Re: To Pam...live worth living

[Guest guest]

Hi Pam....

Well your post was over dramatic and you explained what we all feel

or have felt...so you are certainly not alone.

I think one point to make is your life cant be full of joy and

happiness all the time...and whilst you say you have come to turns

with being sick, doesnt mean you cant feel like your life is not

worth living at times....

We all have ups and downs and even spin arounds....but at the end of

the day we are still here because we chose to be.

I am 23 and Have had CFS/FM for 10 years... I didnt even get to do

any of the teenage stuff and now i walk around like a 70 yearold..is

life worth living? probally not...but it could be worse right ?

you have people by your side who love you, if you were a burden they

wouldnt be there...they would have already walked out on you....

they stay because they choose to stay...

take care

Dove..

ok ok i know what your all saying..but I can give advice..doesnt

mean I listen to my own...smile

[Guest guest]

Dear Dove:

Thank you for your kind words. I have responded in the body of the

letter, so scroll on down

> Hi Pam....

>

> Well your post was over dramatic and you explained what we all feel

> or have felt...so you are certainly not alone.

PAM: That's one of the great things about this egroup...I don't feel

alone, I know that between all the members here, there is compassion,

empathy and some great advise. I thank you all.

> I think one point to make is your life cant be full of joy and

> happiness all the time...and whilst you say you have come to turns

> with being sick, doesnt mean you cant feel like your life is not

> worth living at times....

PAM: This was a very good point to make, but it seems I still have

some work to do with dealing with a string of bad days. I reach a

point where I am so exhausted emotionally and mentally. That was one

of the surprises I've encountered in the months I've been living with

this: I can - although I would certainly prefer not to - deal with

the physical pain and inability to move around much...but after about

two straight weeks of it, I become depressed because I have no choice

in the matter.

>

> We all have ups and downs and even spin arounds....but at the end

of the day we are still here because we chose to be.

PAM: A very wise and wonderful woman - who was terminally ill at the

time - once told me, " If you can't change the circumstances then all

you can change is your attitude " . Unfortunately, I never asked her

how...but to date I think it's the best advise I ever been given!

>

> I am 23 and Have had CFS/FM for 10 years... I didnt even get to do

> any of the teenage stuff and now i walk around like a 70

yearold..is > life worth living? probally not...but it could be worse

right?

PAM: Absolutely! That is one thing I have learned from this

illness - it can always get worse, which is why most days just being

able to move a bit makes the top of my gratitude list.

> you have people by your side who love you, if you were a burden

>they wouldn't be there...they would have already walked out on

>you.... they stay because they choose to stay...

PAM: I did have a discussion with my 18 year old this morning. I

asked him how my illness was effecting his life. His reply was

almost funny. He said, " Mom, I have the only mother in the world who

has teenager friends who visit their " mom " in her bedroom. It's

really kinda cool! "

His said this without hesitation, and it did make me realize that

perhaps I am more " useful " than I think. Thank you for reminding me.

>

>

> take care

> Dove..

>

> ok ok i know what your all saying..but I can give advice..doesnt

> mean I listen to my own...smile

PAM: Does this mean I don't have to listen to it either???!!! jk