any chance? She could stay in there at

night. We took in one of the strays that are around here and he never messed on

the floors. He was about 4-5 mo old. Why don't people take care of their

animals? It makes me so mad. We at times have had OVER 20 strays that were

dropped off between our 3 houses. People think cause you live out in the country

that you can take care of every stray that is dropped of. My aunt is currently

buying the cat food for the strays. We buy 40# about once a month.

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> Dilemma

>

> Hey everyone,.when don't I have a problem? Lol., but this time it isn't

> about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep started coming over

> and

> my husband Steve brought her in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes

> to

> snuggle and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to be close

> to

> me. I don't mind it, but now whenever we go in or out she darts in and

> wants

> to stay inside all the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him

> his

> cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he couldn't find her she was

> probably at our house. He just lives across the street. Small

> neighborhood,

> 7 houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting him know, and

> said

> since he got a new dog [min pin] Julep doesn't seem to like it very much,

> and she is afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside at

> night.

>

>

>

> Well she was in our house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to

> let

> her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So my dilemma is its

> cold

> outside, in the low 20's, and I feel so bad about making her go outside.

> She

> has pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at night I don't

> know

> how she will fair in these low temps. I would keep her in but I have no

> potty box, or food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and if she

> was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So I'm not sure if she would

> use a

> potty box if we got one, and I can't have her going in my house. I don't

> even think we should feed her, but I worry she might not be eating if

> that

> dog is around. He didn't seem to be too worried about her, and I don't

> even

> know how old she is. She acts loved starved, and I am just besides myself

> with worry that she is hanging out here all the time now, and I feel

> awful

> when we have to put her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn't

> mind keeping her if he isn't going to take care of her.

>

> I just don't know what to do. He's a pretty nice guy, but he works early

> morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home she is here wanting

> in.

> It's like she just won't go TO HER home now. I'm pretty sure she'll be

> okay

> if it wasn't so cold, but while the temps are low I sure don't want her

> to

> get sick. I know I need to talk to Amos again, but he just acted like it

> was

> no big deal when I tried before.

>

> So what are your thoughts?

>

> Jackie

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Does he have a garage that is heated by any chance? She could stay in there at

night. We took in one of the strays that are around here and he never messed on

the floors. He was about 4-5 mo old. Why don't people take care of their

animals? It makes me so mad. We at times have had OVER 20 strays that were

dropped off between our 3 houses. People think cause you live out in the country

that you can take care of every stray that is dropped of. My aunt is currently

buying the cat food for the strays. We buy 40# about once a month.Hugsnne

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> Dilemma

>

> Hey everyone,.when don't I have a problem? Lol., but this time it isn't

> about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep started coming over

> and

> my husband Steve brought her in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes

> to

> snuggle and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to be close

> to

> me. I don't mind it, but now whenever we go in or out she darts in and

> wants

> to stay inside all the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him

> his

> cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he couldn't find her she was

> probably at our house. He just lives across the street. Small

> neighborhood,

> 7 houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting him know, and

> said

> since he got a new dog [min pin] Julep doesn't seem to like it very much,

> and she is afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside at

> night.

>

>

>

> Well she was in our house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to

> let

> her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So my dilemma is its

> cold

> outside, in the low 20's, and I feel so bad about making her go outside.

> She

> has pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at night I don't

> know

> how she will fair in these low temps. I would keep her in but I have no

> potty box, or food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and if she

> was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So I'm not sure if she would

> use a

> potty box if we got one, and I can't have her going in my house. I don't

> even think we should feed her, but I worry she might not be eating if

> that

> dog is around. He didn't seem to be too worried about her, and I don't

> even

> know how old she is. She acts loved starved, and I am just besides myself

> with worry that she is hanging out here all the time now, and I feel

> awful

> when we have to put her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn't

> mind keeping her if he isn't going to take care of her.

>

> I just don't know what to do. He's a pretty nice guy, but he works early

> morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home she is here wanting

> in.

> It's like she just won't go TO HER home now. I'm pretty sure she'll be

> okay

> if it wasn't so cold, but while the temps are low I sure don't want her

> to

> get sick. I know I need to talk to Amos again, but he just acted like it

> was

> no big deal when I tried before.

>

> So what are your thoughts?

>

> Jackie

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That is a dilemma, Jackie. Is there a warm place she can get into, like the garage? That way she could come and go. And I think I would go ahead and feed her.Enjoy the love from the kitty! SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, December 6, 2011 2:18 AM Subject: Dilemma

Hey everyone,…when don’t I have a problem? Lol…, but this time it isn’t about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep started coming over and my husband Steve brought her in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes to snuggle and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to be close to me. I don’t mind it, but now whenever we go in or out she darts in and wants to stay inside all the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him his cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he couldn’t find her she was probably at our house. He just lives across the street. Small neighborhood, 7 houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting him know, and said since he got a new dog [min pin] Julep doesn’t seem to like it very much, and she is afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside

at night. Well she was in our house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to let her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So my dilemma is its cold outside, in the low 20’s, and I feel so bad about making her go outside. She has pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at night I don’t know how she will fair in these low temps. I would keep her in but I have no potty box, or food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and if she was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So I’m not sure if she would use a potty box if we got one, and I can’t have her going in my house. I don’t even think we should feed her, but I worry she might not be eating if that dog is around. He didn’t seem to be too

worried about her, and I don’t even know how old she is. She acts loved starved, and I am just besides myself with worry that she is hanging out here all the time now, and I feel awful when we have to put her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn’t mind keeping her if he isn’t going to take care of her. I just don’t know what to do. He’s a pretty nice guy, but he works early morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home she is here wanting in. It’s like she just won’t go TO HER home now. I’m pretty sure she’ll be okay if it wasn’t so cold, but while the temps are low I sure don’t want her to get sick. I know I need to talk to Amos again, but he just acted like it was no big deal when I tried before.

So what are your thoughts?Jackie

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Cats are pretty resourceful and will use their wiles to get what they want. If this cat is technically an indoor/outdoor cat, which it seems like Julep is, from what you have written, You can have a tub of dirt in place. To help the get understand that the dirt is for potty, a little bit of ammonia can be rubbed inside the tub. It should work in a pinch until something more appropriate is arranged. Even if you had a regular cat litter box and the appropriate cat litter, rubbing a bit of ammonia on the inside of the box will help send a message to the cat that this is an appropriate place to potty. That has worked with all cats that I have owned. Donna in WA

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Cats are pretty resourceful and will use their wiles to get what they want. If this cat is technically an indoor/outdoor cat, which it seems like Julep is, from what you have written, You can have a tub of dirt in place. To help the get understand that the dirt is for potty, a little bit of ammonia can be rubbed inside the tub. It should work in a pinch until something more appropriate is arranged. Even if you had a regular cat litter box and the appropriate cat litter, rubbing a bit of ammonia on the inside of the box will help send a message to the cat that this is an appropriate place to potty. That has worked with all cats that I have owned. Donna in WA

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I'd get a litter box and use the

ammonia trick Donna sent. And/or put food/water in dishes outside

so at least you know she's getting food.

Hey everyone,…when

don’t I have a problem? Lol…, but this time it isn’t

about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep

started coming over and my husband Steve brought her

in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes to snuggle

and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to

be close to me. I don’t mind it, but now whenever we

go in or out she darts in and wants to stay inside all

the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him

his cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he

couldn’t find her she was probably at our house. He

just lives across the street. Small neighborhood, 7

houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting

him know, and said since he got a new dog [min pin]

Julep doesn’t seem to like it very much, and she is

afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside

at night.

Well she was in our

house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to let

her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So

my dilemma is its cold outside, in the low 20’s, and I

feel so bad about making her go outside. She has

pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at

night I don’t know how she will fair in these low

temps. I would keep her in but I have no potty box, or

food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and

if she was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So

I’m not sure if she would use a potty box if we got

one, and I can’t have her going in my house. I don’t

even think we should feed her, but I worry she might

not be ea ting if that dog is around. He didn’t seem

to be too worried about her, and I don’t even know how

old she is. She acts loved starved, and I am just

besides myself with worry that she is hanging out here

all the time now, and I feel awful when we have to put

her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn’t

mind keeping her if he isn’t going to take care of

her.

I just don’t know what

to do. He’s a pretty nice guy, but he works early

morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home

she is here wanting in. It’s like she just won’t go TO

HER home now. I’m pretty sure she’ll be okay if it

wasn’t so cold, but while the temps are low I sure

don’t want her to get sick. I know I need to talk to

Amos again, but he just acted like it was no big deal

when I tried before.

So what are your

thoughts?

Jackie

[Guest guest]

I'd get a litter box and use the

ammonia trick Donna sent. And/or put food/water in dishes outside

so at least you know she's getting food.

Hey everyone,…when

don’t I have a problem? Lol…, but this time it isn’t

about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep

started coming over and my husband Steve brought her

in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes to snuggle

and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to

be close to me. I don’t mind it, but now whenever we

go in or out she darts in and wants to stay inside all

the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him

his cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he

couldn’t find her she was probably at our house. He

just lives across the street. Small neighborhood, 7

houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting

him know, and said since he got a new dog [min pin]

Julep doesn’t seem to like it very much, and she is

afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside

at night.

Well she was in our

house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to let

her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So

my dilemma is its cold outside, in the low 20’s, and I

feel so bad about making her go outside. She has

pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at

night I don’t know how she will fair in these low

temps. I would keep her in but I have no potty box, or

food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and

if she was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So

I’m not sure if she would use a potty box if we got

one, and I can’t have her going in my house. I don’t

even think we should feed her, but I worry she might

not be ea ting if that dog is around. He didn’t seem

to be too worried about her, and I don’t even know how

old she is. She acts loved starved, and I am just

besides myself with worry that she is hanging out here

all the time now, and I feel awful when we have to put

her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn’t

mind keeping her if he isn’t going to take care of

her.

I just don’t know what

to do. He’s a pretty nice guy, but he works early

morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home

she is here wanting in. It’s like she just won’t go TO

HER home now. I’m pretty sure she’ll be okay if it

wasn’t so cold, but while the temps are low I sure

don’t want her to get sick. I know I need to talk to

Amos again, but he just acted like it was no big deal

when I tried before.

So what are your

thoughts?

Jackie

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Gee, Jackie...that's a tough one. I'd try and set up a litter box right next to your front door (inside and/or outside) and see if she'll 'go'. I totally understand your not wanting her to freeze...and very much get about not stinking up your house if she can't be litter trained. I think your neighbor is just too damn cavalier about the whole thing; why, he's practically neglectful of her. Such a shame. I would be inclined to talk to a vet about housetraining and see if they have any bright ideas. Good luck on this and let us know how it goes, ok, my friend?love to you, your family and furry pals.Subject: DilemmaTo: MSersLife Date: Tuesday, December 6, 2011, 9:18 AM

Hey everyone,…when don’t I have a problem? Lol…, but this time it isn’t about me. About a month ago our neighbors cat Julep started coming over and my husband Steve brought her in to say HI! She is very loving, and likes to snuggle and be scratched. She especially likes me and wants to be close to me. I don’t mind it, but now whenever we go in or out she darts in and wants to stay inside all the time. I talked with her owner [Amos] and told him his cat has adopted us and wanted him to know if he couldn’t find her she was probably at our house. He just lives across the street. Small neighborhood, 7 houses only. He laughed and said thank you for letting him know, and said since he got a new dog [min pin] Julep doesn’t seem to like it very much, and she is afraid of the dog. He says he tries to put her inside at night.

Well she was in our house tonight until about 11pm, and then we had to let her out, but I think Amos had already gone to bed. So my dilemma is its cold outside, in the low 20’s, and I feel so bad about making her go outside. She has pretty thick fur. But if she is use to staying in at night I don’t know how she will fair in these low temps. I would keep her in but I have no potty box, or food for her. I asked him about her potty habits and if she was boxed trained, and he said not quite. So I’m not sure if she would use a potty box if we got one, and I can’t have her going in my house. I don’t even think we should feed her, but I worry she might not be eating if that dog is around. He didn’t seem to be too worried about her, and I don’t even know how old she is. She acts loved

starved, and I am just besides myself with worry that she is hanging out here all the time now, and I feel awful when we have to put her out. If she was potty trained properly I wouldn’t mind keeping her if he isn’t going to take care of her. I just don’t know what to do. He’s a pretty nice guy, but he works early morning til about 4 pm, and when my hubby gets home she is here wanting in. It’s like she just won’t go TO HER home now. I’m pretty sure she’ll be okay if it wasn’t so cold, but while the temps are low I sure don’t want her to get sick. I know I need to talk to Amos again, but he just acted like it was no big deal when I tried before. So what are your thoughts?Jackie