Guest guest Posted May 21, 2002 Report Share Posted May 21, 2002 Hello Everyone, I'll tell you my story, My girlfriend has Fibromyalgia, she's has known about it for over a year now. While my best friend has CFS. Hes known for quite sometime but its not very intense. Her's is very intense. Currently she works two jobs and has a 2 year old son. So for her its very hard. I joined this list to understand both of these things so I can help my girlfriend and friend out as much as I can but giving them support and info. She suffers pain, often non stop and all throughout her body. Just my touch often bothers her becasue to her it feels cold. At times just trying to hug her hurts. I'm very supportive but she feels guilty because she often goes to bed early. I stay up late alot always have. I do my best to help her. I give her back and body rubs nearly every single day, I try to help her but watching her son as often as I can and force her to take warm baths. Although she doesn't like to take them becasue it hurts to sit in one position like that for so long. Welll thats about it. I hope I can learn a lot from you guys. Thank you AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2002 Report Share Posted May 21, 2002 Welcome- AcumenX : Kyne Bless you for being so supportive. They are both very lucky to have you. And yes you will get alot from this site. My point on her situation - is be careful - 2 jobs and a child !! In my experience pushing so much can only make it worse. And ofcourse spend as much time with the precious child as possible - but really look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing more in the long run. I have had FM/CFIDS for almost 14 years and I to used to go like fighting fire. Nothing could stop me - But the fatigue eventually did. And keep me out of work for 2 years. I retuened for about 2 years and have bottomed out again with pain. FM/CFIDS got worse , much worse. I have barely made it the past year - on & off medical leave, until now - I realize I probably will never go back to work. I only wish I knew 14 years ago - what I know now. For I would have learned to pace myself and slowed down - it might have prevented me from getting this bad. My support goes out to you, Cinda -- In @y..., " Acumen X : Kyne " wrote: > Hello Everyone, > I'll tell you my story, My girlfriend has Fibromyalgia, she's has known about it for over a year now. While my best friend has CFS. Hes known for quite sometime but its not very intense. > Her's is very intense. Currently she works two jobs and has a 2 year old son. So for her its very hard. I joined this list to understand both of these things so I can help my girlfriend and friend out as much as I can but giving them support and info. > She suffers pain, often non stop and all throughout her body. Just my touch often bothers her becasue to her it feels cold. At times just trying to hug her hurts. I'm very supportive but she feels guilty because she often goes to bed early. I stay up late alot always have. I do my best to help her. I give her back and body rubs nearly every single day, I try to help her but watching her son as often as I can and force her to take warm baths. Although she doesn't like to take them becasue it hurts to sit in one position like that for so long. > Welll thats about it. I hope I can learn a lot from you guys. Thank you > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2002 Report Share Posted May 21, 2002 Welcome- AcumenX : Kyne Bless you for being so supportive. They are both very lucky to have you. And yes you will get alot from this site. My point on her situation - is be careful - 2 jobs and a child !! In my experience pushing so much can only make it worse. And ofcourse spend as much time with the precious child as possible - but really look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing more in the long run. I have had FM/CFIDS for almost 14 years and I to used to go like fighting fire. Nothing could stop me - But the fatigue eventually did. And keep me out of work for 2 years. I retuened for about 2 years and have bottomed out again with pain. FM/CFIDS got worse , much worse. I have barely made it the past year - on & off medical leave, until now - I realize I probably will never go back to work. I only wish I knew 14 years ago - what I know now. For I would have learned to pace myself and slowed down - it might have prevented me from getting this bad. My support goes out to you, Cinda -- In @y..., " Acumen X : Kyne " wrote: > Hello Everyone, > I'll tell you my story, My girlfriend has Fibromyalgia, she's has known about it for over a year now. While my best friend has CFS. Hes known for quite sometime but its not very intense. > Her's is very intense. Currently she works two jobs and has a 2 year old son. So for her its very hard. I joined this list to understand both of these things so I can help my girlfriend and friend out as much as I can but giving them support and info. > She suffers pain, often non stop and all throughout her body. Just my touch often bothers her becasue to her it feels cold. At times just trying to hug her hurts. I'm very supportive but she feels guilty because she often goes to bed early. I stay up late alot always have. I do my best to help her. I give her back and body rubs nearly every single day, I try to help her but watching her son as often as I can and force her to take warm baths. Although she doesn't like to take them becasue it hurts to sit in one position like that for so long. > Welll thats about it. I hope I can learn a lot from you guys. Thank you > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 21, 2002 Report Share Posted May 21, 2002 Welcome- AcumenX : Kyne Bless you for being so supportive. They are both very lucky to have you. And yes you will get alot from this site. My point on her situation - is be careful - 2 jobs and a child !! In my experience pushing so much can only make it worse. And ofcourse spend as much time with the precious child as possible - but really look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing more in the long run. I have had FM/CFIDS for almost 14 years and I to used to go like fighting fire. Nothing could stop me - But the fatigue eventually did. And keep me out of work for 2 years. I retuened for about 2 years and have bottomed out again with pain. FM/CFIDS got worse , much worse. I have barely made it the past year - on & off medical leave, until now - I realize I probably will never go back to work. I only wish I knew 14 years ago - what I know now. For I would have learned to pace myself and slowed down - it might have prevented me from getting this bad. My support goes out to you, Cinda -- In @y..., " Acumen X : Kyne " wrote: > Hello Everyone, > I'll tell you my story, My girlfriend has Fibromyalgia, she's has known about it for over a year now. While my best friend has CFS. Hes known for quite sometime but its not very intense. > Her's is very intense. Currently she works two jobs and has a 2 year old son. So for her its very hard. I joined this list to understand both of these things so I can help my girlfriend and friend out as much as I can but giving them support and info. > She suffers pain, often non stop and all throughout her body. Just my touch often bothers her becasue to her it feels cold. At times just trying to hug her hurts. I'm very supportive but she feels guilty because she often goes to bed early. I stay up late alot always have. I do my best to help her. I give her back and body rubs nearly every single day, I try to help her but watching her son as often as I can and force her to take warm baths. Although she doesn't like to take them becasue it hurts to sit in one position like that for so long. > Welll thats about it. I hope I can learn a lot from you guys. Thank you > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2002 Report Share Posted May 22, 2002 >>My point on her situation - is be careful - 2 jobs and a child !! In my experience pushing so much can only make it worse The problem is, its what she needs to do. There's not much choice in the matter. I'm doing what I can to help her out. >>but really look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing more in the long run. I'm deeply in love with her, have been for a long time. You know what they say, " love is about sarcfice " . I'm taking steps into helping her. At this point we are quite serious. I've been considering moving in with her so we can split the bills and she won't need to work her second job. Hopfully that will provide a little time every day for her to have a moment to sit down and relax. AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Re: Helping my friends Welcome- AcumenX : Kyne Bless you for being so supportive. They are both very lucky to have you. And yes you will get alot from this site. My point on her situation - is be careful - 2 jobs and a child !! In my experience pushing so much can only make it worse. And ofcourse spend as much time with the precious child as possible - but really look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing more in the long run. I have had FM/CFIDS for almost 14 years and I to used to go like fighting fire. Nothing could stop me - But the fatigue eventually did. And keep me out of work for 2 years. I retuened for about 2 years and have bottomed out again with pain. FM/CFIDS got worse , much worse. I have barely made it the past year - on & off medical leave, until now - I realize I probably will never go back to work. I only wish I knew 14 years ago - what I know now. For I would have learned to pace myself and slowed down - it might have prevented me from getting this bad. My support goes out to you, Cinda -- In @y..., " Acumen X : Kyne " wrote: > Hello Everyone, > I'll tell you my story, My girlfriend has Fibromyalgia, she's has known about it for over a year now. While my best friend has CFS. Hes known for quite sometime but its not very intense. > Her's is very intense. Currently she works two jobs and has a 2 year old son. So for her its very hard. I joined this list to understand both of these things so I can help my girlfriend and friend out as much as I can but giving them support and info. > She suffers pain, often non stop and all throughout her body. Just my touch often bothers her becasue to her it feels cold. At times just trying to hug her hurts. I'm very supportive but she feels guilty because she often goes to bed early. I stay up late alot always have. I do my best to help her. I give her back and body rubs nearly every single day, I try to help her but watching her son as often as I can and force her to take warm baths. Although she doesn't like to take them becasue it hurts to sit in one position like that for so long. > Welll thats about it. I hope I can learn a lot from you guys. Thank you > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2002 Report Share Posted May 22, 2002 Hi there! I think what you are doing is FANTASTIC. It's nice to hear about someone WILLING to take up the slack. So many times , people do that but complain in the process or come back with comments like ..... " How hard was that to do? " What may be simple for the average person to do, is sometimes a real challenge for US...! I watch my friend wash two cars in one day....I mean Wash with a capital W..........and know I would be in bed for a week attempting one car..... Best Wishes, Marieanne --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2002 Report Share Posted May 22, 2002 I think you are doing a good thing helping like you are! Wish some days I had help like that!! As for 2 jobs it is hard I have done that and had to give up one then lost the other one. I pushed till I couldn't any more hurt so bad!! They are both lucky to have you!! Take care and God Bless You!! shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2002 Report Share Posted May 22, 2002 I think you are doing a good thing helping like you are! Wish some days I had help like that!! As for 2 jobs it is hard I have done that and had to give up one then lost the other one. I pushed till I couldn't any more hurt so bad!! They are both lucky to have you!! Take care and God Bless You!! shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2002 Report Share Posted May 22, 2002 Sounds to me she is a lucky girl to have you. And that you are on the right track when it comes to her welfare. I understand the need to work. Both financially and emotionally. I have battled with this issue for 14 years. You see I am stubborn !!!!! And I willing admit it. I have tried to hang on to the fact that I could continue working, being a wife, a mother, the whole nine years ( or should I say 9000 yards) and fight FM/CFIDS. I have been working since I was 15 ( with some time out to care for my family & me). It was not until this year that I was willing to except that I was only hurting myself by trying to hang on to the way things were and work. This revalation come during a local support group meeting in which my hubby attended with me ( by the way he has been wonderful as well - I don't know where I would be with out or even if I would even BE). He and my Doc lovingly and gently ganged up on me on this issue of denial. And several other members as well. It still took another almost 3 months for me to get out of denial ( it is hard to give up something that you have hung onto for 14 years - the denial not FM/CFIDS for I would greatfully give up FM/CFIDS if I could ). and coming down to the wire on time to go back to work after a leave of absence. I now realize it is impossible for me to work. So if she needs to continue working whether it is 1 or 2 jobs - just be there for her, help her see her limits, love her, and do what you can with out wiping yourself out. Because you are important too. You need to take care of yourself as well. Sincerly, Cinda >(snip) > The problem is, its what she needs to do. There's not much choice in the matter. I'm doing what I can to help her out. > > >>but really > look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing > more in the long run. > > I'm deeply in love with her, have been for a long time. You know what they say, " love is about sarcfice " . > > I'm taking steps into helping her. At this point we are quite serious. I've been considering moving in with her so we can split the bills and she won't need to work her second job. Hopfully that will provide a little time every day for her to have a moment to sit down and relax. > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 22, 2002 Report Share Posted May 22, 2002 Sounds to me she is a lucky girl to have you. And that you are on the right track when it comes to her welfare. I understand the need to work. Both financially and emotionally. I have battled with this issue for 14 years. You see I am stubborn !!!!! And I willing admit it. I have tried to hang on to the fact that I could continue working, being a wife, a mother, the whole nine years ( or should I say 9000 yards) and fight FM/CFIDS. I have been working since I was 15 ( with some time out to care for my family & me). It was not until this year that I was willing to except that I was only hurting myself by trying to hang on to the way things were and work. This revalation come during a local support group meeting in which my hubby attended with me ( by the way he has been wonderful as well - I don't know where I would be with out or even if I would even BE). He and my Doc lovingly and gently ganged up on me on this issue of denial. And several other members as well. It still took another almost 3 months for me to get out of denial ( it is hard to give up something that you have hung onto for 14 years - the denial not FM/CFIDS for I would greatfully give up FM/CFIDS if I could ). and coming down to the wire on time to go back to work after a leave of absence. I now realize it is impossible for me to work. So if she needs to continue working whether it is 1 or 2 jobs - just be there for her, help her see her limits, love her, and do what you can with out wiping yourself out. Because you are important too. You need to take care of yourself as well. Sincerly, Cinda >(snip) > The problem is, its what she needs to do. There's not much choice in the matter. I'm doing what I can to help her out. > > >>but really > look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing > more in the long run. > > I'm deeply in love with her, have been for a long time. You know what they say, " love is about sarcfice " . > > I'm taking steps into helping her. At this point we are quite serious. I've been considering moving in with her so we can split the bills and she won't need to work her second job. Hopfully that will provide a little time every day for her to have a moment to sit down and relax. > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >>I think what you are doing is FANTASTIC. It's nice to hear about someone WILLING to take up the slack. Thanks. Its very hard at times, but its all worth it. I can see the pain she's in and teh disconfort. Its very hard for me emotionally at times because I feel so helpless. Just my touch sometimes hurts her. And sometimes its so hard for her she can't show me the affection that I need. I understand and everything will work out in the end. One step at a time. >>I watch my friend wash two cars in one day....I mean Wash with a capital W..........and know I would be in bed for a week attempting one car..... Its funny that you say this now, I just washed her car inside and out as a suprise to her. You should have seen the smile on her face LOL AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Re: Re: Helping my friends Hi there! I think what you are doing is FANTASTIC. It's nice to hear about someone WILLING to take up the slack. So many times , people do that but complain in the process or come back with comments like ..... " How hard was that to do? " What may be simple for the average person to do, is sometimes a real challenge for US...! I watch my friend wash two cars in one day....I mean Wash with a capital W..........and know I would be in bed for a week attempting one car..... Best Wishes, Marieanne --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >>I think what you are doing is FANTASTIC. It's nice to hear about someone WILLING to take up the slack. Thanks. Its very hard at times, but its all worth it. I can see the pain she's in and teh disconfort. Its very hard for me emotionally at times because I feel so helpless. Just my touch sometimes hurts her. And sometimes its so hard for her she can't show me the affection that I need. I understand and everything will work out in the end. One step at a time. >>I watch my friend wash two cars in one day....I mean Wash with a capital W..........and know I would be in bed for a week attempting one car..... Its funny that you say this now, I just washed her car inside and out as a suprise to her. You should have seen the smile on her face LOL AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Re: Re: Helping my friends Hi there! I think what you are doing is FANTASTIC. It's nice to hear about someone WILLING to take up the slack. So many times , people do that but complain in the process or come back with comments like ..... " How hard was that to do? " What may be simple for the average person to do, is sometimes a real challenge for US...! I watch my friend wash two cars in one day....I mean Wash with a capital W..........and know I would be in bed for a week attempting one car..... Best Wishes, Marieanne --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >>As for 2 jobs it is hard I have done that and had to give up one then lost the other one. I pushed till I couldn't any more hurt so bad!! Yes its very hard for her, she works at a day care monday-thursday and then her full time job friday-sunday (6am-6pm). I'd like her to quit teh first job but she doesn't want to as its where her son goes, she trusts the lady that runs teh place and she doesn't have to pay for daycare since she works there and can be with her son at the same time. But i'm afraid she's going to push herself to far and have a worse flare up. AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Re: Helping my friends I think you are doing a good thing helping like you are! Wish some days I had help like that!! As for 2 jobs it is hard I have done that and had to give up one then lost the other one. I pushed till I couldn't any more hurt so bad!! They are both lucky to have you!! Take care and God Bless You!! shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >>As for 2 jobs it is hard I have done that and had to give up one then lost the other one. I pushed till I couldn't any more hurt so bad!! Yes its very hard for her, she works at a day care monday-thursday and then her full time job friday-sunday (6am-6pm). I'd like her to quit teh first job but she doesn't want to as its where her son goes, she trusts the lady that runs teh place and she doesn't have to pay for daycare since she works there and can be with her son at the same time. But i'm afraid she's going to push herself to far and have a worse flare up. AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Re: Helping my friends I think you are doing a good thing helping like you are! Wish some days I had help like that!! As for 2 jobs it is hard I have done that and had to give up one then lost the other one. I pushed till I couldn't any more hurt so bad!! They are both lucky to have you!! Take care and God Bless You!! shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >>So if she needs to continue working whether it is 1 or 2 jobs - just be there for her, help her see her limits, love her, and do what you can with out wiping yourself out. Because you are important too. You need to take care of yourself as well. I know what you are saying and understand. But sometimes its hard for me to approch her with my problems as she's already under enough stress and pain. I don't want to put more on her shoulders and I don't want to be the " leaf that breaks teh camel's back " AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Re: Helping my friends Sounds to me she is a lucky girl to have you. And that you are on the right track when it comes to her welfare. I understand the need to work. Both financially and emotionally. I have battled with this issue for 14 years. You see I am stubborn !!!!! And I willing admit it. I have tried to hang on to the fact that I could continue working, being a wife, a mother, the whole nine years ( or should I say 9000 yards) and fight FM/CFIDS. I have been working since I was 15 ( with some time out to care for my family & me). It was not until this year that I was willing to except that I was only hurting myself by trying to hang on to the way things were and work. This revalation come during a local support group meeting in which my hubby attended with me ( by the way he has been wonderful as well - I don't know where I would be with out or even if I would even BE). He and my Doc lovingly and gently ganged up on me on this issue of denial. And several other members as well. It still took another almost 3 months for me to get out of denial ( it is hard to give up something that you have hung onto for 14 years - the denial not FM/CFIDS for I would greatfully give up FM/CFIDS if I could ). and coming down to the wire on time to go back to work after a leave of absence. I now realize it is impossible for me to work. So if she needs to continue working whether it is 1 or 2 jobs - just be there for her, help her see her limits, love her, and do what you can with out wiping yourself out. Because you are important too. You need to take care of yourself as well. Sincerly, Cinda >(snip) > The problem is, its what she needs to do. There's not much choice in the matter. I'm doing what I can to help her out. > > >>but really > look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing > more in the long run. > > I'm deeply in love with her, have been for a long time. You know what they say, " love is about sarcfice " . > > I'm taking steps into helping her. At this point we are quite serious. I've been considering moving in with her so we can split the bills and she won't need to work her second job. Hopfully that will provide a little time every day for her to have a moment to sit down and relax. > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >>So if she needs to continue working whether it is 1 or 2 jobs - just be there for her, help her see her limits, love her, and do what you can with out wiping yourself out. Because you are important too. You need to take care of yourself as well. I know what you are saying and understand. But sometimes its hard for me to approch her with my problems as she's already under enough stress and pain. I don't want to put more on her shoulders and I don't want to be the " leaf that breaks teh camel's back " AcumenX : Kyne acumen@... acumenx on AIM www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground Turning VISIONS into REALITY www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Re: Helping my friends Sounds to me she is a lucky girl to have you. And that you are on the right track when it comes to her welfare. I understand the need to work. Both financially and emotionally. I have battled with this issue for 14 years. You see I am stubborn !!!!! And I willing admit it. I have tried to hang on to the fact that I could continue working, being a wife, a mother, the whole nine years ( or should I say 9000 yards) and fight FM/CFIDS. I have been working since I was 15 ( with some time out to care for my family & me). It was not until this year that I was willing to except that I was only hurting myself by trying to hang on to the way things were and work. This revalation come during a local support group meeting in which my hubby attended with me ( by the way he has been wonderful as well - I don't know where I would be with out or even if I would even BE). He and my Doc lovingly and gently ganged up on me on this issue of denial. And several other members as well. It still took another almost 3 months for me to get out of denial ( it is hard to give up something that you have hung onto for 14 years - the denial not FM/CFIDS for I would greatfully give up FM/CFIDS if I could ). and coming down to the wire on time to go back to work after a leave of absence. I now realize it is impossible for me to work. So if she needs to continue working whether it is 1 or 2 jobs - just be there for her, help her see her limits, love her, and do what you can with out wiping yourself out. Because you are important too. You need to take care of yourself as well. Sincerly, Cinda >(snip) > The problem is, its what she needs to do. There's not much choice in the matter. I'm doing what I can to help her out. > > >>but really > look long and hard at working so much - often it will end up costing > more in the long run. > > I'm deeply in love with her, have been for a long time. You know what they say, " love is about sarcfice " . > > I'm taking steps into helping her. At this point we are quite serious. I've been considering moving in with her so we can split the bills and she won't need to work her second job. Hopfully that will provide a little time every day for her to have a moment to sit down and relax. > AcumenX : Kyne > acumen@a... acumenx on AIM > www.acumenstudios.com : the creators underground > Turning VISIONS into REALITY > www.ad3.com : the future of webdesign Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 ^^^^for me to approch her with my problems as she's already under enough stress and pain. I don't want to put more on her shoulders and I don't want to be the " leaf that breaks teh camel's back " > AcumenX : Kyne I know when my hubby is having problems, or a bad day, or just feeling down - I can see it in his eyes. ( I know him better than he does) And when he does not come to me or talk about it - well it hurts (emotionally) more. I know you guys think you are doing the best thing for us, but to me it feels like I am being shut out. I know he is only trying to protect me and not burden me more - but when He does not come to me - I feel out of reach. We may have alot to deal with, but we still want to be a part of our other half's life. Cinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 ^^^^for me to approch her with my problems as she's already under enough stress and pain. I don't want to put more on her shoulders and I don't want to be the " leaf that breaks teh camel's back " > AcumenX : Kyne I know when my hubby is having problems, or a bad day, or just feeling down - I can see it in his eyes. ( I know him better than he does) And when he does not come to me or talk about it - well it hurts (emotionally) more. I know you guys think you are doing the best thing for us, but to me it feels like I am being shut out. I know he is only trying to protect me and not burden me more - but when He does not come to me - I feel out of reach. We may have alot to deal with, but we still want to be a part of our other half's life. Cinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 ^^^^for me to approch her with my problems as she's already under enough stress and pain. I don't want to put more on her shoulders and I don't want to be the " leaf that breaks teh camel's back " > AcumenX : Kyne I know when my hubby is having problems, or a bad day, or just feeling down - I can see it in his eyes. ( I know him better than he does) And when he does not come to me or talk about it - well it hurts (emotionally) more. I know you guys think you are doing the best thing for us, but to me it feels like I am being shut out. I know he is only trying to protect me and not burden me more - but when He does not come to me - I feel out of reach. We may have alot to deal with, but we still want to be a part of our other half's life. Cinda Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >I'm deeply in love with her, have been for a long time. You know what they >say, " love is about sarcfice " . Wow... do you have a brother??? My husband left me. Said he can't deal with my slacking. Problem is, that at the time, I was working 70+ hours a week as an engineer as well as keeping up with the housework, laundry, etc... I can't work at all anymore... I've lost two jobs due to my medical problems in the last 2 years... I'm done... I've had it.. Am now fighting (lawyer by my side) for disability benefits. Kit Rochester, NY _________________________________________________________________ Send and receive Hotmail on your mobile device: http://mobile.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 23, 2002 Report Share Posted May 23, 2002 >I'm deeply in love with her, have been for a long time. You know what they >say, " love is about sarcfice " . Wow... do you have a brother??? My husband left me. Said he can't deal with my slacking. Problem is, that at the time, I was working 70+ hours a week as an engineer as well as keeping up with the housework, laundry, etc... I can't work at all anymore... I've lost two jobs due to my medical problems in the last 2 years... I'm done... I've had it.. Am now fighting (lawyer by my side) for disability benefits. Kit Rochester, NY _________________________________________________________________ Send and receive Hotmail on your mobile device: http://mobile.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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