Re: Re: been awhile..........

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hi~ i'm so sorry to hear that your marriage didn't

work out, but i'm so happy that you found someone

else. that's one of my biggest fears, that i'll never

be able to find someone who i'm going to want to spend

the rest of my life with. i fall in love too easy i

think, and i also trust too easy. i've been hurt a

lot in my 21 years and now i'm very cautious as to who

i date or even see. i don't want to put myself on the

line to be hurt again. it's only been 2 months too.

i've been depressed for awhile now. it's hard to

explain to people because they don't know what it's

like. you can't 'just snap out of it' like they tell

you to do. i wouldn't wish one on anyone either, or

any of the illnesses that we have to deal with on a

daily basis. i know that on the outside i may look

fine, maybe a little tired, but inside i feel like i'm

dying, and sometimes want to. i've been anorexic

before and from time to time fall back into those

tendancies. i'm trying to find a support group for

eating disorders but there really aren't any around

this area. i'm hoping that once i'm able to start

school again the university will have one. well,

thanks for replying to my post. i wish you all the

best and i look foward to getting to know you

luv and hugs

ali

--- lamisa1955 la_misa@...> wrote:

>

> > " hello~ i'm finally back. i've been gone for a

> long time so i will

> > introduce myself again to all those who may have

> forgotten or to

> the

> > new members. my name is alison and i have

> > CFS/FMS/arthritis/depression. i live in vermont

> and now am living

> > with my parents. i broke up with my fiance about

> 2 months ago, and

> > it's been rough lately. i've been very depressed

> and in and out of

> > the hospital. "

>

>

> Ali: I am only new to this forum but I've had

> FMS/MPS and Chronic

> Pain for over 10 years. I wanted to reply to your

> message for two

> reasons. I lost my marriage of 25 years, in part,

> due to my health

> and the choices I made about how I dealt with it. I

> can only imagine

> that at 21, losing your fiance, for whatever reason,

> is a difficult

> situation to deal with on top of your medical

> conditions. There are

> many wonderful men out there who see beyond illness

> and the

> limitations of our conditions to the lovely people

> we are inside.

> I've found one and I am sure, that if you just relax

> and let things

> happen, you will too. Trust in yourself!

>

> The second reason I wanted to reply was your mention

> of depression.

> A depressive episode is not a thing I would wish on

> my worst enemy. I

> was in one for over 2 years, not even knowing, at

> times, just how bad

> I was. But with alot of family support, medication,

> a great

> psychiatrist, time and patience, the episode is now

> over. I wanted

> to congratulate you for seeking out a counsellor and

> to let you know

> that although there may be many times when it all

> seems too much to

> cope with, it will pass and you will be able to

> function

> more " normally " in life, taste food, have " real "

> feeling replace the

> numbness inside and see hope in the future.

>

> I wish you luck and look forward to reading your

> posts in here from

> now on...... Lamisa..

>

>

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