Sharon.....RE: Frustrated! :-)

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The worse thing about being out here is the ride in to the nearest town, and the next one where my Dr. is. Its only a 35 min drive, but I have problems with spatial orientation, and freeways drive me crazy. I always think someone is coming into my lane. We’ve had too many accidents where it was the other drivers fault, so I am so nervous where there are areas where drivers drive fast. Steve doesn’t have the quickest reflexes either so I am at his mercy to see and stop in time. Can’t tell you how many times he’s almost run into the car ahead or ran a red light or stop sign. If I don’t yell for him to stop I shudder at the outcome. So if we lived closer in there wouldn’t be very far to travel. I know accidents can happen anywhere, but I think it’s mostly where the cars can go the fastest, and that’s the freeways from where we live to get to the towns. We would be closer to the kids, except Tina’s family, but they have been talking about moving to the beach. That’s about 1-1/2 hrs from us. So mainly it’s the familiarity of this house that make the kids feel secure and safe that has me rethinking a move to a new place. I do have a neighbor up the street that I was thinking of asking her if she would want to clean my house. I think when I had the chance to move to an area that met my needs and didn’t take it, its too late now. So we’ll probably just stay here. Unless something changes when Steve retires in 2 years. Hugs Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of SharonSent: Monday, August 15, 2011 2:18 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Frustrated! :-) I think you already feel the best thing is to stay where you are. How far out are you? Have you tried to find cleaning help where you are now? I know what you mean abut wanting the grandkids (and Nugget:) to feel safe and secure and have the idea that " all is well " . hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Monday, August 15, 2011 1:04 AMSubject: Frustrated! :-) Hey everyone,……this weekend was a little stressful, but not too bad. I have been so sleepy, and felt like I slept Sat. away. Today Sunday wasn’t too bad. Legs are a little more painful again, but the weather is changing and I attribute to higher pain levels to that. But as my subject says I am frustrated. This is why……as I have talked about this many times I have been wanting to move closer into a town where there is more to offer me disability ways. Out here in the sticks there isn’t programs or even help that want to come out this far. I need house cleaning, and a house that is handicap friendly. We could remodel this place to accommodate my needs, or we could find a home closer to Steve’s work. The problem is with the way the housing market is we wouldn’t get what our house is really worth if we tried to sell, so we thought we would rent it out. They have rental agencies that do all the screening and preparations for a modest fee. But then we would need to find a place that would be set up to meet my needs, and I thought we found a manufactured home in the park where Steve’s sister lives, but he went over there today, and there’s just too much to do to get it handicap friendly. I am beginning to realize that unless you have a MFH made to specifications to accommodate your disabilities most of them are not. Too narrow of doors for a wide wheelchair, and tiny showers and garden tubs [really small], and if we bought one that needed work done then we might as well just stay here. So my frustration comes in mostly with trying to make up my mind what I want to give up? Closer in to amenities and Dr’s, where I could hopefully get out more, but not have the living areas fit my disability needs. Or stay out here where we’ve been here for 10 yrs, and little by little remodel this place into what I need. Like there would be plenty room for a walk in bath tub in one of the bathrooms, and a walk in shower too. But if we stay out here we give up close amenities. I don’t go out very much, and have gotten use to being by myself most of the time, and like it better now. Mainly because I don’t feel very well very often to have people over, and it all falls on Steve to get the house cleaned. I think I can get a housekeeper to come here, so that might not be an issue, but they would have to come on the weekend as I won’t have someone here by myself. The other pro’s for staying here is this is the house that my grandchildren are excited to come to, and are familiar with. Its like a safe zone for them. I had that at my grandmas when I was growing up, and it was my fondest memories. So I am torn to take that away from them. Heck says even Nugget gets excited when they come out here and he recognizes the area. Lol… another plus is we wouldn’t have any restrictions on how big a dog or how many we can have here. Plus we have a huge lake if we ever were out of power and the well pumps went out. Had to do that one winter and Steve braved the embankment to get us water for flushing, ect. We have a fireplace too, and a large yard for storage. Lol.. sounds like I am talking myself into staying here. I think because in the back of my mind I have been wanting to move closer in for a long time, but I never could convince Steve to go for it. If we would have moved before the housing market went TU, then we would have gotten a nice little profit from the sale. Plus I was still mobile enough I know I would have gotten out more then. So maybe I just need to let go of what could have been, and concentrate on doing what we can do here until Steve can retire in a couple years, then he would be home all the time. So what do any of you think? Thanks for taking the time to read this and letting me talk it thru. Hugs and love, Jackie

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I have this same vision thing - I even think stationary objects are going

to hit us! - and can barely stand the 10 mile ride to town...

You should talk to that lady down the street! These days, almost

everybody could use a little extra work/money...

T

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Frustrated! :-)

 

Hey everyone,……this weekend was a little stressful, but not too bad. I have

been so sleepy, and felt like I slept Sat. away. Today Sunday wasn’t too

bad. Legs are a little more painful again, but the weather is changing and I

attribute to higher pain levels to that. But as my subject says I am

frustrated. This is why……as I have talked about this many times I have been

wanting to move closer into a town where there is more to offer me

disability ways. Out here in the sticks there isn’t programs or even help

that want to come out this far. I need house cleaning, and a house that is

handicap friendly. We could remodel this place to accommodate my needs, or

we could find a home closer to Steve’s work. The problem is with the way the

housing market is we wouldn’t get what our house is really worth if we tried

to sell, so we thought we would rent it out. They have rental agencies that

do all the screening and preparations for a modest fee. But then we would

need to find a place that would be set up to meet my needs, and I thought we

found a manufactured home in the park where Steve’s sister lives, but he

went over there today, and there’s just too much to do to get it handicap

friendly. I am beginning to realize that unless you have a MFH made to

specifications to accommodate your disabilities most of them are not. Too

narrow of doors for a wide wheelchair, and tiny showers and garden tubs

[really small], and if we bought one that needed work done then we might as

well just stay here.

 

So my frustration comes in mostly with trying to make up my mind what I want

to give up? Closer in to amenities and Dr’s, where I could hopefully get out

more, but not have the living areas fit my disability needs. Or stay out

here where we’ve been here for 10 yrs, and little by little remodel this

place into what I need. Like there would be plenty room for a walk in bath

tub in one of the bathrooms, and a walk in shower too. But if we stay out

here we give up close amenities.

I don’t go out very much, and have gotten use to being by myself most of the

time, and like it better now. Mainly because I don’t feel very well very

often to have people over, and it all falls on Steve to get the house

cleaned. I think I can get a housekeeper to come here, so that might not be

an issue, but they would have to come on the weekend as I won’t have someone

here by myself.

The other pro’s for staying here is this is the house that my grandchildren

are excited to come to, and are familiar with. Its like a safe zone for

them. I had that at my grandmas when I was growing up, and it was my fondest

memories. So I am torn to take that away from them. Heck says even

Nugget gets excited when they come out here and he recognizes the area. Lol…

another plus is we wouldn’t have any restrictions on how big a dog or how

many we can have here. Plus we have a huge lake if we ever were out of power

and the well pumps went out. Had to do that one winter and Steve braved the

embankment to get us water for flushing, ect. We have a fireplace too, and a

large yard for storage.

Lol.. sounds like I am talking myself into staying here. I think because in

the back of my mind I have been wanting to move closer in for a long time,

but I never could convince Steve to go for it. If we would have moved before

the housing market went TU, then we would have gotten a nice little profit

from the sale. Plus I was still mobile enough I know I would have gotten out

more then. So maybe I just need to let go of what could have been, and

concentrate on doing what we can do here until Steve can retire in a couple

years, then he would be home all the time.

So what do any of you think? Thanks for taking the time to read this and

letting me talk it thru.

Hugs and love, Jackie