Fibro Fog & Relationships

[Guest guest]

Hi...

I've been reading a lot of e-mails that have been coming in recently. I've

begun to wonder if a person with fibro in any type of meaningful

relationship (marriage/common law etc), actually has a mate that sticks with

the person ie doesn't divorce or anything like that? In other words dooes

the relationship last?

The other thing I can't seem to find in the archives is " fibrofog " , what is

it?

[Guest guest]

Hello,

You can absolutley have a good relationship even though you have

fibro. I met my husband when we were 18 and we got married when we were 22.

Right before we were married I was probably at my worst health wise. It's

never bothered him because I'm still me whether I'm sick or not. He's amused

by the fibro fog:)

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I don't know about anyone else, but I think I've been very lucky in that I have

a very supportive husband. I think it's very possible for a couple to survive

FM. My husband, , and I met almost two and a half years ago in Toronto (he

had just moved from his home country of Wales, me from the US), and almost

immediately, I got sick. There were nights when the pain was so bad, I couldn't

sleep. He would stay up with me, making up stories, trying to comfort me. Even

today, after being married a year and a half, he still stands by me, even moreso

than he did then if that's possible. He carries me up the stairs when I'm in too

much pain to walk. He does the cleaning when I don't feel well and cooks when I

just can't do it. It isn't easy for him, I know. I get really angry and crabby,

but he's learned to be very patient with me. (Sometimes that drives me crazy,

and I just want to make him angry and fight. I don't succeed very often, though,

but when I do? Well, sometimes it feels good to yell and scream and fight and

get all that anger out.) He goes to all of my appointments with me because I'm

afraid of the doctors; I blame a dentist for my pain today. To add to my

illness, we have struggled a lot, moving from Toronto to Pittsburgh and finally

to here to Connecticut. There were times when we could only afford to eat pasta

every night. I think that struggle brought us closer. We only have each other.

We didn't know anyone in Toronto, and we don't really know anyone in

Connecticut. We spend all of our time together. And we've learned very quickly

how to compromise, how to deal with each other. It's not easy, but I think if

both people are committed to each other, it's possible to make it through and

still have fun and still remain close. It's not easy by any means. The FM is a

challenge, especially on me mentally. I get depressed a lot, and somehow

always keeps a happy face. I know that if I was at my parents' house right now,

instead of with my husband, I would have literally jumped from a bridge by now.

My family has no idea what goes on with me, and even my husband sometimes

forgets. It's easy because he doesn't see it. I have to remind him that I

couldn't get all the laundry done because I hurt too bad all day. I slept or

rested instead. But, unlike my family, sees what I go through and really

has taken the time to learn. Anyway, I'm sorry if any of this doesn't make

sense. I have had a really crappy day! I hope everyone is well, and thanks for

listening. I just found this group yesterday, and to just read the posts makes

me feel not so alone. I don't usually speak up, but when asked about

relationships, I wanted to somehow thank for all he's done for me. Thanks

for listening!

wrote:Hi...

I've been reading a lot of e-mails that have been coming in recently. I've

begun to wonder if a person with fibro in any type of meaningful

relationship (marriage/common law etc), actually has a mate that sticks with

the person ie doesn't divorce or anything like that? In other words dooes

the relationship last?

The other thing I can't seem to find in the archives is " fibrofog " , what is

it?

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[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I guess FibroFog can be explained differently by everyone. For me, it

felt as though I was losing my mind. I felt confused, sometimes lost

my train of thought, even during the middle of a sentence. I thought I

must be going mad. I was very forgetful, which is very unlike me when

I'm " healthy " , and sometimes it was even worse when I had a headache.

It was like my brain was just frozen, without the benefit of eating

ice cream fast!!

As for supportive partners, I am very blessed with a lovely husband of

six years. I met him while I was recuperating from brain surgery, and

while we were dating, I had colon surgery. He knew he was getting a

package with me! LOL He is great. When he is home on the weekends,

(he works nights), he encourages me to stay in bed and rest. He will

take the kids to the park or over to his parents, so I can have some

quiet, restful time at home. He encourages me daily not to

over-do-it, and take things easy. I'm very, very blessed with this

lovely man as my husband and very thankful. I think with most

relationships, you have bumpy spots in the road, and that which

doesn't destroy you, only makes you stronger, or something really

profound like that! LOL

During my treatment, he has become frustrated with my lack of progress

and went to my last doctor appointment. It was great to get his

perspective and point of view. He grilled the doctor and questioned

him extensively. Sometimes I just didn't have the strength or wasn't

thinking clearly, so this really helps.

Okay, enough babble! I hope that you are coping well and that you

too, have a great support system. What part of the country are you

in? is my maiden name!! Please feel free to email me direct.

Wishing you well,

Lynette

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 08/27/2002 10:19:24 PM US Eastern Standard Time,

genoa816@... writes:

> Yes, he does have a brother, but sorry he's married.

>

Dang....I was gett'n excited for a moment...

Allicia

[Guest guest]

wrote:

>>I've been reading a lot of e-mails that have been coming in recently. I've

begun to wonder if a person with fibro in any type of meaningful

relationship (marriage/common law etc), actually has a mate that sticks with

the person ie doesn't divorce or anything like that? In other words dooes

the relationship last?<<

Hi ,

Yes, I have been married for 17 years. When I was finally diagnosed with FMS/CFS

my DH was and is totally supportive. He is " Mr. Wonderful " . He helps me in so

many ways. I am so blessed to have him, although he has Diabetes and high blood

pressure, he never complains if I am too tired to clean the house or cook for

us.

We have been together for 22 years, more than half my life. He is my best

friend, confidante, lover, etc...I feel that we truly can find our soul mate. I

found mine.

Thanks for letting me share.

P.S. Yes, he does have a brother, but sorry he's married.

[Guest guest]

Acumen wrote:

>

> You're life may be harder, but our lives are not easy either. It has to go

both > ways. And if their support and caring dwindles a little, show them how

much you > appricate them, and more likely that not, itll be like it was.

I think you have a good point here, Kyne. Yes, we're the ones who have

lost so much, are in pain, struggle with fatigue, and to do things, but

our spouses/partners/significant others have lost too. They've lost the

person who use to go do things with them, and they may now no longer go

hiking (or whatever) since we can't. They often get stuck doing more of

the physical chores, and have to put up with our emotions too. I try to

let Dane know that I appreciate all he does, but it doesn't hurt to have

a reminder that I should be doing so.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

I'll start with the fibro fog first. I tell people, you know how it is

when it gets so foggy outside you can't even see the house across the

street? That's what fibro fog is like. You have this thick fog inside

your mind that makes it hard to even think. When it strikes, I have an

extra hard time thinking, I'll forget what I'm saying in mid

conversation or even mid sentence. Sometimes I can pick it back up in a

couple of minutes, other times it's gone forever. I can't think of the

right word I want, or I know the word, but by the time it gets to my

mouth, it comes out as a totally different word. I may want to say

" couch " but it will come out as " stove " . Stuff I knew perfectly well

like what my cousin's name is or how to start a car, suddenly is no

longer available to me. I won't have a clue on how to start the car or

what her name is. Then 10 minutes later, I know her name is Anne and

how to start the car. I'll try to reason something out and get stuck

halfway through it, " ok, I want to double the recipe and it calls for 1

3/4 cup flour. So if I double the flour.... ok, I want to double the

recipe, it's 1 3/4 flour. So two of the single cups is 2, how much is

two of 3/4. Ok, I'll start again, I want to double the recipe, it calls

for 1 3/4 flour... " I'm sure there is probably other things I've

forgotten, but that's it in a nutshell for me.

Yes, I have an extremely supportive husband! When I met him, I had

allergies and that was it. Oh, and I developed a bad wrist when we were

just friends. We got married and since then, he has stood by while I

developed (in no particular order) IBS, a bad knee, GERDs, anxiety,

depression, fibro, and asthma. I developed endometriosis while we were

just friends but I didn't know what it was until after we were married.

Because my fatigue is so severe with fibro, he does almost all of the

laundry, cooking (although I've been a bit better with that lately),

cleaning, outside chores, errands to get stuff, and a ton of other

stuff. He sticks by when my temper flares or I get depressed. The one

chore I try to do on a regular basis is cleaning kitty litter because I

know how much he hates it, but when I'm too sick to do it, he does that

one too. In a few months, we'll have been together for 11 years. When

I'm really feeling bad, he'll do whatever I ask him to. I couldn't ask

for a better spouse.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

I'll start with the fibro fog first. I tell people, you know how it is

when it gets so foggy outside you can't even see the house across the

street? That's what fibro fog is like. You have this thick fog inside

your mind that makes it hard to even think. When it strikes, I have an

extra hard time thinking, I'll forget what I'm saying in mid

conversation or even mid sentence. Sometimes I can pick it back up in a

couple of minutes, other times it's gone forever. I can't think of the

right word I want, or I know the word, but by the time it gets to my

mouth, it comes out as a totally different word. I may want to say

" couch " but it will come out as " stove " . Stuff I knew perfectly well

like what my cousin's name is or how to start a car, suddenly is no

longer available to me. I won't have a clue on how to start the car or

what her name is. Then 10 minutes later, I know her name is Anne and

how to start the car. I'll try to reason something out and get stuck

halfway through it, " ok, I want to double the recipe and it calls for 1

3/4 cup flour. So if I double the flour.... ok, I want to double the

recipe, it's 1 3/4 flour. So two of the single cups is 2, how much is

two of 3/4. Ok, I'll start again, I want to double the recipe, it calls

for 1 3/4 flour... " I'm sure there is probably other things I've

forgotten, but that's it in a nutshell for me.

Yes, I have an extremely supportive husband! When I met him, I had

allergies and that was it. Oh, and I developed a bad wrist when we were

just friends. We got married and since then, he has stood by while I

developed (in no particular order) IBS, a bad knee, GERDs, anxiety,

depression, fibro, and asthma. I developed endometriosis while we were

just friends but I didn't know what it was until after we were married.

Because my fatigue is so severe with fibro, he does almost all of the

laundry, cooking (although I've been a bit better with that lately),

cleaning, outside chores, errands to get stuff, and a ton of other

stuff. He sticks by when my temper flares or I get depressed. The one

chore I try to do on a regular basis is cleaning kitty litter because I

know how much he hates it, but when I'm too sick to do it, he does that

one too. In a few months, we'll have been together for 11 years. When

I'm really feeling bad, he'll do whatever I ask him to. I couldn't ask

for a better spouse.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

I'll start with the fibro fog first. I tell people, you know how it is

when it gets so foggy outside you can't even see the house across the

street? That's what fibro fog is like. You have this thick fog inside

your mind that makes it hard to even think. When it strikes, I have an

extra hard time thinking, I'll forget what I'm saying in mid

conversation or even mid sentence. Sometimes I can pick it back up in a

couple of minutes, other times it's gone forever. I can't think of the

right word I want, or I know the word, but by the time it gets to my

mouth, it comes out as a totally different word. I may want to say

" couch " but it will come out as " stove " . Stuff I knew perfectly well

like what my cousin's name is or how to start a car, suddenly is no

longer available to me. I won't have a clue on how to start the car or

what her name is. Then 10 minutes later, I know her name is Anne and

how to start the car. I'll try to reason something out and get stuck

halfway through it, " ok, I want to double the recipe and it calls for 1

3/4 cup flour. So if I double the flour.... ok, I want to double the

recipe, it's 1 3/4 flour. So two of the single cups is 2, how much is

two of 3/4. Ok, I'll start again, I want to double the recipe, it calls

for 1 3/4 flour... " I'm sure there is probably other things I've

forgotten, but that's it in a nutshell for me.

Yes, I have an extremely supportive husband! When I met him, I had

allergies and that was it. Oh, and I developed a bad wrist when we were

just friends. We got married and since then, he has stood by while I

developed (in no particular order) IBS, a bad knee, GERDs, anxiety,

depression, fibro, and asthma. I developed endometriosis while we were

just friends but I didn't know what it was until after we were married.

Because my fatigue is so severe with fibro, he does almost all of the

laundry, cooking (although I've been a bit better with that lately),

cleaning, outside chores, errands to get stuff, and a ton of other

stuff. He sticks by when my temper flares or I get depressed. The one

chore I try to do on a regular basis is cleaning kitty litter because I

know how much he hates it, but when I'm too sick to do it, he does that

one too. In a few months, we'll have been together for 11 years. When

I'm really feeling bad, he'll do whatever I ask him to. I couldn't ask

for a better spouse.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

HI,

Whilst we are on the subject!!

I went to get something from the outside Freezer last night for tea.........

Well a total of 18hrs later, my DH went into the garage to find the freezer door

wide open, and all the food in there we will have to cook and eat ASAP....

Talk about Fibro fog........ DH wasn't too pleased......

Just thought I would share that with you.....

Not just that sometimes I can't remember what we had for tea the night before.

God bless

Hugs

Odette

[Guest guest]

HI,

Whilst we are on the subject!!

I went to get something from the outside Freezer last night for tea.........

Well a total of 18hrs later, my DH went into the garage to find the freezer door

wide open, and all the food in there we will have to cook and eat ASAP....

Talk about Fibro fog........ DH wasn't too pleased......

Just thought I would share that with you.....

Not just that sometimes I can't remember what we had for tea the night before.

God bless

Hugs

Odette

[Guest guest]

HI,

Whilst we are on the subject!!

I went to get something from the outside Freezer last night for tea.........

Well a total of 18hrs later, my DH went into the garage to find the freezer door

wide open, and all the food in there we will have to cook and eat ASAP....

Talk about Fibro fog........ DH wasn't too pleased......

Just thought I would share that with you.....

Not just that sometimes I can't remember what we had for tea the night before.

God bless

Hugs

Odette

Re: Fibro Fog & Relationships

I'll start with the fibro fog first. I tell people, you know how it is

when it gets so foggy outside you can't even see the house across the

street? That's what fibro fog is like. You have this thick fog inside

your mind that makes it hard to even think. When it strikes, I have an

extra hard time thinking, I'll forget what I'm saying in mid

conversation or even mid sentence. Sometimes I can pick it back up in a

couple of minutes, other times it's gone forever. I can't think of the

right word I want, or I know the word, but by the time it gets to my

mouth, it comes out as a totally different word. I may want to say

" couch " but it will come out as " stove " . Stuff I knew perfectly well

like what my cousin's name is or how to start a car, suddenly is no

longer available to me. I won't have a clue on how to start the car or

what her name is. Then 10 minutes later, I know her name is Anne and

how to start the car. I'll try to reason something out and get stuck

halfway through it, " ok, I want to double the recipe and it calls for 1

3/4 cup flour. So if I double the flour.... ok, I want to double the

recipe, it's 1 3/4 flour. So two of the single cups is 2, how much is

two of 3/4. Ok, I'll start again, I want to double the recipe, it calls

for 1 3/4 flour... " I'm sure there is probably other things I've

forgotten, but that's it in a nutshell for me.

Yes, I have an extremely supportive husband! When I met him, I had

allergies and that was it. Oh, and I developed a bad wrist when we were

just friends. We got married and since then, he has stood by while I

developed (in no particular order) IBS, a bad knee, GERDs, anxiety,

depression, fibro, and asthma. I developed endometriosis while we were

just friends but I didn't know what it was until after we were married.

Because my fatigue is so severe with fibro, he does almost all of the

laundry, cooking (although I've been a bit better with that lately),

cleaning, outside chores, errands to get stuff, and a ton of other

stuff. He sticks by when my temper flares or I get depressed. The one

chore I try to do on a regular basis is cleaning kitty litter because I

know how much he hates it, but when I'm too sick to do it, he does that

one too. In a few months, we'll have been together for 11 years. When

I'm really feeling bad, he'll do whatever I ask him to. I couldn't ask

for a better spouse.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

--My husband handles it well. He doesnt expect too much out of me and

helps when he can. He also massages my neck whenever needed which is

quite often. I know I am lucky.

- In @y..., " " wrote:

> Hi...

>

> I've been reading a lot of e-mails that have been coming in

recently. I've

> begun to wonder if a person with fibro in any type of meaningful

> relationship (marriage/common law etc), actually has a mate that

sticks with

> the person ie doesn't divorce or anything like that? In other

words dooes

> the relationship last?

>

> The other thing I can't seem to find in the archives is " fibrofog " ,

what is

> it?

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

--My husband handles it well. He doesnt expect too much out of me and

helps when he can. He also massages my neck whenever needed which is

quite often. I know I am lucky.

- In @y..., " " wrote:

> Hi...

>

> I've been reading a lot of e-mails that have been coming in

recently. I've

> begun to wonder if a person with fibro in any type of meaningful

> relationship (marriage/common law etc), actually has a mate that

sticks with

> the person ie doesn't divorce or anything like that? In other

words dooes

> the relationship last?

>

> The other thing I can't seem to find in the archives is " fibrofog " ,

what is

> it?

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, a relationship can work. My husband is with me

all the way, and in this day and age that is an

accomplishment even without the fibro. I am open and

honest about the way I feel today, and he supports me

through it all. I am sorry I can not give you a magic

formula to help you work it through, but can only say

it can be done. If there is love, it will be done.

(I know its corny, but I believe it.)

As for fibrofog, that means the mental confusion and

concentration problems fibro causes (if you experience

it, you will understand the name. It feels like you

are trying to think through a fog.)

Good luck. Write if you have other questions.

Hugs

Kathy

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Yes, a relationship can work. My husband is with me

all the way, and in this day and age that is an

accomplishment even without the fibro. I am open and

honest about the way I feel today, and he supports me

through it all. I am sorry I can not give you a magic

formula to help you work it through, but can only say

it can be done. If there is love, it will be done.

(I know its corny, but I believe it.)

As for fibrofog, that means the mental confusion and

concentration problems fibro causes (if you experience

it, you will understand the name. It feels like you

are trying to think through a fog.)

Good luck. Write if you have other questions.

Hugs

Kathy

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Yes, a relationship can work. My husband is with me

all the way, and in this day and age that is an

accomplishment even without the fibro. I am open and

honest about the way I feel today, and he supports me

through it all. I am sorry I can not give you a magic

formula to help you work it through, but can only say

it can be done. If there is love, it will be done.

(I know its corny, but I believe it.)

As for fibrofog, that means the mental confusion and

concentration problems fibro causes (if you experience

it, you will understand the name. It feels like you

are trying to think through a fog.)

Good luck. Write if you have other questions.

Hugs

Kathy

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

Hi!!

as for the fog thing...i feel as if i am on the inside of a body that

doesnt quite want to function properly. I fall into walls, misjudge

distances, my coordination sucks while in a fog. I either stumble

over words, stutter, or cant form a word i am thinking...get VERY

tired/exhausted feeling, like my brain is aleep when i dont want it

to be.

Usually the pain of fms is pretty bad (in a flare), but the fibrofog

is the WORST. Usually tho, the fog for me is a precurser to a full

blown flare...i always know one is coming up in the next few days,

when the fog hits!

As for relationships...Ive been married 13 yrs to a wonderful guy!

I was diagnosed a year ago, but had symptoms about 2 yrs ago... went

from a 60+hr a week job, weightlifting, running, very athletic and

always moving to a mass of jello. Along with the now very sedate me,

he has also had to deal with the family income being slashed by 1/2,

family asking and arguing with my treatments, symptoms and " why isnt

she working full time " , taking over some of the domestic duties

(which i used to do all of), and sometimes having to stay home, when

we used to go out " playing " , or having mini vacations. Through it all

he has been a perfect gem! He makes sure I eat, and eat healthily,

makes sure i take my meds on time, rest and also keep the brain

occupied when i get a bit depressed about not working full time(type-

A all the way*grin*).

We met in high school, and i thought, we have basically grown up

together, what if he gets tired of this totally " new " me? But,

growing up togther has its advantages...you become great friends, as

well as in love, so, it IS possible to have a great relationship

with FMS!

Mare

[Guest guest]

Hi!!

as for the fog thing...i feel as if i am on the inside of a body that

doesnt quite want to function properly. I fall into walls, misjudge

distances, my coordination sucks while in a fog. I either stumble

over words, stutter, or cant form a word i am thinking...get VERY

tired/exhausted feeling, like my brain is aleep when i dont want it

to be.

Usually the pain of fms is pretty bad (in a flare), but the fibrofog

is the WORST. Usually tho, the fog for me is a precurser to a full

blown flare...i always know one is coming up in the next few days,

when the fog hits!

As for relationships...Ive been married 13 yrs to a wonderful guy!

I was diagnosed a year ago, but had symptoms about 2 yrs ago... went

from a 60+hr a week job, weightlifting, running, very athletic and

always moving to a mass of jello. Along with the now very sedate me,

he has also had to deal with the family income being slashed by 1/2,

family asking and arguing with my treatments, symptoms and " why isnt

she working full time " , taking over some of the domestic duties

(which i used to do all of), and sometimes having to stay home, when

we used to go out " playing " , or having mini vacations. Through it all

he has been a perfect gem! He makes sure I eat, and eat healthily,

makes sure i take my meds on time, rest and also keep the brain

occupied when i get a bit depressed about not working full time(type-

A all the way*grin*).

We met in high school, and i thought, we have basically grown up

together, what if he gets tired of this totally " new " me? But,

growing up togther has its advantages...you become great friends, as

well as in love, so, it IS possible to have a great relationship

with FMS!

Mare

[Guest guest]

Hi!!

as for the fog thing...i feel as if i am on the inside of a body that

doesnt quite want to function properly. I fall into walls, misjudge

distances, my coordination sucks while in a fog. I either stumble

over words, stutter, or cant form a word i am thinking...get VERY

tired/exhausted feeling, like my brain is aleep when i dont want it

to be.

Usually the pain of fms is pretty bad (in a flare), but the fibrofog

is the WORST. Usually tho, the fog for me is a precurser to a full

blown flare...i always know one is coming up in the next few days,

when the fog hits!

As for relationships...Ive been married 13 yrs to a wonderful guy!

I was diagnosed a year ago, but had symptoms about 2 yrs ago... went

from a 60+hr a week job, weightlifting, running, very athletic and

always moving to a mass of jello. Along with the now very sedate me,

he has also had to deal with the family income being slashed by 1/2,

family asking and arguing with my treatments, symptoms and " why isnt

she working full time " , taking over some of the domestic duties

(which i used to do all of), and sometimes having to stay home, when

we used to go out " playing " , or having mini vacations. Through it all

he has been a perfect gem! He makes sure I eat, and eat healthily,

makes sure i take my meds on time, rest and also keep the brain

occupied when i get a bit depressed about not working full time(type-

A all the way*grin*).

We met in high school, and i thought, we have basically grown up

together, what if he gets tired of this totally " new " me? But,

growing up togther has its advantages...you become great friends, as

well as in love, so, it IS possible to have a great relationship

with FMS!

Mare

[Guest guest]

You can have a good realtionship while having Fibro. Now, unlike most of you,

I'm on the other side of the fence. My girlfriend (good friends before hand for

nearly 10 years) has fibro. I am very caring and supportive.

We run into problems at times. One of the things is, her life is tougher,

with fibro, child, and other things. I understand and accept this. But I have

needs at times too. Make sure when you're with someone, and they are caring and

supportive, that every once in a while you push yourself and show them how much

you appricate them and love them for it. You're life may be harder, but our

lives are not easy either. It has to go both ways. And if their support and

caring dwindles a little, show them how much you appricate them, and more likely

that not, itll be like it was.

kyne

Re: Fibro Fog & Relationships

In a message dated 08/27/2002 10:19:24 PM US Eastern Standard Time,

genoa816@... writes:

> Yes, he does have a brother, but sorry he's married.

>

Dang....I was gett'n excited for a moment...

Allicia

[Guest guest]

Thank You,

I'm glad you understood and took that the right way. My girlfriend goes

through alot and I understand. I give and give and give. I understand she may

not be able to give that much in return but its the little things that help. The

hugs, the thank yous, the nights when she, even though shes so tried will stay

up with me becasue I need her near.

Acumen

Re: Fibro Fog & Relationships

Acumen wrote:

>

> You're life may be harder, but our lives are not easy either. It has to go

both > ways. And if their support and caring dwindles a little, show them how

much you > appricate them, and more likely that not, itll be like it was.

I think you have a good point here, Kyne. Yes, we're the ones who have

lost so much, are in pain, struggle with fatigue, and to do things, but

our spouses/partners/significant others have lost too. They've lost the

person who use to go do things with them, and they may now no longer go

hiking (or whatever) since we can't. They often get stuck doing more of

the physical chores, and have to put up with our emotions too. I try to

let Dane know that I appreciate all he does, but it doesn't hurt to have

a reminder that I should be doing so.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Thank You,

I'm glad you understood and took that the right way. My girlfriend goes

through alot and I understand. I give and give and give. I understand she may

not be able to give that much in return but its the little things that help. The

hugs, the thank yous, the nights when she, even though shes so tried will stay

up with me becasue I need her near.

Acumen

Re: Fibro Fog & Relationships

Acumen wrote:

>

> You're life may be harder, but our lives are not easy either. It has to go

both > ways. And if their support and caring dwindles a little, show them how

much you > appricate them, and more likely that not, itll be like it was.

I think you have a good point here, Kyne. Yes, we're the ones who have

lost so much, are in pain, struggle with fatigue, and to do things, but

our spouses/partners/significant others have lost too. They've lost the

person who use to go do things with them, and they may now no longer go

hiking (or whatever) since we can't. They often get stuck doing more of

the physical chores, and have to put up with our emotions too. I try to

let Dane know that I appreciate all he does, but it doesn't hurt to have

a reminder that I should be doing so.

Darcy

[Guest guest]

Thank You,

I'm glad you understood and took that the right way. My girlfriend goes

through alot and I understand. I give and give and give. I understand she may

not be able to give that much in return but its the little things that help. The

hugs, the thank yous, the nights when she, even though shes so tried will stay

up with me becasue I need her near.

Acumen

Re: Fibro Fog & Relationships

Acumen wrote:

>

> You're life may be harder, but our lives are not easy either. It has to go

both > ways. And if their support and caring dwindles a little, show them how

much you > appricate them, and more likely that not, itll be like it was.

I think you have a good point here, Kyne. Yes, we're the ones who have

lost so much, are in pain, struggle with fatigue, and to do things, but

our spouses/partners/significant others have lost too. They've lost the

person who use to go do things with them, and they may now no longer go

hiking (or whatever) since we can't. They often get stuck doing more of

the physical chores, and have to put up with our emotions too. I try to

let Dane know that I appreciate all he does, but it doesn't hurt to have

a reminder that I should be doing so.

Darcy