Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 Hello there.. I am sorry but I just feel that the doctors are there to help, aid, advise and empathize with your pain and concerns and symptoms. I do not believe when I go to a doctor that I am there to please them. I am there for medical advice. If I am in pain I am in pain and they are going to have to acknowledge it Can I ask what treatments you have received and blood work and diagnosis and what pain medications you are on. The pain can be debilitating, what are they doing for you? Are you sleeping? You sound very pained and discouraged.. If you have pain you have pain, do not deny to please your doctors..they are there to treat and diagnose,,and I think the new age drug of compassion is long gone except for a few What is bothering you the most in regards to your feelings so that maybe we can pull you out of a cycle that is not doing your body or soul very good. Sincerely Anyone Else?? Are there any others who feel like banging their heads against a brick wall????? i know it won't solve anything, but maybe, just maybe, the pain from that would make the pain in my back, shoulders, etc... seem nonexistent. as you can tell, i am having a difficult time right now. i have tried going back to work (part-time) but it is not going as well as i expected. lets face it, it is pushing me backwards. the doctors don't seem to understand this and keep saying two more weeks, but i feel as if i am putting my health in jeopardy and my sanity by trying to prove that i am a superwoman. am i alone with these feelings?? are there others who feel the same at times? i don't know how to express the feelings that i am experiencing and i feel totally confused. i want to return to work, i want to please the doctors, i want to understand this more.....how do you handle others opinions and get past them?? WHY and HOW?? when will it get easier to accept???? SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 Hello there.. I am sorry but I just feel that the doctors are there to help, aid, advise and empathize with your pain and concerns and symptoms. I do not believe when I go to a doctor that I am there to please them. I am there for medical advice. If I am in pain I am in pain and they are going to have to acknowledge it Can I ask what treatments you have received and blood work and diagnosis and what pain medications you are on. The pain can be debilitating, what are they doing for you? Are you sleeping? You sound very pained and discouraged.. If you have pain you have pain, do not deny to please your doctors..they are there to treat and diagnose,,and I think the new age drug of compassion is long gone except for a few What is bothering you the most in regards to your feelings so that maybe we can pull you out of a cycle that is not doing your body or soul very good. Sincerely Anyone Else?? Are there any others who feel like banging their heads against a brick wall????? i know it won't solve anything, but maybe, just maybe, the pain from that would make the pain in my back, shoulders, etc... seem nonexistent. as you can tell, i am having a difficult time right now. i have tried going back to work (part-time) but it is not going as well as i expected. lets face it, it is pushing me backwards. the doctors don't seem to understand this and keep saying two more weeks, but i feel as if i am putting my health in jeopardy and my sanity by trying to prove that i am a superwoman. am i alone with these feelings?? are there others who feel the same at times? i don't know how to express the feelings that i am experiencing and i feel totally confused. i want to return to work, i want to please the doctors, i want to understand this more.....how do you handle others opinions and get past them?? WHY and HOW?? when will it get easier to accept???? SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 Hello there.. I am sorry but I just feel that the doctors are there to help, aid, advise and empathize with your pain and concerns and symptoms. I do not believe when I go to a doctor that I am there to please them. I am there for medical advice. If I am in pain I am in pain and they are going to have to acknowledge it Can I ask what treatments you have received and blood work and diagnosis and what pain medications you are on. The pain can be debilitating, what are they doing for you? Are you sleeping? You sound very pained and discouraged.. If you have pain you have pain, do not deny to please your doctors..they are there to treat and diagnose,,and I think the new age drug of compassion is long gone except for a few What is bothering you the most in regards to your feelings so that maybe we can pull you out of a cycle that is not doing your body or soul very good. Sincerely Anyone Else?? Are there any others who feel like banging their heads against a brick wall????? i know it won't solve anything, but maybe, just maybe, the pain from that would make the pain in my back, shoulders, etc... seem nonexistent. as you can tell, i am having a difficult time right now. i have tried going back to work (part-time) but it is not going as well as i expected. lets face it, it is pushing me backwards. the doctors don't seem to understand this and keep saying two more weeks, but i feel as if i am putting my health in jeopardy and my sanity by trying to prove that i am a superwoman. am i alone with these feelings?? are there others who feel the same at times? i don't know how to express the feelings that i am experiencing and i feel totally confused. i want to return to work, i want to please the doctors, i want to understand this more.....how do you handle others opinions and get past them?? WHY and HOW?? when will it get easier to accept???? SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 I am on disability, and can't stand staying at home so took on a part-time job Monday and Tuesday evening working on stuffing our local newspaper and believe me it is hard. I am hurting and hurt all the time I am doing it. Don't think I will last at it either. I understand your frustration as that is what I am dealing with. I have always worked full time, then this crap. I am trying to get back into working but with all this pain it isn't going to be possible!! Just wanted to let you know I understand!! shirleyl Anyone Else?? Are there any others who feel like banging their heads against a brick wall????? i know it won't solve anything, but maybe, just maybe, the pain from that would make the pain in my back, shoulders, etc... seem nonexistent. as you can tell, i am having a difficult time right now. i have tried going back to work (part-time) but it is not going as well as i expected. lets face it, it is pushing me backwards. the doctors don't seem to understand this and keep saying two more weeks, but i feel as if i am putting my health in jeopardy and my sanity by trying to prove that i am a superwoman. am i alone with these feelings?? are there others who feel the same at times? i don't know how to express the feelings that i am experiencing and i feel totally confused. i want to return to work, i want to please the doctors, i want to understand this more.....how do you handle others opinions and get past them?? WHY and HOW?? when will it get easier to accept???? SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 I am on disability, and can't stand staying at home so took on a part-time job Monday and Tuesday evening working on stuffing our local newspaper and believe me it is hard. I am hurting and hurt all the time I am doing it. Don't think I will last at it either. I understand your frustration as that is what I am dealing with. I have always worked full time, then this crap. I am trying to get back into working but with all this pain it isn't going to be possible!! Just wanted to let you know I understand!! shirleyl Anyone Else?? Are there any others who feel like banging their heads against a brick wall????? i know it won't solve anything, but maybe, just maybe, the pain from that would make the pain in my back, shoulders, etc... seem nonexistent. as you can tell, i am having a difficult time right now. i have tried going back to work (part-time) but it is not going as well as i expected. lets face it, it is pushing me backwards. the doctors don't seem to understand this and keep saying two more weeks, but i feel as if i am putting my health in jeopardy and my sanity by trying to prove that i am a superwoman. am i alone with these feelings?? are there others who feel the same at times? i don't know how to express the feelings that i am experiencing and i feel totally confused. i want to return to work, i want to please the doctors, i want to understand this more.....how do you handle others opinions and get past them?? WHY and HOW?? when will it get easier to accept???? SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 I forgot to add don't go to the doctor to please them, do it for yourself. And if nothing is working tell them it isn't, it is your body and your health not theres!! We all are individuals with different bodies and feelings. We know if we hurt or don't and when something isn't right, so just remember do it for you not them!! shirley Anyone Else?? Are there any others who feel like banging their heads against a brick wall????? i know it won't solve anything, but maybe, just maybe, the pain from that would make the pain in my back, shoulders, etc... seem nonexistent. as you can tell, i am having a difficult time right now. i have tried going back to work (part-time) but it is not going as well as i expected. lets face it, it is pushing me backwards. the doctors don't seem to understand this and keep saying two more weeks, but i feel as if i am putting my health in jeopardy and my sanity by trying to prove that i am a superwoman. am i alone with these feelings?? are there others who feel the same at times? i don't know how to express the feelings that i am experiencing and i feel totally confused. i want to return to work, i want to please the doctors, i want to understand this more.....how do you handle others opinions and get past them?? WHY and HOW?? when will it get easier to accept???? SEND POST TO: fibromyalgia-cfs HOME PAGE:http://www.geocities.com/Heartland/Oaks/7127/fibromyalgia-cfs.html LIST OWNER: " Missy " Parrot004@...> UNSUBSCRIBE:fibromyalgia-cfs-unsubscribe Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 I am sorry you are having a bad time. Acceptance will come. It is hard to go from doing what you want to do to being limited in what you do. You learn with time what your limitations are and when you need to ask for help. You can ask why, but you may never get that answer. Life is very unpredictable. I decided that I had to rely on my believes to get me through this. I have been though some pretty tough times in my life and I'm only 27. I see so many people out there who have it worse than I do. I am thankful that this isn't life threating because I have 4 beautful children and 3 stinky cats that need me. My husband can fend for himself. Back in 2000 we had a scare. Doctors thought my youngest, who was 5 at the time, had stomach cancer. I looked at myself and realized that this is something that isn't going to kill me, but my baby has something worse. I started focusing on the positive. Some day's it's hard to do, but I just give thanks because I could have something much worse. I do have alot of help though. Thankfully my kids are at the ages where they can do chores. They help out so much. They do the dishes, garbage, & dusting. They also sweep the floors when I can't and they get out the swifter thingy and mop the floors. That thing is go cool! You put that little pad on the bottom then squeeze the trigger and cleaner comes out down at the bottom. It's very handy and I think it works great. Oh....my son is fine. Thankfully the only thing wrong with his tummy is acid reflux. He'll be 7 next month. I hope you start feeling better soon and feel free to contact me. ~ AKA: The Babbler --------------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 I completely understand what you are going through. I too went from working full time to a part time job. I can barely make it everyday. Today I am unable to lift my left arm, the pain in my shoulder blade is so bad. I don't usually take any strong meds while I'm at work, but this time I took 1/2 a Robaxin just to ease the pain. I want to quit working so badly. I'm afraid to ask my doctor to put me on disability. Is anyone on disability here in So Cal? I feel like I'm at the end of my rope tonight. I am so miserable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 , I worked 2 years after I was diagnosed...and they were 2 very miserable years. I first went on short term disability (after talking with the company doctor, but it was ultimately my decision) After 6 months, I knew I couldn't go back to work, and I applied for long term disability and SS. IMHO, I think if you feel bad and keep pushing yourself, you don't really get the chance to feel better (even by the slightest bit). I do have the occasional good day, and I don't have the same pain I had when I quit, but I found that with FM, the pain tends to circulate the body. I'm wondering, why would you have to ask your doctor to put you on disability? Isn't it your decision, because you are the only one that can know how much you are able to do and not do. Good luck...I know its a tough decision to make, but only you know if you can handle working. Koala-t hugs, Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 19, 2002 Report Share Posted June 19, 2002 Thank you for the insight. You have given me the reinforcment I need to go see my Dr. You are right, I am the only one who can decide if I can or cannot work. I guess I am just afraid of someone saying NO. My sister-in-law has FMS and she was denied long term disability. That was about 4-5 years ago. I hope more people have comne to recognize FMS/CFS as a real disease. I will make an appointment tomorrow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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