Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

[Guest guest]

I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives.

I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good.

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait

To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on.

Hugs, Jackie

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem

..I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately.

I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp).

Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage.

And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live". Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us. My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit.  But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain.  Sighs from Jackie L From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives. I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good. Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on. Hugs, Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem .I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately. I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp). Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage. And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live " . Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

No no no...I said we

will NOT have to deal with them forever.

 

Nawwwww,

I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend

to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve

is always telling me to not care so much about other

people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause

just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix.

I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba

shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this

the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help

me/us.

 

My

husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really

good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling

so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage

I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives

him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve

brought it up before he even lost the weight how it

didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled

wife, and he could be out doing things and living a

more satisfying life without me. He always said no he

didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the

weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow.

Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me

worried that he might find someone even accidently.

He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns

aren’t without some merit.  But then again maybe it’s

just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being

paranoid? It might help if I could bathe, and have my

hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get

out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain. 

Sighs

from Jackie L

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf

Of Catharine Hunter

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

I remember how hurt you were

on your anniversary Jackie.  I would be too but

then I'm also a Leo.  I don't know why I'm feeling

this way.  Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs

albeit each keeping our own homes.  But I know the

part of me that's a little frightened is

insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt.  You know

the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? 

Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're

going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the

rest of our lives.

 

I know I need 's help for

some things I just can't physically do but knowing

that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind

of good.

 

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13

.. hugs, Cait

 

From: Jackie

Hanan

To: MSersLife

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PM

Subject: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

Never

too old for romance! Not laughing

either. Steve couldn’t think of one

thing romantic to get me for our 40th

anniversary, even though we DO have a

song. I said couldn’t you have thought

of maybe a music box [which I collect],

or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set

the table with candle light, and a red

rose? I think he just thinks of our

relationship as him being my caretaker,

and companion, but not intimate. Seems

like when the sex stopped the romance

died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo],

and it really hurt me to think he didn’t

care enough to try and make that big of

an anniversary special.  L I

feel myself pulling away so my

expectations won’t be anything more from

now on.

Hugs,

Jackie

 

From: MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On

Behalf Of xstitcher

Sent: Monday, August 29, 2011

8:57 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: My Update

& a problem

 

..I went over to

's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser,

Jr's cocker spaniel so could go

golfing in a local tournament.  That

meant nobody went to court for Jr and

he didn't get out )).  Most likely

he'll get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately. 

 

I can't remember

when I came home but it was with a

kidney infection.  So I've been

basically drowsing, reading and

drinking water water water.  It's

definitely not cystits but more like

pylitis (sp). 

 

Anyway that's not

my problem. Lately I've done a bit of

introspection (me too Jackie) and I

realize I'm trying to push

away. At the same time, I worry about

the future and being alone.  I also

realize that in some ways I need him

and he needs me.  And that scares the

wits out of me.  The feeling needed

part I mean which was sadly lacking in

my marriage. 

 

And unconsciously

I have an 'our song' like a goofy

teenager.  Don't laugh but it's Trisha

Yearwood's 'How do I live".  Geesh

aren't I too old for these kind of

feelings?????

 

 

[Guest guest]

No no no...I said we

will NOT have to deal with them forever.

 

Nawwwww,

I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend

to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve

is always telling me to not care so much about other

people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause

just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix.

I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba

shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this

the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help

me/us.

 

My

husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really

good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling

so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage

I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives

him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve

brought it up before he even lost the weight how it

didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled

wife, and he could be out doing things and living a

more satisfying life without me. He always said no he

didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the

weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow.

Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me

worried that he might find someone even accidently.

He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns

aren’t without some merit.  But then again maybe it’s

just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being

paranoid? It might help if I could bathe, and have my

hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get

out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain. 

Sighs

from Jackie L

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf

Of Catharine Hunter

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

I remember how hurt you were

on your anniversary Jackie.  I would be too but

then I'm also a Leo.  I don't know why I'm feeling

this way.  Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs

albeit each keeping our own homes.  But I know the

part of me that's a little frightened is

insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt.  You know

the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? 

Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're

going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the

rest of our lives.

 

I know I need 's help for

some things I just can't physically do but knowing

that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind

of good.

 

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13

.. hugs, Cait

 

From: Jackie

Hanan

To: MSersLife

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PM

Subject: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

Never

too old for romance! Not laughing

either. Steve couldn’t think of one

thing romantic to get me for our 40th

anniversary, even though we DO have a

song. I said couldn’t you have thought

of maybe a music box [which I collect],

or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set

the table with candle light, and a red

rose? I think he just thinks of our

relationship as him being my caretaker,

and companion, but not intimate. Seems

like when the sex stopped the romance

died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo],

and it really hurt me to think he didn’t

care enough to try and make that big of

an anniversary special.  L I

feel myself pulling away so my

expectations won’t be anything more from

now on.

Hugs,

Jackie

 

From: MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On

Behalf Of xstitcher

Sent: Monday, August 29, 2011

8:57 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: My Update

& a problem

 

..I went over to

's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser,

Jr's cocker spaniel so could go

golfing in a local tournament.  That

meant nobody went to court for Jr and

he didn't get out )).  Most likely

he'll get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately. 

 

I can't remember

when I came home but it was with a

kidney infection.  So I've been

basically drowsing, reading and

drinking water water water.  It's

definitely not cystits but more like

pylitis (sp). 

 

Anyway that's not

my problem. Lately I've done a bit of

introspection (me too Jackie) and I

realize I'm trying to push

away. At the same time, I worry about

the future and being alone.  I also

realize that in some ways I need him

and he needs me.  And that scares the

wits out of me.  The feeling needed

part I mean which was sadly lacking in

my marriage. 

 

And unconsciously

I have an 'our song' like a goofy

teenager.  Don't laugh but it's Trisha

Yearwood's 'How do I live".  Geesh

aren't I too old for these kind of

feelings?????

 

 

[Guest guest]

WHEW! I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least I have some hope that one of the things I battle will end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m 61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but enough is enough ya know. Lol….Hugs Jackie J From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem No no no...I said we will NOT have to deal with them forever. Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us. My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain. Sighs from Jackie L From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives. I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good. Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on. Hugs, Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem .I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately. I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp). Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage. And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live " . Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

WHEW! I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least I have some hope that one of the things I battle will end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m 61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but enough is enough ya know. Lol….Hugs Jackie J From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem No no no...I said we will NOT have to deal with them forever. Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us. My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain. Sighs from Jackie L From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives. I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good. Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on. Hugs, Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem .I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately. I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp). Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage. And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live " . Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

WHEW! I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least I have some hope that one of the things I battle will end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m 61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but enough is enough ya know. Lol….Hugs Jackie J From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem No no no...I said we will NOT have to deal with them forever. Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us. My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain. Sighs from Jackie L From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives. I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good. Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on. Hugs, Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem .I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately. I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp). Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage. And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live " . Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

STILL NOT???? OMG  woman!!!! I was

over and done with before 50, unless of course you count the

year-and-1/2 long period (double meaning on the word "period") I

had while Rob had Robbin...which has Not returned, BTW...

 

WHEW!

I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine

having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least

I have some hope that one of the things I battle will

end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m

61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is

going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but

enough is enough ya know. Lol….

Hugs

Jackie J

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf

Of Akiba

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

No no no...I said we will NOT have

to deal with them forever.

 

Nawwwww,

I just think we are passionate about life, and we

tend to take things deeper maybe than other

people. Steve is always telling me to not care so

much about other people, but I just can’t help it.

AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of

hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been

my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for

saying we will have to deal with this the REST of

our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us.

 

My

husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking

really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have

been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time

in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me

for someone that gives him more attention in ways

I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even

lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he

was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could

be out doing things and living a more satisfying

life without me. He always said no he didn’t want

that, but that was before he lost the weight, and

felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with

the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried

that he might find someone even accidently. He’s

had women come on to him before, so my concerns

aren’t without some merit.  But then again maybe

it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just

being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe,

and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once

in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in

so much pain. 

Sighs

from Jackie L

 

From: MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of Catharine Hunter

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and

feelings........RE: My Update & a

problem

 

I remember how hurt you

were on your anniversary Jackie.  I would be

too but then I'm also a Leo.  I don't know why

I'm feeling this way.  Afterall we've been

together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own

homes.  But I know the part of me that's a

little frightened is insecurity and fear that

I'll get hurt.  You know the 'should I leave

him before he leaves me' bit?  Or maybe stupid

hormones since Akiba says we're going to have

to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our

lives.

 

I know I need 's help

for some things I just can't physically do but

knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way,

feels kind of good.

 

Geesh, sounds like I'm a

13 .. hugs, Cait

 

From:

Jackie Hanan

To: MSersLife

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22

PM

Subject: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

Never

too old for romance! Not laughing

either. Steve couldn’t think of one

thing romantic to get me for our 40th

anniversary, even though we DO have

a song. I said couldn’t you have

thought of maybe a music box [which

I collect], or a CD of romantic

songs? Or even set the table with

candle light, and a red rose? I

think he just thinks of our

relationship as him being my

caretaker, and companion, but not

intimate. Seems like when the sex

stopped the romance died. I’m a very

romantic person, [Leo], and it

really hurt me to think he didn’t

care enough to try and make that big

of an anniversary special.  L I feel myself pulling away so my

expectations won’t be anything more

from now on.

Hugs,

Jackie

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of xstitcher

Sent: Monday, August 29,

2011 8:57 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: My

Update & a problem

 

..I went over

to 's to babysit Bert aka

Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so

could go golfing in a local

tournament.  That meant nobody

went to court for Jr and he didn't

get out )).  Most likely he'll

get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately. 

 

I can't

remember when I came home but it

was with a kidney infection.  So

I've been basically drowsing,

reading and drinking water water

water.  It's definitely not

cystits but more like pylitis

(sp). 

 

Anyway that's

not my problem. Lately I've done a

bit of introspection (me too

Jackie) and I realize I'm trying

to push away. At the same

time, I worry about the future and

being alone.  I also realize that

in some ways I need him and he

needs me.  And that scares the

wits out of me.  The feeling

needed part I mean which was sadly

lacking in my marriage. 

 

And

unconsciously I have an 'our song'

like a goofy teenager.  Don't

laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's

'How do I live".  Geesh aren't I

too old for these kind of

feelings?????

 

 

[Guest guest]

STILL NOT???? OMG  woman!!!! I was

over and done with before 50, unless of course you count the

year-and-1/2 long period (double meaning on the word "period") I

had while Rob had Robbin...which has Not returned, BTW...

 

WHEW!

I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine

having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least

I have some hope that one of the things I battle will

end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m

61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is

going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but

enough is enough ya know. Lol….

Hugs

Jackie J

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf

Of Akiba

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

No no no...I said we will NOT have

to deal with them forever.

 

Nawwwww,

I just think we are passionate about life, and we

tend to take things deeper maybe than other

people. Steve is always telling me to not care so

much about other people, but I just can’t help it.

AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of

hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been

my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for

saying we will have to deal with this the REST of

our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us.

 

My

husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking

really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have

been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time

in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me

for someone that gives him more attention in ways

I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even

lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he

was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could

be out doing things and living a more satisfying

life without me. He always said no he didn’t want

that, but that was before he lost the weight, and

felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with

the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried

that he might find someone even accidently. He’s

had women come on to him before, so my concerns

aren’t without some merit.  But then again maybe

it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just

being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe,

and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once

in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in

so much pain. 

Sighs

from Jackie L

 

From: MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of Catharine Hunter

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and

feelings........RE: My Update & a

problem

 

I remember how hurt you

were on your anniversary Jackie.  I would be

too but then I'm also a Leo.  I don't know why

I'm feeling this way.  Afterall we've been

together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own

homes.  But I know the part of me that's a

little frightened is insecurity and fear that

I'll get hurt.  You know the 'should I leave

him before he leaves me' bit?  Or maybe stupid

hormones since Akiba says we're going to have

to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our

lives.

 

I know I need 's help

for some things I just can't physically do but

knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way,

feels kind of good.

 

Geesh, sounds like I'm a

13 .. hugs, Cait

 

From:

Jackie Hanan

To: MSersLife

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22

PM

Subject: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

Never

too old for romance! Not laughing

either. Steve couldn’t think of one

thing romantic to get me for our 40th

anniversary, even though we DO have

a song. I said couldn’t you have

thought of maybe a music box [which

I collect], or a CD of romantic

songs? Or even set the table with

candle light, and a red rose? I

think he just thinks of our

relationship as him being my

caretaker, and companion, but not

intimate. Seems like when the sex

stopped the romance died. I’m a very

romantic person, [Leo], and it

really hurt me to think he didn’t

care enough to try and make that big

of an anniversary special.  L I feel myself pulling away so my

expectations won’t be anything more

from now on.

Hugs,

Jackie

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of xstitcher

Sent: Monday, August 29,

2011 8:57 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: My

Update & a problem

 

..I went over

to 's to babysit Bert aka

Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so

could go golfing in a local

tournament.  That meant nobody

went to court for Jr and he didn't

get out )).  Most likely he'll

get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately. 

 

I can't

remember when I came home but it

was with a kidney infection.  So

I've been basically drowsing,

reading and drinking water water

water.  It's definitely not

cystits but more like pylitis

(sp). 

 

Anyway that's

not my problem. Lately I've done a

bit of introspection (me too

Jackie) and I realize I'm trying

to push away. At the same

time, I worry about the future and

being alone.  I also realize that

in some ways I need him and he

needs me.  And that scares the

wits out of me.  The feeling

needed part I mean which was sadly

lacking in my marriage. 

 

And

unconsciously I have an 'our song'

like a goofy teenager.  Don't

laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's

'How do I live".  Geesh aren't I

too old for these kind of

feelings?????

 

 

[Guest guest]

STILL NOT???? OMG  woman!!!! I was

over and done with before 50, unless of course you count the

year-and-1/2 long period (double meaning on the word "period") I

had while Rob had Robbin...which has Not returned, BTW...

 

WHEW!

I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine

having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least

I have some hope that one of the things I battle will

end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m

61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is

going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but

enough is enough ya know. Lol….

Hugs

Jackie J

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf

Of Akiba

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

No no no...I said we will NOT have

to deal with them forever.

 

Nawwwww,

I just think we are passionate about life, and we

tend to take things deeper maybe than other

people. Steve is always telling me to not care so

much about other people, but I just can’t help it.

AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of

hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been

my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for

saying we will have to deal with this the REST of

our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us.

 

My

husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking

really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have

been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time

in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me

for someone that gives him more attention in ways

I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even

lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he

was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could

be out doing things and living a more satisfying

life without me. He always said no he didn’t want

that, but that was before he lost the weight, and

felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with

the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried

that he might find someone even accidently. He’s

had women come on to him before, so my concerns

aren’t without some merit.  But then again maybe

it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just

being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe,

and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once

in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in

so much pain. 

Sighs

from Jackie L

 

From: MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of Catharine Hunter

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and

feelings........RE: My Update & a

problem

 

I remember how hurt you

were on your anniversary Jackie.  I would be

too but then I'm also a Leo.  I don't know why

I'm feeling this way.  Afterall we've been

together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own

homes.  But I know the part of me that's a

little frightened is insecurity and fear that

I'll get hurt.  You know the 'should I leave

him before he leaves me' bit?  Or maybe stupid

hormones since Akiba says we're going to have

to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our

lives.

 

I know I need 's help

for some things I just can't physically do but

knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way,

feels kind of good.

 

Geesh, sounds like I'm a

13 .. hugs, Cait

 

From:

Jackie Hanan

To: MSersLife

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22

PM

Subject: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

 

Never

too old for romance! Not laughing

either. Steve couldn’t think of one

thing romantic to get me for our 40th

anniversary, even though we DO have

a song. I said couldn’t you have

thought of maybe a music box [which

I collect], or a CD of romantic

songs? Or even set the table with

candle light, and a red rose? I

think he just thinks of our

relationship as him being my

caretaker, and companion, but not

intimate. Seems like when the sex

stopped the romance died. I’m a very

romantic person, [Leo], and it

really hurt me to think he didn’t

care enough to try and make that big

of an anniversary special.  L I feel myself pulling away so my

expectations won’t be anything more

from now on.

Hugs,

Jackie

 

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of xstitcher

Sent: Monday, August 29,

2011 8:57 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: My

Update & a problem

 

..I went over

to 's to babysit Bert aka

Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so

could go golfing in a local

tournament.  That meant nobody

went to court for Jr and he didn't

get out )).  Most likely he'll

get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately. 

 

I can't

remember when I came home but it

was with a kidney infection.  So

I've been basically drowsing,

reading and drinking water water

water.  It's definitely not

cystits but more like pylitis

(sp). 

 

Anyway that's

not my problem. Lately I've done a

bit of introspection (me too

Jackie) and I realize I'm trying

to push away. At the same

time, I worry about the future and

being alone.  I also realize that

in some ways I need him and he

needs me.  And that scares the

wits out of me.  The feeling

needed part I mean which was sadly

lacking in my marriage. 

 

And

unconsciously I have an 'our song'

like a goofy teenager.  Don't

laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's

'How do I live".  Geesh aren't I

too old for these kind of

feelings?????

 

 

[Guest guest]

Well ladies... I went through menopause with no problems at all. I guess I had hot flashes but I don't recall it as being bad. Maybe my MS brain has erased that memory for me:) lol I am 60 and have been done for years. My last "monthly" was when I had the car wreck. That was the first time in over a year. So it's been since August 2002 for me. My only downside is that I'm getting a few whiskers on my chin. Stupid!hugs to each of you SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and

beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:41 PMSubject: RE: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us. My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the

first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain. Sighs from Jackie L From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives. I know I need 's help for some things I just can't

physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good. Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a

problem Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special.

L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on. Hugs, Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of

xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem .I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately. I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp). Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me.

The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage. And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live". Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

But somebody here said it happens after I asked my old dr where I was suddenly getting hot flashes again. He said it just happens. If I weren't this tired I'd go read the old messages. Btw Jackie, you're still not even in meno at 61???? Good for you bones and uh other things ... hugs, Cait

To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 11:25 PMSubject: RE: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

WHEW! I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least I have some hope that one of the things I battle will end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m 61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but enough is enough ya know. Lol….

Hugs Jackie J

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

No no no...I said we will NOT have to deal with them forever.

Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us.

My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could

bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain.

Sighs from Jackie L

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives.

I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good.

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait

To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on.

Hugs, Jackie

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem

..I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately.

I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp).

Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage.

And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live". Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

But somebody here said it happens after I asked my old dr where I was suddenly getting hot flashes again. He said it just happens. If I weren't this tired I'd go read the old messages. Btw Jackie, you're still not even in meno at 61???? Good for you bones and uh other things ... hugs, Cait

To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 11:25 PMSubject: RE: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

WHEW! I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least I have some hope that one of the things I battle will end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m 61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but enough is enough ya know. Lol….

Hugs Jackie J

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

No no no...I said we will NOT have to deal with them forever.

Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us.

My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could

bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain.

Sighs from Jackie L

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives.

I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good.

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait

To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on.

Hugs, Jackie

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem

..I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately.

I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp).

Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage.

And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live". Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

But somebody here said it happens after I asked my old dr where I was suddenly getting hot flashes again. He said it just happens. If I weren't this tired I'd go read the old messages. Btw Jackie, you're still not even in meno at 61???? Good for you bones and uh other things ... hugs, Cait

To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 11:25 PMSubject: RE: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

WHEW! I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least I have some hope that one of the things I battle will end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m 61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but enough is enough ya know. Lol….

Hugs Jackie J

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of AkibaSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

No no no...I said we will NOT have to deal with them forever.

Nawwwww, I just think we are passionate about life, and we tend to take things deeper maybe than other people. Steve is always telling me to not care so much about other people, but I just can’t help it. AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for saying we will have to deal with this the REST of our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us.

My husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me for someone that gives him more attention in ways I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could be out doing things and living a more satisfying life without me. He always said no he didn’t want that, but that was before he lost the weight, and felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried that he might find someone even accidently. He’s had women come on to him before, so my concerns aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just being paranoid? It might help if I could

bathe, and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in so much pain.

Sighs from Jackie L

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of Catharine HunterSent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes. But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives.

I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good.

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait

To: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22 PMSubject: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

Never too old for romance! Not laughing either. Steve couldn’t think of one thing romantic to get me for our 40th anniversary, even though we DO have a song. I said couldn’t you have thought of maybe a music box [which I collect], or a CD of romantic songs? Or even set the table with candle light, and a red rose? I think he just thinks of our relationship as him being my caretaker, and companion, but not intimate. Seems like when the sex stopped the romance died. I’m a very romantic person, [Leo], and it really hurt me to think he didn’t care enough to try and make that big of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my expectations won’t be anything more from now on.

Hugs, Jackie

From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of xstitcherSent: Monday, August 29, 2011 8:57 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: My Update & a problem

..I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow unfortunately.

I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp).

Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage.

And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live". Geesh aren't I too old for these kind of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

I did - my mom is 78, and still has occasional hot flashes.

Of course your mileage may vary! :-D

T

in WY

Practical Blackwork Designs

http://practicalblackwork.com

http://practical-blackwork.blogspot.com

" You get a wonderful view from the point of no return... "

My Update & a problem

..I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so

could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr

and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately.

I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've

been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's

definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp).

Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too

Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry

about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him

and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I

mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage.

And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but

it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live " . Geesh aren't I too old for these kind

of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

I did - my mom is 78, and still has occasional hot flashes.

Of course your mileage may vary! :-D

T

in WY

Practical Blackwork Designs

http://practicalblackwork.com

http://practical-blackwork.blogspot.com

" You get a wonderful view from the point of no return... "

My Update & a problem

..I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so

could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr

and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately.

I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've

been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's

definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp).

Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too

Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry

about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him

and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I

mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage.

And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but

it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live " . Geesh aren't I too old for these kind

of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

I did - my mom is 78, and still has occasional hot flashes.

Of course your mileage may vary! :-D

T

in WY

Practical Blackwork Designs

http://practicalblackwork.com

http://practical-blackwork.blogspot.com

" You get a wonderful view from the point of no return... "

My Update & a problem

..I went over to 's to babysit Bert aka Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so

could go golfing in a local tournament. That meant nobody went to court for Jr

and he didn't get out )). Most likely he'll get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately.

I can't remember when I came home but it was with a kidney infection. So I've

been basically drowsing, reading and drinking water water water. It's

definitely not cystits but more like pylitis (sp).

Anyway that's not my problem. Lately I've done a bit of introspection (me too

Jackie) and I realize I'm trying to push away. At the same time, I worry

about the future and being alone. I also realize that in some ways I need him

and he needs me. And that scares the wits out of me. The feeling needed part I

mean which was sadly lacking in my marriage.

And unconsciously I have an 'our song' like a goofy teenager. Don't laugh but

it's Trisha Yearwood's 'How do I live " . Geesh aren't I too old for these kind

of feelings?????

[Guest guest]

Everyone wants to feel needed, and wants to know that if they need someone, that someone will be there.  You don't sound like you're 13, but I say go with that feeling.  :)Tina

 

I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie.  I would be too but then I'm also a Leo.  I don't know why I'm feeling this way.  Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes.  But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt.  You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit?  Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives.

 

I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good.

 

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait

[Guest guest]

Everyone wants to feel needed, and wants to know that if they need someone, that someone will be there.  You don't sound like you're 13, but I say go with that feeling.  :)Tina

 

I remember how hurt you were on your anniversary Jackie.  I would be too but then I'm also a Leo.  I don't know why I'm feeling this way.  Afterall we've been together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own homes.  But I know the part of me that's a little frightened is insecurity and fear that I'll get hurt.  You know the 'should I leave him before he leaves me' bit?  Or maybe stupid hormones since Akiba says we're going to have to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our lives.

 

I know I need 's help for some things I just can't physically do but knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way, feels kind of good.

 

Geesh, sounds like I'm a 13 .. hugs, Cait

[Guest guest]

Wow, Jackie. That's surprising. I am 52, and stopped cycles almost 3 years ago.I hope this resolves soon for you.Have you had your hormones checked?Take care of yourself.love you,KateTo: MSersLife Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 11:52 PMSubject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE: My Update & a problem

STILL NOT???? OMG woman!!!! I was

over and done with before 50, unless of course you count the

year-and-1/2 long period (double meaning on the word "period") I

had while Rob had Robbin...which has Not returned, BTW...

WHEW!

I’m so glad you corrected this as I just can’t imagine

having these symptoms longer than necessary! At least

I have some hope that one of the things I battle will

end soon. I hope sooner than soon, for gosh sakes I’m

61, and still not in menopause!! What the heck is

going on here? Guess it’s good for my bones, but

enough is enough ya know. Lol…. Hugs

Jackie J

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf

Of Akiba

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:59 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

No no no...I said we will NOT have

to deal with them forever.

Nawwwww,

I just think we are passionate about life, and we

tend to take things deeper maybe than other

people. Steve is always telling me to not care so

much about other people, but I just can’t help it.

AND……….Yes menopause just adds another layer of

hormonal angst to the mix. I think that has been

my worse symptom, and Akiba shame on you for

saying we will have to deal with this the REST of

our lives!!! I think NOT! LOL….. God help me/us. My

husband has lost almost 60 lbs, and is looking

really good. He is aging very nicely, and I have

been feeling so old and frumpy, for the first time

in our marriage I feel scared he might leave me

for someone that gives him more attention in ways

I can’t anymore. I’ve brought it up before he even

lost the weight how it didn’t seem fair that he

was “saddled†with a disabled wife, and he could

be out doing things and living a more satisfying

life without me. He always said no he didn’t want

that, but that was before he lost the weight, and

felt like no one would want him anyhow. Now with

the non-anniversary thing, it has got me worried

that he might find someone even accidently. He’s

had women come on to him before, so my concerns

aren’t without some merit. But then again maybe

it’s just my emotions out of whack and I’m just

being paranoid? It might help if I could bathe,

and have my hair fixed and put some makeup on once

in a while. Get out of these sweats, and not be in

so much pain. Sighs

from Jackie L

From: MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of Catharine Hunter

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 5:10 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: Re: Cait and

feelings........RE: My Update & a

problem

I remember how hurt you

were on your anniversary Jackie. I would be

too but then I'm also a Leo. I don't know why

I'm feeling this way. Afterall we've been

together for 8 yrs albeit each keeping our own

homes. But I know the part of me that's a

little frightened is insecurity and fear that

I'll get hurt. You know the 'should I leave

him before he leaves me' bit? Or maybe stupid

hormones since Akiba says we're going to have

to deal with meno symptoms for the rest of our

lives.

I know I need 's help

for some things I just can't physically do but

knowing that he needs me, in an emotional way,

feels kind of good.

Geesh, sounds like I'm a

13 .. hugs, Cait

From:

Jackie Hanan

To: MSersLife

Sent: Tuesday, August 30, 2011 7:22

PM

Subject: Cait and feelings........RE:

My Update & a problem

Never

too old for romance! Not laughing

either. Steve couldn’t think of one

thing romantic to get me for our 40th

anniversary, even though we DO have

a song. I said couldn’t you have

thought of maybe a music box [which

I collect], or a CD of romantic

songs? Or even set the table with

candle light, and a red rose? I

think he just thinks of our

relationship as him being my

caretaker, and companion, but not

intimate. Seems like when the sex

stopped the romance died. I’m a very

romantic person, [Leo], and it

really hurt me to think he didn’t

care enough to try and make that big

of an anniversary special. L I feel myself pulling away so my

expectations won’t be anything more

from now on.

Hugs,

Jackie

From:

MSersLife

[mailto:MSersLife ]

On Behalf Of xstitcher

Sent: Monday, August 29,

2011 8:57 PM

To: MSersLife

Subject: My

Update & a problem

..I went over

to 's to babysit Bert aka

Cruiser, Jr's cocker spaniel so

could go golfing in a local

tournament. That meant nobody

went to court for Jr and he didn't

get out )). Most likely he'll

get out on bail tomorrow

unfortunately.

I can't

remember when I came home but it

was with a kidney infection. So

I've been basically drowsing,

reading and drinking water water

water. It's definitely not

cystits but more like pylitis

(sp).

Anyway that's

not my problem. Lately I've done a

bit of introspection (me too

Jackie) and I realize I'm trying

to push away. At the same

time, I worry about the future and

being alone. I also realize that

in some ways I need him and he

needs me. And that scares the

wits out of me. The feeling

needed part I mean which was sadly

lacking in my marriage.

And

unconsciously I have an 'our song'

like a goofy teenager. Don't

laugh but it's Trisha Yearwood's

'How do I live". Geesh aren't I

too old for these kind of

feelings?????