Sharon.....RE: Prayers please

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Sharon I did a background check on him the other day, and nothing showed up. But I’m not sure how recent those records are. Where would I go to find our state records? I know we have a gov.com, but I’m not sure how to access personal records? She has been going to a counselor for a few months now, and the counselor is giving her advice on how to get along with her husband. I don’t know if they know the whole situation as she has told me. I think she is afraid if she divulges too much they will get the state involved and she’s not sure she’s ready to go there. She’s torn because she feels bad for Christian and taking him away from his father. But what she doesn’t realize the damage he has already done to his son. This is a “little boy†who NEVER should have had children. He teaches Christian stuff that a teenager would think was funny, but it isn’t. its bad habits, and getting his own way. Such a cute little guy but he’s becoming a terror. Its so sad and I was so excited when Tina was able to get pregnant. This is her 3rd marriage and she wasn’t able to conceive with the others, and finally my Dr. put her on medication that regulated her cycles and she was able to get pregnant. Sad it was with this guy. L Hugs, Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of SharonSent: Friday, October 21, 2011 12:18 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Prayers please Another thought Jackie. Does your state have open court records online like we do here in Arizona? If so, please check to see if he has a record. There may be something he is hiding. hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: " MSersLife " <MSersLife >Sent: Friday, October 21, 2011 12:06 PMSubject: Re: Prayers please Would Tina talk to the local domestic violence shelter? They could provide ideas and perhaps some counsel. He may not be hitting her but emotional abuse is still abuse! love SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: MSersLife Sent: Friday, October 21, 2011 12:28 AMSubject: Prayers please Hey everyone,….I’m sorry to bother you with this but you are the only ones I can talk to that aren’t directly connected to my family. I need prayer for my daughter and grandson. They are living in a very mentally unstable abusive home. Tina’s husband hasn’t hit her as far as I know, but I feel its only a matter of time before he gets physically violent. He’s drinking again, and he basically has her and Christian trapped in their home. He threatens her and tells her if she tried to leave he would take Christian and go someplace where she would never see him again. He uses emotional blackmail to control her, and is so verbally abusive. The home is literally a war zone verbally, and my poor little grandson witnesses this on a daily basis. He doesn’t work, so he’s at the house all the time. The car is in his name, and she feels stuck. We told her if she decided to leave him we would come and get her, but he doesn’t have very good feelings towards me so my life would be in danger if she came here. I would almost have to go into hiding with her. Which I would do, but then my husband wouldn’t agree with that. I can’t impress upon him that with my disabilities I would have a hard time defending myself. I don’t know what her husband is capable of doing, but his first wife left at the insistence of her mother. So he blamed everything on her. See the MIL connection. Another MIL taking a wife away. What will it take to tip the scales? He’s already paranoid, possibly schizophrenic with so many more mental problems. Please pray that she and Christian can find a safe haven somewhere and I will be protected too. This is wrecking havoc on my illnesses, and the worry is tearing me up. This is the type of thing that drives me crazy because if I wasn’t sick I would have had my dau and GS out of there 2 years ago. Thanks for your prayers, and being here to share this with you all. Hugs Jackie

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Perhaps talking to the domestic violence hotline or shelter would give her more realistic advice --other than how to get "along" with this guy. Here's a link I found: http://courts.oregon.gov/OJD/OnlineServices/OJIN/index.pageI don't know what is required by the "application" to use the site. Let me know after you go through it all, okay? If you think he could have any federal records let me know. I still have access to federal records from my days at cps. Tina deserves better and so does Christian!hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. From: Jackie H

To: MSersLife Sent: Friday, October 21, 2011 1:04 PMSubject: Sharon.....RE: Prayers please

Sharon I did a background check on him the other day, and nothing showed up. But I’m not sure how recent those records are. Where would I go to find our state records? I know we have a gov.com, but I’m not sure how to access personal records? She has been going to a counselor for a few months now, and the counselor is giving her advice on how to get along with her husband. I don’t know if they know the whole situation as she has told me. I think she is afraid if she divulges too much they will get the state involved and she’s not sure she’s ready

to go there. She’s torn because she feels bad for Christian and taking him away from his father. But what she doesn’t realize the damage he has already done to his son. This is a “little boy†who NEVER should have had children. He teaches Christian stuff that a teenager would think was funny, but it isn’t. its bad habits, and getting his own way. Such a cute little guy but he’s becoming a terror. Its so sad and I was so excited when Tina was able to get pregnant. This is her 3rd marriage and she wasn’t able to conceive with the others, and finally my Dr. put her on medication that regulated her cycles and she was able to get pregnant. Sad it was with this guy. L Hugs, Jackie From: MSersLife [mailto:MSersLife ] On Behalf Of SharonSent: Friday, October 21, 2011 12:18 PMTo: MSersLife Subject: Re: Prayers please Another thought Jackie. Does your state have open court records online like we do here in Arizona? If so, please check to see if he has a record. There may be something he is hiding. hugs SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. To: "MSersLife " <MSersLife >Sent: Friday, October 21, 2011 12:06 PMSubject: Re: Prayers

please Would Tina talk to the local domestic violence shelter? They could provide ideas and perhaps some counsel. He may not be hitting her but emotional abuse is still abuse! love SharonThis email is a natural hand made product. The slight variations in spelling and grammar enhance its individual character and beauty and in no way are to be considered flaws or defects. From: Jackie H

To: MSersLife Sent: Friday, October 21, 2011 12:28 AMSubject: Prayers please Hey everyone,….I’m sorry to bother you with this but you are the only ones I can talk to that aren’t directly connected to my family. I need prayer for my daughter and grandson. They are living in a very mentally unstable abusive home. Tina’s husband hasn’t hit her as far as I know, but I feel its only a matter of time before he gets physically violent. He’s drinking again, and he basically has her and Christian trapped in their home. He threatens her and tells her if

she tried to leave he would take Christian and go someplace where she would never see him again. He uses emotional blackmail to control her, and is so verbally abusive. The home is literally a war zone verbally, and my poor little grandson witnesses this on a daily basis. He doesn’t work, so he’s at the house all the time. The car is in his name, and she feels stuck. We told her if she decided to leave him we would come and get her, but he doesn’t have very good feelings towards me so my life would be in danger if she came here. I would almost have to go into hiding with her. Which I would do, but then my husband wouldn’t agree with that. I can’t impress upon him that with my disabilities I would have a hard time defending myself. I don’t know what her husband is capable of doing,

but his first wife left at the insistence of her mother. So he blamed everything on her. See the MIL connection. Another MIL taking a wife away. What will it take to tip the scales? He’s already paranoid, possibly schizophrenic with so many more mental problems. Please pray that she and Christian can find a safe haven somewhere and I will be protected too. This is wrecking havoc on my illnesses, and the worry is tearing me up. This is the type of thing that drives me crazy because if I wasn’t sick I would have had my dau and GS out of there 2 years ago. Thanks for your prayers, and being here to share this with you all. Hugs Jackie