Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 Dawn Marie, Hey, what are friends for? I spent all of my growing up years trying to please my folks and that need in me stayed with me into my thirties. My parents were not physical or sexual abusers, but they were so innocent about others who were that I was victimized more than once with no one to come to my rescue. I wasn't believed. I was looked upon as lazy, unambitious (yeah, ME, the girl who worked two careers, adopted four kids, and did it all as a single parent), and a hypochondriacal nut case. My mother made my life miserable through my teens and early twenties by dragging me from one doctor to another for my "weight problem". I saw more than a dozen docs between the ages of 12 and 22, and in the war over my weight I never even won a minor skirmish. A waste of her money and time, and my life. She apologized to me just one day before she died in surgery at the age of 63. I have a lot of the same health problems she did, I just got them a lot earlier in my life because I also inherited my father's side's health problems. Sort of like hitting the genetic jackpot. So, my friend, we all have histories behind us. It's what we do with today that matters, is my strong belief. I falter many times, but in the long run, I am still on course for personal success. That means to me that my spirit will prevail when my body fails. So far, so good. LOL Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 Dawn Marie, Hey, what are friends for? I spent all of my growing up years trying to please my folks and that need in me stayed with me into my thirties. My parents were not physical or sexual abusers, but they were so innocent about others who were that I was victimized more than once with no one to come to my rescue. I wasn't believed. I was looked upon as lazy, unambitious (yeah, ME, the girl who worked two careers, adopted four kids, and did it all as a single parent), and a hypochondriacal nut case. My mother made my life miserable through my teens and early twenties by dragging me from one doctor to another for my "weight problem". I saw more than a dozen docs between the ages of 12 and 22, and in the war over my weight I never even won a minor skirmish. A waste of her money and time, and my life. She apologized to me just one day before she died in surgery at the age of 63. I have a lot of the same health problems she did, I just got them a lot earlier in my life because I also inherited my father's side's health problems. Sort of like hitting the genetic jackpot. So, my friend, we all have histories behind us. It's what we do with today that matters, is my strong belief. I falter many times, but in the long run, I am still on course for personal success. That means to me that my spirit will prevail when my body fails. So far, so good. LOL Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 Dawn Marie, Hey, what are friends for? I spent all of my growing up years trying to please my folks and that need in me stayed with me into my thirties. My parents were not physical or sexual abusers, but they were so innocent about others who were that I was victimized more than once with no one to come to my rescue. I wasn't believed. I was looked upon as lazy, unambitious (yeah, ME, the girl who worked two careers, adopted four kids, and did it all as a single parent), and a hypochondriacal nut case. My mother made my life miserable through my teens and early twenties by dragging me from one doctor to another for my "weight problem". I saw more than a dozen docs between the ages of 12 and 22, and in the war over my weight I never even won a minor skirmish. A waste of her money and time, and my life. She apologized to me just one day before she died in surgery at the age of 63. I have a lot of the same health problems she did, I just got them a lot earlier in my life because I also inherited my father's side's health problems. Sort of like hitting the genetic jackpot. So, my friend, we all have histories behind us. It's what we do with today that matters, is my strong belief. I falter many times, but in the long run, I am still on course for personal success. That means to me that my spirit will prevail when my body fails. So far, so good. LOL Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 Dawn Marie, I used to think that way, too, but I decided it was getting me nowhere, and doing nobody especially ME any good. You know, it doesn't have to be the whole mehgilla when you want to do something with your life. You could start by volunteering one day a week at a local center for the mentally disabled. That would give you a taste of what you want, show you what it is really about, and have you giving of yourself to others...a very fulfilling thing to do. As for your husband's negativity, maybe he is reflecting it back to you? Just a thought. Loving hugs, MM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 24, 2004 Report Share Posted August 24, 2004 Wish I could have a better outlook like you do MM. But all I keep thinking about is that if I would have been raised my a nurturing family, I could have done so much with my life. You know what I mean? How your parents are supposed to recognize your strengths and guide you in the right direction; Well now I think I'm too old and have too many health problems to do the things I should have started a long time ago. My dream job was to work with the mentally challenged, do you know how much schooling that takes? And I already am on disability cause I couldn't physically handle anything more than maybe a part time job. And for some reason, I just can't get it out of my head.... What I was put through growing up. I know I have talents but I don't know what to do with them anymore. Well, anyway, as soon as my fever subsides enough I'll be starting to see a new therapist that I found, cause my old on moved to a faraway location. Maybe he'll do me some good. What doesn't make things easier on me is, even though I have a wonderful husband, he is also VERY negative, about everything, and I try to keep a positive attitude but it's hard to when you are surrounded by negativity all of the time. But we are very happy together and he was still the best thing that ever happened to me. Well, better go for now; Helping a friend fix her computer. Dawn Marie Re: MM - Work Dawn Marie, Hey, what are friends for? I spent all of my growing up years trying to please my folksand that need in me stayed with me into my thirties. My parents were not physical or sexual abusers,but they were so innocent about others who were that I was victimized more than once with no oneto come to my rescue. I wasn't believed. I was looked upon as lazy, unambitious (yeah, ME, the girlwho worked two careers, adopted four kids, and did it all as a single parent), and a hypochondriacalnut case. My mother made my life miserable through my teens and early twenties by dragging mefrom one doctor to another for my "weight problem". I saw more than a dozen docs between theages of 12 and 22, and in the war over my weight I never even won a minor skirmish. A waste ofher money and time, and my life. She apologized to me just one day before she died in surgery atthe age of 63. I have a lot of the same health problems she did, I just got them a lot earlier in mylife because I also inherited my father's side's health problems. Sort of like hitting the genetic jackpot. So, my friend, we all have histories behind us. It's what we do with today that matters, is my strongbelief. I falter many times, but in the long run, I am still on course for personal success. That meansto me that my spirit will prevail when my body fails. So far, so good. LOL Loving hugs, MM "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 Actually I have been thinking about at least doing some volunteer work somewhere, just to get me out of the house. As far as my husband goes, I wish he was just reflecting it back to you but he was always so negative when we met and I was always trying to be positive. I think he actually may have rubbed off on me some and I always hoped that would never happen. But oh well; He's a very kind hearted person and I Love him. Dawn Marie Re: MM - Work Dawn Marie, I used to think that way, too, but I decided it was getting me nowhere, and doing nobodyespecially ME any good. You know, it doesn't have to be the whole mehgilla when you want to dosomething with your life. You could start by volunteering one day a week at a local center for thementally disabled. That would give you a taste of what you want, show you what it is really about,and have you giving of yourself to others...a very fulfilling thing to do. As for your husband's negativity, maybe he is reflecting it back to you? Just a thought. Loving hugs, MM "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 Actually I have been thinking about at least doing some volunteer work somewhere, just to get me out of the house. As far as my husband goes, I wish he was just reflecting it back to you but he was always so negative when we met and I was always trying to be positive. I think he actually may have rubbed off on me some and I always hoped that would never happen. But oh well; He's a very kind hearted person and I Love him. Dawn Marie Re: MM - Work Dawn Marie, I used to think that way, too, but I decided it was getting me nowhere, and doing nobodyespecially ME any good. You know, it doesn't have to be the whole mehgilla when you want to dosomething with your life. You could start by volunteering one day a week at a local center for thementally disabled. That would give you a taste of what you want, show you what it is really about,and have you giving of yourself to others...a very fulfilling thing to do. As for your husband's negativity, maybe he is reflecting it back to you? Just a thought. Loving hugs, MM "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 25, 2004 Report Share Posted August 25, 2004 Actually I have been thinking about at least doing some volunteer work somewhere, just to get me out of the house. As far as my husband goes, I wish he was just reflecting it back to you but he was always so negative when we met and I was always trying to be positive. I think he actually may have rubbed off on me some and I always hoped that would never happen. But oh well; He's a very kind hearted person and I Love him. Dawn Marie Re: MM - Work Dawn Marie, I used to think that way, too, but I decided it was getting me nowhere, and doing nobodyespecially ME any good. You know, it doesn't have to be the whole mehgilla when you want to dosomething with your life. You could start by volunteering one day a week at a local center for thementally disabled. That would give you a taste of what you want, show you what it is really about,and have you giving of yourself to others...a very fulfilling thing to do. As for your husband's negativity, maybe he is reflecting it back to you? Just a thought. Loving hugs, MM "The LUPIES Store" Come check out our store...http://www.cafepress.com/thelupies"The LUPIES Web Page"http://www.itzarion.com/lupusgroup.html"The LUPIES online photo albums!" Check out what your fellow Lupies look like...http://www.picturetrail.com/lupies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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